Kenshinmunac:
Hello nairalanders, good evening to you all.

Please i have a lil issue I need you guys to help me out on.

I Am Quite a young dude, I will be turning 24 this year, I have a gf that I am currently dating, very beautiful lady, chemistry between us is amazing, we understand ourselves perfectly.

My gf is 23, she is a working class lady, I also work as well, my earning a month is very okay, I don't have to tell the exact figures but it's okay to sustain a home comfortably.

I already talked to my gf about the marriage stuff and she said she is very ready to spend her life with me and she is ready to get married to me anytime anyday.

We have barely dated for a month though but believe me guys it's like we have known each other for years, she is so calm and very loving that in a day she calls up to 8 times, we are always talking lol.
She is always there for me, when ever I need her she delivers, she is one of a kind.

But due to the fact we just started dating not too long, we both decided to wait another 6 months before tieing the knot but I kind of feel that this is going a bit tooo fast guys.

so please i need you all to advise me, married couples most especially here, i really love her but I am wondering if i should wait at least a year or more before going ahead with this stuff??

Please no insults Abeg

firstking01:
You are gradually losing the esteem i have for you.

Cutehector:
Why not try to find out her body language towards hard times? Pretend as if you are broke and watch her reaction.. She knows you have a well paid job so she is super willing to marry you ...



Trust me, you never know someone too well... Not matter how long u lived with d person.. So I advise you take your time to know what she is capable of doing, both good and bad

Cutehector:
Why not try to find out her body language towards hard times? Pretend as if you are broke and watch her reaction.. She knows you have a well paid job so she is super willing to marry you ...



Trust me, you never know someone too well... Not matter how long u lived with d person.. So I advise you take your time to know what she is capable of doing, both good and bad

jakandeola:
small boy u tin marrage is about sex

Kenshinmunac:



Ahh elder Kings, why na?

ikombe:
where in this post did he say anything about sex

Kenshinmunac:



This some real talk bro. Thanks! Didn't do wrong coming here, the love no let me they reason all this ones again. I no fit lie you.

Cutehector:
if u want to marry her, its no big deal.. But bfor u do, know her inside out.. I need u to arouse every trait in her to be open...



I was once in ur shoes.. Dis girl just kept on hinting me about we getting married.. So I now had to test her patience . you needed to see d way she insulted me.. I blessed God for not making a mistake .. Someone who always claimed she loves me talked to me anyhow on Fone... My brother.. Love is not enough.. Trust me..


If a girl doesn't respect you, doesn't put ur place as a man, doesn't understand you.. No matter d love she preaches, when love is tested in fire, that which is honest will always stand out.. Cheers

Kenshinmunac:
Hello nairalanders, good evening to you all.

Please i have a lil issue I need you guys to help me out on.

I Am Quite a young dude, I will be turning 24 this year, I have a gf that I am currently dating, very beautiful lady, chemistry between us is amazing, we understand ourselves perfectly.

My gf is 23, she is a working class lady, I also work as well, my earning a month is very okay, I don't have to tell the exact figures but it's okay to sustain a home comfortably.

I already talked to my gf about the marriage stuff and she said she is very ready to spend her life with me and she is ready to get married to me anytime anyday.

We have barely dated for a month though but believe me guys it's like we have known each other for years, she is so calm and very loving that in a day she calls up to 8 times, we are always talking lol.
She is always there for me, when ever I need her she delivers, she is one of a kind.

But due to the fact we just started dating not too long, we both decided to wait another 6 months before tieing the knot but I kind of feel that this is going a bit tooo fast guys.

so please i need you all to advise me, married couples most especially here, i really love her but I am wondering if i should wait at least a year or more before going ahead with this stuff??

Please no insults Abeg

firstking01:
Elder?, oflate people's been calling me that name, i dunno why but i'm still very much young...but on a serious note, your hunt for a gf oflate is becoming something else and now you talking about marriage...when did you find this one that you wanna marry now??

jakandeola:
small boy u tin marrage is about sex

Kenshinmunac:




She is that girl I opened thread about when I see for road with sexy figure, fine face. Fair skinned. When I wan buy phone for of which I already did.

Young03:
Hey op sorry, because she calls u more than 8tyms a day ,u think is love?

My ex used to call me more than 20tyms a day, immediately i lost my shop, she started actin strange

now she no longer pick my calls because, she doesnt see me as before

besides any lady in that age bracket

fear her

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

I know a lot of 24 yr old,that are more mature than some 50 yr olds that I have come across in life.

At 24,you are not young for marriage.

The way a lady is created,Is that they are more mature in thinking than their age,and their male age mates.

So your 23 yr old girlfriend,has the maturity of some one older,which itself is a good thing.

One month dating some one is a short time to decide about marriage.

Some things to think about:

(A)Are you mentally mature?

