Alesandese:
Na so Mama Kelechi sit with vision, twenty years later ordinary mirror them no get. Abegii

ur head dey dia. Make for urself a stable means of livelihood then find urself a man that fits to guard against stories that touch. No be so?

Safiaa:
Excuses, excuses and more excuses. In some cases yes, But 90% of the time it does. Your definition of success may be different to mine. Successful doesn't necessarily mean ranking in millions. Being comfortable and achieving your goals in life is what it means to me .

and you can't work towards having a financially comfortable family? This is 21st century please, or you want to be a housewife? Wetin you come get degree for?

Alphamale2017:
the only reason am not going to argue with you is because if this part of your write up.

''. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. "

you didn't completed rule out dating a broke guy in your write but you did in your post title .

have u seen E-money's throwback pix ??

i bet thousands of woman will still like to marry bishop David oyedepo today and become the 700th wife , sure . because they want to ride in a private jet and live in the best houses .

but I bet you 98th of those woman would have passed up the chance to get married to him over 30years ago when he was driving a bike .

what of mark zuckerburg ? he didn't come from a billionaire family either . but today he is among the top 35 richest people in the world at such a young age .

ladies if you see that ur man has got a dream and makes concrete plans to achieve them and your instincts tells you he will succeed then stick around .

money is important yes. but life is not a one way traffic . at least stay for a while and see if they materialise .
who knows , you may become the celebrated wife of a public figure and a celebrated achiever .
Gracias

Trash!!!
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What if I tell you right now, for everyone one broke dude who turned out successful in the above instances, there are million of broke dudes who could not make it despite having the 'vision and zeal' Please!!


No guy should date if he doesn't have what it takes to carter for a lady.

What's this one saying? So you're saying every guy should bring money from heaven cos most poor people never make it in life with their vision and work. Does that make sense?

Frolic:
ur head dey dia. Make for urself a stable means of livelihood then find urself a man that fits to guard against stories that touch. No be so?

Exactly! If men are not ready to marry liabilities why should women do? No one should be a parasite in a relationship/ marriage.

Frolic:
and not everybody hustling with a very bright plan and vision end up being a Mark zuckerberg or what have you. He might even end up being poorer than he's they should note. ..

of course na did u miss the part where I said "life is not a one way traffic " ?

am not telling the ladies that they shouldn't leave oh. my point is , stick around a little while to see if the dream will materialise before u move .


do u know ndidi that plays for Leicester city in the premier league ? what if he had told the girl he was dating like 3 year ago that very soon he will start getting more than 10million naira per week ?

maybe at that time he was playing for one small feeder club/ football academy in Lagos .

now u get my point ?? the fact that he is broke doesn't mean u should zoom off Immediately .

thats my point

Please stop being silly. If im financially stable,
does that mean i should manage a satisfied broke guy? Stop making excuses and just level up. This is the 21st century but that doesnt change the fact that being broke and unmotivated is unattractive. 90% of the time, if you work hard it will not be in vain. It works both ways.

FelixFelicis:
and you can't work towards having a financially comfortable family? This is 21st century please, or you want to be a housewife? Wetin you come get degree for?

We guys have the natural instinct to hustle, to make money, to be successful, to be able to fend for family, it won't do bad for ladies to borrow some of that instinct, life would be so better that way.

Safiaa:
Please stop being silly. If im financially stable,
does that mean i should manage a satisfied broke guy? Stop making excuses and just level up. This is the 21st century but that doesnt change the fact that being broke and unmotivated is unattractive. It works both ways.

If you work hard and make enough money, you should date based on love, not on money then. Afterall we guys have been doing that for ages, you don't see rich guys going after rich girls, they go for love. If you love a guy and he's broke why not motivate him? Put him up to something

Smellymouth:
Ok o

Naso oo. Awon Olosho yi da ooo?*singing* ..up there he said..

Venom247:
Trash!!!
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What if I tell you right now, for everyone one broke dude who turned out successful in the above instances, there are million of broke dudes who could not make it despite having the 'vision and zeal' Please!!


No guy should date if he doesn't have what it takes to carter for a lady.

re read all my comment . I am not in anyway against the op .

when I see broke guys still dating, it baffles me .how u go broke and ur prick go dey rise . ?. you should bury ur head in anything ur hands find to do . and who knows fortune may smile on u.


lemme paste the other comment i just posted in the other mention .
of course na did u miss the part where I said "life is not a one way traffic " ?
am not telling the ladies that they shouldn't leave oh. my point is , stick around a little while to see if the dream will materialise before u move .
do u know ndidi that plays for Leicester city in the premier league ? what if he had told the girl he was dating like 3 year ago that very soon he will start getting more than 10million naira per week ?
maybe at that time he was playing for one small feeder club/ football academy in Lagos .
now u get my point ?? the fact that he is broke doesn't mean u should zoom off Immediately .
thats my point

Safiaa:
Please stop being silly. If im financially stable,
does that mean i should manage a satisfied broke guy? Stop making excuses and just level up. This is the 21st century but that doesnt change the fact that being broke and unmotivated is unattractive. 90% of the time, if you work hard it will not be in vain. It works both ways.

