skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

Better tell ur wife to take dat child to a day care and go get a job. You are spoiling her and she is capitalising on it. Please take charge of your home before you get high bp.
Its ur money use it wisely

[quote author=Cutehector post=54748036]It will correct her senses! Pls go ahead..u have my support! [/quota pls go ahead and give her some punishment but be soft on her BC of the baby.

My broda, na one chance marriage u enta sooo....u cant satisfy ur wife financially wit dis ur little salary because she is d money type...i would advise u talk to her heart to heart, asking her to manage wit u or get a divorce because soonest she will cheat on u because of money...

Moral;
pls felow men dont marry a woman dat cant manage wit u financially!

Oga, sorry to say that unfortunately you did marry a wife material. My wife saves some cash from the little I give her for foodstuff, her upkeep and general home maintenance. Any day she suspects am out of cash, she'll give me from the ones she saved. From same money I give her for her upkeep, she still buys me gifts like boxers and singlets from time to time.
Take your wife through a marriage course once again that's if you ever did that before your marriage to her.

[quote author=mrsfavour post=54909564][/quote]hmm. Ur profile pic tho

Don't punish her... If u do she might get the money somewhere else u won't like.. . Just talk to her

Marriage like every other love relationship shoud be a give and take affair.

I'll give gifts of love to my wife, but not this kind of employer-employee arrangement in her supposed home.

The trend of wives inflating cost of anything,just as Nigerian Senate pads budget have been in Vogue since time immemorial. Most ,if not all does it and it's outright dishonesty.

Now here's another fact, bros,you spoilt wife. And she's gone overboard.

What you need to do henceforth:

1. Keep your financial details private.No more my wife knows how much I'm earning.
2. Cutting her off from financial information includes but not limited to; how much you spare with relatives, family members, including pastors honorarium.
3. Keep making provision for your home, however any expenses outside immediate domestic needs, carry out a follow-up.Keep such details in your diary.Believe me the day you will use it in defense is coming.
4. Talk less when it comes to planning.Evidently your woman came.from an environment where it is believe " a woman is to parasite her man".

It.wont be easy at first, but you will get use to it.That will save you a whole lot of heartache and disappointments from unrealistic expectations about her.

Good luck.

It is time to talk!
heart to heart talk where only one rule applies to both parties:
SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY!!!

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

Mr man. So what do you want us to do for you? Teach you how to run your family?

I believe you guys must have been together a years now and you should be able to communicate with her. So you want Nairaland to teach you to handle your wife? No wonder she treats you anyhow. You can't even act like a real man. Big baby!

Joavid:
This is what happens when you marry longer throat.

Someone who's never satisfied and wants to live above their means - (and in this case lack of)


that is your cross, carry it.


kikikikikikikiki if you stop paying her the 17.2% for two months, be prepared to starve o. cos when you drop money for food, you won't see food. the cash in your wallet will grow wings, your ATM card sef fit miss.

so carry your cross!

Ladies knows themselves very well,
@Skypeme.
Contact this poster for advice' she can help you out.
For me i go just read coments.

HARDDON:
Ehmmmm op, how did u arrive @ that 17.2%?

Any mathematical formular applied?

You wan know everything about this family abi?

Wife Wahala, even do you buy car for a woman, any day you will quarrel with her, she will insult you, and denied that you never did anything for her, but stop calculating money you are giving to your wife, is normal,

Going by the nollywood standards,here is my advice,dont hold back her allawee,so you will not ingest poison in your next meal(because this your wife looks callous,am not sure anyway)
Going by the hollywood standards,lovingly sit her down,ask her why she behaves that way,settle the rift as the head.
Most importantly pray together
A family that prays together stays together.

Dyt:
I add money too And I think one out of 3 women do that or most have done it

The only thing I condemn is her being rude to you But then how did you approach her
There's always a man involved when a woman goes crazy

Feminist alert!!! The kind who blame MEN 4 all they go thru.

[ quote author=Joavid post=54748259]This is what happens when you mar ry longer an ex sexworker.