( B) Have you given this a deep thought?marriage is totally different from dating and or you guys meeting once in a while,or talking on phone.

(C) is your finances in order?that means,do you think your salary or her salary would be enough to take care of you and the kid(s),just in case if God forbid, one of you loses their job?

(D)Are you guys compartable In like 90% of things?which includes spiritual,character,medically and sometimes,but not limited to sexual compartability(you will be surprised what sexually unsatisfied spouses do)?

(E) Have you looked at her family background very well?as a young man,you don't want to start life with a wife,That will bring all her family problems to you for solving. You will solve and train her family members until your old age.

(F)Lastly,the main disadvantage of marrying a young girl,is that after a while,they yearn for that freedom like their mates outside. They start feeling they did not " ENJOY" themselves properly before getting married. And they start feeling trapped in the marriage. And this is why you need to discuss this very part with her.


Goodluck.

firstking01:
Ok, but no come here open thread tell us how you 've found another one o??

tripplephi:
bros bros.... so you are 24 and you think you are ready cos of CHEMISTRY

do you not know that in love there are many COURSES
you may have an "A" in Chemistry dont you know that marriage is an INSTITUTION?

and NO INSTITUTION admits any student on ONE COURSE... rather you must pass at least 6-7 at ONE SITTING...

Sooo what about the Mathematical Statistics of your marriage?

what about Physics?

what about BIOLOGY? do you know if your BLOOD GROUPS are compatible? what about std? or health threats especially with BIRTH?

what of ECONS? You may think that your ECONOMICS as a single is gonna be the same for MARRIAGE BUT YOU WILL BE SHOCKED O....

What about HISTORY? do you her family background Spiritually, traditionally and otherwise? MARRIAGE is not two peeps o its two families

What of GEOGRAPHY? this will determine the soil of your future family...

WHAT of CRS? which of you is more serious spiritually? MARRIAGE is a SPIRITUAL THING O... some peeps bring spiritual enemies into marriage o... so which of you is UP TO THE PRAYER CHALLENGE... i hope its not the woman o... you are to be the HEAD o. AND if you both are not CHRISTIANS... that is a different matter o.

I AM GUESSING PSYCHOLOGY you both are doing well in that COURSE... but what about BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION? in this economy despite the 6 digits you may be earning... BUSINESS IS IMPORTANT o.

guy too many things to consider... ITS NOT NAIRALAND YOU WILL NOW BE COMING TO, COS PEEPS HERE DO NOT CARE... EVERYONE IS MINDING THEIR BUSINESS AND MAY ADVICE YOU WRONGLY... AND THOSE WHO CARE ARE TOO BUSY WITH THEIR LIVES OFFLINE... SO FIND A CHURCH OR A MATURE MARRIAGE COUNSELOR.... cos ONE MONTH and you think you want to marry thats an issue o... ITS NOT LOVE THAT MAKES MARRIAGE WORK O.... peeps who divorce still love each other but cant cope... so what do you think.... MATURITY is not just in good talk... AS LONG AS YOU ARE IN NAIJA the storms ahead must be planned for. YOU NEED A REAL PHYSICAL COUNSELOR TO HELP YOU BOTH..... haste is waste... GIVE EVERYONE TIME AND THEIR TRUE NATURE WILL SHOW... EVEN U. SO WAIT... the girl u are feeling is the right one today may be the wrongest one tomorrow. FIND A COUNSELOR WITH A PROVEN TRACK RECORD IN MARITAL SUCCESS AND GET HELP.... not here where strangers you can not see if they are legit are now advising u. PLS BE WISE....

LuvSwollenPussy:
Forget about your money being enough to sustain a home. There's a popular marriage counsellor named Walter trobisch. Whenever impending couples come to visit him for counselling before tying the nut. He would ask them a simple question...."Have both of you had serious quarrel and misunderstanding before" For many couples, thier answer was always like yours .."we love each other, we dont fight, our chemistry and mathematics is sparkling etc" The man would ask them to get out of his office that he has nothing to counsel them about. He would tell them to go and have issues of quarrel and misunderstanding before they come back to him.

Ponder on that. Thats my advice for a young bro in love.

Kenshinmunac:



Lol yes boss, I am no longer searching, had two gfs bfr. Ended the relationship. She is the only one now, very satisfied with her. Nothing she no get.

On a good day I will post pics here. Although I fear some nl bad belle guys.

newyorks:
give urself some time to clear ur doubt if its infactuation to avoid rushing in.am happy for u to be sincere.

WenysAD:


From what I've read here.....u are simply carried away by maybe looks and d freshness of d relationship. My dear trust me u aren't ready yet cos if u go ahead with d way d tin dey shack u, u will open another thread here and write another tin in no distant time which I don't pray for though. U guys are still young so there shouldn't be a rush. Wish u guys more blissful moments