It's only a problem when you make it a problem. Long distance relationship is hard work and it comes with a lot of insecurities because you have zero access to the person you love.

Trust me if he didn't call and think of you, you'd have a problem there too. There's no need for us to advise you because it's him you should talk to. Tell him how it makes you feel and what you want him to do.

Benelovelace:
This same thing happens to me,i no longer receive calls at night,from anybody,even relations,he'll be like,who is calling,what does he or she want.Whenever i miss several of his calls,he'll start to send me silly messages,"what is happening,are u tired of me,u were not always like this,you've changed,why are you doing this to me?"and the likes,he suffocates me,but then what do i do?

What u should do is to dump his ass!!!!
Looking at ur dp gave me an idea of y he behaves dat way....he is insecure!!!!!

Dat's d problem,i cnt,he loves me very much,i just wish i know wat to do to make him stop being over possessive.

It usually bores down to Long distance, but the fact is that this dude has some real deep trust issues. At 47, you should have experienced all sorts of relationships and be more in control of your insecurities, but he is still acting like a baby. If there's one thing i have learned from my past relationships, no woman is ever yours till you put a ring on her finger. A lot of people who have commented on this thread or who are reading through have the same issues as this guy. My advice, you can loose the person you are with now at any time so just love truly but freely and hope for the best but never make any relationship a do or die affair because it

iamadonis2:


Thank you for your superb use of the English Language. Please, go back to sleep.

This is the problem with nigerians today and the country
What are you thanking .. so you noticed i inserted the letters wrong, anyone with a brain or an iPad can tell its a typo! Its just a typo ( MUST U QUOTE ME )
Instead of you to say " o lala u made a mistake" would have been like oh thank you and lol but noo u wanna be arsy about it ..

You should sleep permanently if this is how you tell people they made an error .. ITK

Benelovelace:
Dat's d problem,i cnt,he loves me very much,i just wish i know wat to do to make him stop being over possessive.

Have you tried talking to him Maybe have like a video call or he can see how serious you are....

Another thing that might work threaten to leave him if he doesn't change . If he truly loves the bones of ya he will change

Benelovelace:
Dat's d problem,i cnt,he loves me very much,i just wish i know wat to do to make him stop being over possessive.

He loves you though but is now obsessed and that is risky. Obsession is what drives many men into crazy things like what he is doing to you know. You need to have a serious discussion with him on your commitment to the relationship, allay his fears and make him realize he just has to trust you because his behavior is driving you nuts.

OLAJADON:

he is not cheating, he loves her but just been immature
that how some guys act when they love a girl by feeling insecure not cheating on her.....the situation when she notice she has stop getting his attention then we can suspect cheating.


And are u a victim of cheat?

Trust me .. a guilty partner who cheats will use that guilt to frustrate the one who isn't to make themselves feel better and believe they must be doing the same because he is doing it too...
You are forgetting they are in long distance trust me some married men will be calling like dat yet they have family with them abroad how will she know ?? Just saying . Its either he is obsessed and super protective ( if that is the case he would have taken her or by now made arrangements )

Relationship is not just black n white

Bumbae1:


This is the problem with nigerians today and the country
What are you thanking .. so you noticed i inserted the letters wrong, anyone with a brain or an iPad can tell its a typo! Its just a typo ( MUST U QUOTE ME )
Instead of you to say " o lala u made a mistake" would have been like oh thank you and lol but noo u wanna be arsy about it ..

You should sleep permanently if this is how you tell people they made an error .. ITK

Lala oo, calm down, some ppl are just like that

K,fnx

Bumbae1:

Awon oponu oshi .. notice me much
No its cause the houseboy said i should go and sleep .. may he sleep permanently nonsense .. one cannot make typo without irrelevants grabbing ur jugular

Lol my boys played good yesterday make anybody no ki my vibe ..

Ahh!!! , epe ni ojo Sunday, Bumbae ni tori oloun, no kee d pesin for NL ooo

myweb:

Honestly I'm a man too, and I know you are damn right because it happens to almost all of us at a point in our lives. Now think about this: At 47, what hasn't he seen? Dont you think its a serious complex issue?

true, 47 isnt an age to still be acting dt way

Omohjick:

Through his younger sister.

Ru d person on dp b4 i advice?

Omohjick:

A man of 47?

He is a Man and a Guy,making him a GUYMAN. U know better so what u want u know.

iamadonis2:


Thank you for your superb use of the English Language. Please, go back to sleep.

Lolz

SmartBug:


Pretty sure you ain't exaggerating but hallucinating!

April fool post

Omohjick please who's that on your DP?

KennyID17:


Lala oo, calm down, some ppl are just like that

I dey play joor

A jealous man is a dangerous man... Run for your life.

Benelovelace:
This same thing happens to me,i no longer receive calls at night,from anybody,even relations,he'll be like,who is calling,what does he or she want.Whenever i miss several of his calls,he'll start to send me silly messages,"what is happening,are u tired of me,u were not always like this,you've changed,why are you doing this to me?"and the likes,he suffocates me,but then what do i do?

my story is exactly the same as yours, although it's a long distance relationship but still within Nigeria. I yaff tired but don't know what to do.

Bumbae1:

Trust me .. a guilty partner who cheats will use that guilt to frustrate the one who isn't to make themselves feel better and believe they must be doing the same because he is doing it too...
You are forgetting they are in long distance trust me some married men will be calling like dat yet they have family with them abroad how will she know ?? Just saying . Its either he is obsessed and super protective ( if that is the case he would have taken her or by now made arrangements )

Relationship is not just black n white

I am speaking from a guy's perspective, the guy is not cheating, he is just feeling insecure. It is when he stop showing attention we can suspect something is wrong.....i am telling you the fact except the op is saying a wrong story but if the story above is true, then he is not cheating, he is only obsessed and feeling insecure. #fact

Benelovelace:
This same thing happens to me,i no longer receive calls at night,from anybody,even relations,he'll be like,who is calling,what does he or she want.Whenever i miss several of his calls,he'll start to send me silly messages,"what is happening,are u tired of me,u were not always like this,you've changed,why are you doing this to me?"and the likes,he suffocates me,but then what do i do?

.

You got what you asked for; A 'serious' relationship.

Bumbae1:
Hmm
1st
Lol some a dieing for their guys to even think of them let alone call.
Its the distance dear .. its killing him his a man . And if you are a pretty lady he knows how guys can be . So his paranoid .

2nd
He may be CHEATING ON U BIG TIME. The guilt is what makes him call you constantly .

He's insecure

mizeminent:


my story is exactly the same as yours, although it's a long distance relationship but still within Nigeria. I yaff tired but don't know what to do.

Quit.

Lolzzzz. He is obsessive.

This is a typical case of "some have food and cannot eat, some cant eat..........."

SmartBug:


Pretty sure you ain't exaggerating but hallucinating!

hahahahahahhaha...Slay queen

Bumbae1:

Trust me .. a guilty partner who cheats will use that guilt to frustrate the one who isn't to make themselves feel better and believe they must be doing the same because he is doing it too...
You are forgetting they are in long distance trust me some married men will be calling like dat yet they have family with them abroad how will she know ?? Just saying . Its either he is obsessed and super protective ( if that is the case he would have taken her or by now made arrangements )

Relationship is not just black n white

You must have been dating married men... Please tell us more...