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I cant argue with you any longer, its draining my soul.
Please just level up, and accept the truth. Thats all i have to say. My thread was directed at women, yet all these men are triggered for some reason. I'm done.

FelixFelicis:
If you work hard and make enough money, you should date based on love, not on money then. Afterall we guys have been doing that for ages, you don't see rich guys going after rich girls, they go for love. If you love a guy and he's broke why not motivate him? Put him up to something

Love will fly out of window as soon as Poverty comes in. Little wonder why we have criminals in the society. Abortion rates self is on increase. Abeg make we no deceive ourselves jare

The implication of your write-up safiaa is not to date a visionless or lazy broke guy right? Then that implies that you you don't outrightly judge a broke guy, you need to get close and overtime get to know what he's up to. But in some of your comments you're insinuating it should be financial comfortability first before love, that's putting the horse behind the cart.

Well I concour sis, even if dey end up having d mulla sef,dats wen dey realize that ur not their type anymore,some men are foolishly wicked on this part

Wailers gonna eat ya...

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

running from broke men like say ur Papa get money. ..hope you won't run into lion den.. ..karishika

porchbaby:
Well I concour sis, even if dey end up having d mulla sef,dats wen dey realize that ur not their type anymore,some men are foolishly wicked on this part

Another point...

Suffer with a guy at your own risk

We've seen the life of the few women who suffered with their man, we've also seen the life of the women that married made men. Whichever one yours is you don't know, but you can definitely work towards the one you choose. Success

e be like dis thread go sweet small
oyind18 or na oyind17
jodha u dey dere?
SINZ
KennyID17
Bumbae1
QueenSuccubus
Aderolah15
CuteJude
kimbra
alexialin

lefulefu:
e be like dis thread go sweet small
oyind18 or na oyind17
jodha u dey dere?
SINZ
KennyID17
Bumbae1
QueenSuccubus
Aderolah15
CuteJude

viewing thru

It depends:

Is he broke but hardworking and striving to get back on his feet?

OR

Is he broke but an unambitious couch-potato?


The former = aiight, aiight.
The latter = to the left, to the left...

CuteJude:
viewing thru

Yeah this is actually what I'm saying. But as soon as nigerian guys see the word 'broke', it hurts their feelings.
The truth is always painful.

NotOfThis:
It depends:

Is he broke but hardworking and striving to get back on his feet?

OR

Is he broke but also an unambitious couch-potato?


The former = aiight, aiight.
The latter = to the left, to the left...

lefulefu:
e be like dis thread go sweet small
oyind18 or na oyind17
jodha u dey dere?
SINZ
KennyID17
Bumbae1
QueenSuccubus
Aderolah15
CuteJude

We the international observers have seriously arrived.

Safiaa:
Yeah this is actually what I'm saying. But as soon as nigerian guys see the word 'broke', it hurts their feelings.
The truth is always painful.

You don't even need to use the word broke, but as you want to instigate feminine emotions against men you had to. Sensible ladies know you're wrong and that your opinion doesn't count.

You could have said its better to date an industrious guy than a couch-potato. But you're just a manipulator, you want Ladies to come on your thread and say yes, hail you etc, and i can see few senseless and bitter ladies doing that. Matured ladies saw your thread and guess what? They read and moved on, reserving their opinion.

Alesandese:
Exactly! If men are not ready to marry liabilities why should women do? No one should be a parasite in a relationship/ marriage.

correct girl!

lefulefu:
e be like dis thread go sweet small
oyind18 or na oyind17
jodha u dey dere?
SINZ
KennyID17
Bumbae1
QueenSuccubus
Aderolah15
CuteJude

Me right now......

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

How do you define a fake dream? Its a dream right..... pessimism is all I see here.If u can't believe in your boyfriends dream don't comman be discouraging our potential wifes on nairaland. Tains

Safiaa:
Yeah this is actually what I'm saying. But as soon as nigerian guys see the word 'broke', it hurts their feelings.
The truth is always painful.

Just as when ladies see d words Olosho, gold digger, liability, parasite, leech.......