Jarus:

-Recite Ayatul Kursiyyu, Suratul falaq and nas, and last two verses of Suratul baqarah before you sleep. It works great wonders.

uplawal:

jarus is too choosy, i bet u,u will hardly get a good one if u continue this way,also try and make your parents understand things

My dear bro, it's okay to be choosy, just do it rightfully.  For example, if you choose a muslim lady that doesn't pray (as she should) over a christian lady that claims to wannabe a muslim in order to marry u, you are RIGHT.

But don't choose a lady simply because she is from Ilorin and not from Lagos (very typical of Ilorin people - my mother is from there and my father has Ilorin family ties too).  There are ladies in Lagos who are very religious, respectful, highly educated and BEAUTIFUL too.  I understand you are trying to please your parents in that regards but my dear, don't waste your time, most importantly don't loose a potential lifetime partner to tribalism.

Jarus:

It's not possible. I wont approach a lady that doesn't pray or cover her head in the first place. That's the minimum.

I think a muslim lady who doesn't pray may just need to be encouraged. If eventually she does, there is a reward for the one who through the will of God directs her in the righteous path.

Jarus link=topic=370122.msg5255637#msg5255637 date=1262724431:

I abhor tribalism in its minutest form. I passionately dislike this 'marry only Kwara' thing our parents do. I have been a rebel in the family because of this strange stance. I try to make them see reason that I don't care even she's oyinbo or Igbo, in as much as she's a Muslim. I told them they can't stop me. And in fact, if Hajara's had worked out, I would have stood my ground to standstill and I know after serious persuasion, they would finally accept and bless it. I was ready to break the tradition by marrying that Nupe lady but due to to tribalism in her own family too, it didn't work out.

So I don't subscribe to tribalism at all. I don't have any problem with Lagos ladies personally, but then, one needs to respect one's parent's wish and amke them happy, even as one tries to convince them that tribalism is not allowed in Islam.

True talk. Our parents are only trying to make sure that if something happens they know who they are dealing with and who to turn to. I remember when I was growing up and my cousins will come home with b/friends or g/friends, the first thing out of our parents was "omo ile bo ni" "tani awon obi re" and they better name one of the well-known family or else,
I found myself in that situation, when I forbid my children from marrying a non-African, non-Nigerian, non-Yoruba (above all) nor a non-Muslim. How restricted can that be in the USA (all five raised and reside in America). I pray to God relentlessly about it. They know how important the Muslim part is (they all go to 'ile-kewu' here, and the 2 oldest graduated from their quranic studies even b4 graduating from high school) but they always argue about the tribe thingy.

Alhamdulillahi, the oldest (girl) is married to a Nigerian (Yoruba) Muslim. The 2nd girl is married to a non-Nigerian/Yoruba but a Muslim. I struggled to try and prevent this from happening but finally, when I see that the guy is very nice, respectful despite being an American, I gave up. May God answer my prayers on the other three, especially the boy.

Enuf said. I pray that God grant your parents' wishes as well as yours. Insha Allah, bi kudiratullah, very soon, you will find her.

FayeZik:

May I suggest that apart from helping each other with advice and words of God. Can we all include each other in our prayers, especially whoever has a problem, concern or anything sha. May God answer our prayers. (Amin)

Lagosboy:

Please include me in your prayer tonight that Allah grants me my heart desires and my requests to him by virtue of his beloved names. Ameen

uplawal:

heya muhsin,sorry o,i wish you quick recovery soonest insha Allah

ronkeenuf:

@muhsin

cant say I feel your pains cos its only you that knows how it hurts but I feel for you as a brother in Islam. May Alllah, Who tries His subjects as He wills and heals them when He wills with no assistance from any, grant you quick recovery and heal you permanently.