Omoluabi16:
lol. you've been busy these days abi..I hope you are fine?

I've been busy fooling around I'm good jere you nko

MIB1:


She said it happened once.

The issue is how old was she when it happened? sometime youth exhorbirance or teens excesses might play on her. What led to it.Does it mean she cant exercise self control? This question is not for you to dump her but to know area of prayer and concentration. Certain past repeats itself during marriage if not thoroughly handled with serious prayer.God has forgiven her for repenting and telling you.So the issue is if she is totally delivered and the spiritual connection broken because whosoever who have sex with you are emotionally, physically and spiritually bound to the person. This has future consequence. If you are a christian, talk to God about it for what to do. But if its spiritual aspect is dealt with, go ahead to marry her. It is a valuable woman that will confess such to you.Ask yourself can I cope with the thought. If anything happens after your marriage and you refer to it, you will damage her emotionally.

enomakos:
pass her number to me,i will help you give her the sex she really need

Maduman

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

She has repented and recanted. You have just got the wife of the century.Dont miss that opportunity Jack or you will cry later.

Skimpledawg:
Maduman

hahaha

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

Abeg, it doesn't matter jare. Arab and real Islamic people marries their first cousins. No harm will come after your wife to be

Finest001:
It very funny how some people are giving excuses of countries where cousins marry each other. So are we trying to say that if something is wrong n some pple are doing it that makes it right..... So cause some tribe eat human flesh does that makes it right. The Bible has made us know that such act is wrong yet some pple are trying to justify this with countries practicing such act.

Leviticus 18:6 Says “You must never have sexual relations with any of Your relative

I think you need to revisit that passage again and this time, read the whole chapter and not just verse 6

whizqueen:

I've been busy fooling around I'm good jere you nko

lol, fooling around abi. On top those heavy alert you dey get.. badass hustler

Omoluabi16:
lol, fooling around abi. On top those heavy alert you dey get.. badass hustler

Na So so debit alert1oo my brother

I can't take it anymore

ore!
you are lucky you have a girl who told you that what happened even before you married her.

please do not punish her for confessing her sins to you as that would damage her faith in men.

look at it this way, how many girls have you slept with and how many have you confessed to her. if you are to point just two girls to her as your ex. do you think she too would not be sad too or she is not with feelings. i am a man and i give it to the ladies you know their husband was/ is a Casanova and yet forge ahead with the relationship and end it into marriage.

i know you are looking at it in the eyes of incest. please forge ahead with her for if you cancel this marriage and get another one, you would not know if she has even done 5 abortions, a witch or even worst than this lady.

do you think she liked it when she told you. no but it is a burden she wanted to share with you as her husband to be and you got to be man to say lady i love you and inrespective of your past mistakes, you are still my one.

15 years down that line you are saying thank God for my wife.

i wish you best of luck on your wedding date

try invite me for your wedding o i am waiting

linearity:
Why are people bringing spiritual angles into this? I can't remember any Bible verse condemning sleeping with cousins.

If you believe in the Bible's procreation story, our great grand parents were brothers and sisters as in the same father, the same mother and the Bible is littered with plenty examples of cousins marrying each other.

Because of the genetic closeness of cousins or close relations, science frown at close relations birthing offersprings because of the possibilities of abnormalities, this was not done because of some spiritual discernment.

There is no different between her bleeping a complete stranger from outer space and her cousin, as far as the Bible or spiritual consequences are concern.

Arrant nonsense!

In the book of Deuteronomy that a man must NEVER uncover his mother/sister/aunt/cousin up to the 5th generation.

In fact, almost a whole chapter was dedicated to the subject of incest. And consequences were spelt out.

Our Lord Jesus never upturned the statute in the New Testament.

Be guided!!

VirginFinder:


Arrant nonsense!

In the book of Deuteronomy that a man must NEVER uncover his mother/sister/aunt/cousin up to the 5th generation.

In fact, almost a whole chapter was dedicated to the subject of incest. And consequences were spelt out.

Our Lord Jesus never upturned the statute in the New Testament.

Be guided!!

Why is it that, when topics like these come up; you guys run to pull one selective law from the Old testament.

That convenant and laws were made with Abraham and his defendants. Even the Hebrew Israelis who are direct descendants of Abraham and beneficiaries of that convenant marry their cousins up till day.

If you check very well, that is not the only law you are disobeying clearly written in Deuteronomy.

Jesus abolished the old convenant and their laws, my guy, embrace the new convenant.

whizqueen:

Na So so debit alert1oo my brother

I can't take it anymore

It is well dear.

In Islam, it is allowed. Sanusi is married to his cousin.
Hope you are married now.

MIB1:


My worry is that , this is incest

Acidosis:


Bro, you deserve to be worried, pained and confused. Don't allow any hypocrite make you feel like you're imhumane.

Whether it happened 1000 years ago, it doesn't matter. If these folks found out that their ex slept with a dog some 50 years ago, they would still find a way to show their dissatisfaction to the said ex.