Someone who's never satisfied and wants to live abo ve their means - (and in this case lack of)


that is your cross, carry it.


kikikikikikikiki if you stop paying her the 17.2% for two months, be prepared to starve o. cos when you drop money for food, you won't see food. the cash in your wallet will grow wings, your ATM card sef fit miss.

so carry your cross![/quote]

@Op...I feel for you. I really do. my advice for you is to brace your self. o ti ri nkan kan. I'm talking from experience.

I now agreed that woman is equal to problem

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

This man must be a mathematician, as I never marry I no get experience for this realm o

But wait o, you mean as a married man I'd paying my wife salary in addition to providing for the family?

I'm yet to see what the woman did wrong

bro my advice to u just considered this as first and last mistake despite she is rude to u may be the way u approach her pls take sometime to come down then sit her down by putting some sense in her head politically and puke all the pain you go through due to her unsatisfied act i promise she will listen to u even apologize for her wrong deeds

kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

11,200 x 100=?


see ur mouth.

skypeme:


My marriage will not crash IJN, I repeat that you bro

You seem like someone who feels comfortable in self-deceit. It's quite glaring to you that you married the wrong woman but you don't want to come to terms with the reality. I wouldn't be surprised if that wife of yours has some other nigger taking up about 40 -50% of that salary you give her. When women have someone taking up their money due to the fact that they love such a person and cannot do anything about the money they give the person, they often behave like this. So I think its best for you to be more realistic and open to options especially when she continues with her terrible attitude. I don't mean any insults though. Just stating the obvious.

Dude, u r d man! But to be brutally honest wit u, u dont hav a wife. She's more like a domestic staff who, aside from doing all d house chores, also hav babies for u. If i gave my wife a fraction of my monthly income, it wudnt nearly almost a 'SALARY'. Apparently she realizes her actual roles in d house than u do, probably why she augments her 'SALARY' every chance she gets. If u dont wake up & change how w things work in d house, she's gonna walk away from doz 'duties' once she achieves her financial target or wen u lose ur job. & guess wot, it wont be her fault cos u programmed her dat way!
But u claim u luv each otha, so i guess dat can still make it work. Gud luck, man!

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

.

Please penalize her.. .i mean punish her very well. People are beginning to abuse certain privileges especially inflating contracts or bills or expenses. Do they think it's easy to make money? Do they think money falls from the sky? Or that people actually work to earn money?

Please punish her very very well. She'll say you're stingy but if we all dig deeper, I wonder where the stingy attitude comes from.

kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

Comnonnnnn


Warayou saying?

If you want to inflate, be reasonable, yes I said be reasonable and don't get caught.

You just sit down here and b typing what you've not experienced before.. ...

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

Did you employ ya wife?

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

i and boo will laugh over stuff like this SMH

cnonyechi:


Better tell ur wife to take dat child to a day care and go get a job. You are spoiling her and she is capitalising on it. Please take charge of your home before you get high bp.
Its ur money use it wisely

Whose money? his money or their money?

zaynie:



Sometimes people just do these things.
Don't forget we have only heard his version of the story not hers.


I know of a couple that any small thing the man would say "at least I put money for food down before I leave in the mornings ". The wife will just have this quiet smile. When she put the baby at less than a year in a creche and went to search for work, the husband yari and that was when the bubble burst that it was #200 he put on the table every morning for a breastfeeding mom to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Back then we used to wonder why she loved noodles so much.

"he said" he gives her 30k monthly. Every month? He has never missed it?
If she comes from a poor family (which might be the case considering he is paying her school fees) and is the eldest, that money can't be enough to cater for their needs. These little monies that come by can be handy.
I'm not justifying what she did.


And the hospital can never look at her like that. Do you know how many women they cover up?
Someone planned fake school receipt for her husband because after school fees he doesn't pay another dime in the school. The extra money was what she used to pay for some extra curricular activities for the kids, buy uniforms and books.

Hahaha! Anty the way you re defending this woman eeh.. E be like say you knows her wella?
Im only consign about the rude part of her, no matter how the hubby confronts her she is very wrong to react the way she did "if what the husband said is true".

ur mumu no get rival
how on earth will you pay ur wife salary?
you have used money to spoil her already this is why she is now lazy and money conscious..
imagine o, see as you mouth be like I pay my wife salary. mumu man.
is ur wife one of ur properties, house girl or employee that you have to incur cost on her monthly. mumu

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

Nawao!