If I were in your shoes, I would be devastated as well.. It doesn't matter whether she confessed or I discovered myself.. the knowledge of what happened is all it takes to get one pained, so don't feel stu p!d or heartless.

Now to the real issue, I think you're worried that the said relationship with her cousin might continue even after a proper wedding with you. Whether you like it or not, you would henceforth feel insecure to have that cousin close and alone with your woman. Nobody welcomes such, except of course, the online "e-doesn't matter" e-pocrites.

The big question is: do you love your woman? Yes, right? Love is one aspect, do you trust your woman? Note, anybody can love, but trust is expensive. You have to be sure you trust her 100%.

Having said that, it's time to get your mind off the relationship with her cousin. It would be difficult but you have to try.

If you discover however at any point that moving on would be difficult, gently back out! This is marriage, not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. You will continue to meet her cousin, he will attend your wedding and probably offer you a handshake... Can you bear it?

Other days, he will stop by at your house when you're not around to say hi. Yes, it is true you now trust your wife, but do you trust the guy enough to share the same remorse with your wife? Has he repented and moved on?

My respect goes to your woman though. That's one hell of a secret 99.9% of her fellow will take to the grave. She has done her part... Now can you do yours? If your answer is yes, go ahead and marry her.

Mehn guy you should create your own website and be a therapist the knowledge in your comment is just too gangster.

VirginFinder:


Arrant nonsense!

In the book of Deuteronomy that a man must NEVER uncover his mother/sister/aunt/cousin up to the 5th generation.

In fact, almost a whole chapter was dedicated to the subject of incest. And consequences were spelt out.

Our Lord Jesus never upturned the statute in the New Testament.

Be guided!!

I challenge you to quote the passage in Deuteronomy, where God forbids marriage between cousins or where it’s say, you cannot uncover the your cousin.

The passage you are erroneously referencing is in Lev 18 & Deut. 27 and none of them mentioned counsins, the list there are: daughters, step-daughters, Aunt, Sister, half-sister,step-sister,daughter-Inlaw, grand-daughter & step-grand daughter.

Rather, the Bible is littered with instances of counsins marrying each other.

Like I indicated previously, the idea of not marrying counsins is rooted in science and because of likelily birth anamonalities that could occur as a result of the genetic closeness and we should respect and obey this scientific research, but at the same time should knowledgeably ascribe its origin to science and not the Bible.

Iefosa:
It's not everything you say, should have kept this to her self.

She is not stupid. She definitely has the fear of the possibility of him finding out later on. She is not as sincere as you think

repogirl:
Shebi the relationship ended years ago? So what's the issue now?

You people, always making an issue from nothing. SMH!

I ll politely tell you that men don't naturally see it that way. The frequent thoughts of this is what will create more cracks in the relationship.

cybriz82:


oga which incest...assuming she no tell u nko?? well i blame her since her mouth no dey stay 1 place...all ladies in d house pls n pls from 2day onward dnt share ur secret with any man..evn if u get chicken pox for ur yansh..i repeat do not tell him..

Look between the lines... She obviously said it because of her fears of him eventually finding out later, when its much worse. ii ve personally been in a similar situation before, tho with my friend. She had to tell me as it had the lesser unpleasant consequence compared to the events of me finding out later. Be wise bro

If you love her as you said, Marry her but make sure you let the cousin know that you know the truth, if possible the 3 of you should have a meeting clearly telling the said cousin that you know the truth you have forgiven your finance however he shouldn't be too close to her..keeping his distance will help your future family a great deal..

gechyy2:
If you love her as you said, Marry her but make sure you let the cousin know that you know the truth, if possible the 3 of you should have a meeting clearly telling the said cousin that you know the truth you have forgiven your finance however he shouldn't be too close to her..keeping his distance will help your future family a great deal..

Forgive her? what crime did she commit? why do we always exaggerate issues, didnt the so called relationship happen long years before she met this girl who knows whether they were just young and exploring themselves.

I blame this girl for letting this out, you think a guy will open up and tell his fiancée he had something with a relative? if the OP is serious about marriage there is nothing to worry about.

MIB1:


I love her , trust her , and still want to marry her . But how do I move past this and forge ahead .

If you sicerely love her, trust her and still want to marry her, go ahaed. And dont really worry about her and her cousin after marriage, 95% chance it wont happen again.

As for the part of curses and all, all i can say is, take that to the holy spirit.

t111:
You both can go for delivance in a delivance church coupled with fasting because def the spiritual implication still stands,an alter had been built on that regard so it has to be broken.

What deliverance? Did Abraham for deliverance for marrying his step sister? Has Emir of Kano gone for deliverance, whose first wife, I heard, is her first cousin? So the Chinese should go for deliverance? What deliverance are you talking about?

don't marry her , don't be fooled to believe she told u because she loved u, she knows u will find out someday so she is confessing in advance .



she is a sharp girl

Am I the only one who dont that was an incest

Am I the only one who dont that was incest