15 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE YOU MARRY A PASTOR -Part 1


-By Kemi Samuel

Every lady has a dream of getting married someday to her prince charming who will fit into her expectations and who she will live happily ever after with but before you go ahead into that marriage if your prince charming is a pastor you really need to get yourself to the under listed points. Happy reading.

(1 ) GET TO KNOW HIS AREA OF CALLING:

You need to ask questions from him which aspect of the ministry he is called into, is it deliverance, faith, healing etc Where is he suppose to function in the body of Christ. You need to understand his calling very well and get prepared for the task ahead.

(2 ) GOD IS HIS EMPLOYER NOT THE CHURCH:
Do not expect that because he is in charge of a large congregation then you will not have financial challenges, many have the notion that Pastors have free access to Church money and always get disappointed after marrying him. Note that the Pastor is not the sole signatory to Church account, the church is not an ATM.You had better prepared to spend your personal money on God’s work. If your reason for wanting to marry that Pastor is money induced, please, cancel your wedding.

(3 ) PREPARE FOR A CHANGE
When you get married to a pastor, it will obstruct your plans, change your directions and divert your focus.Dear, there are values that you will have to uphold, actions you will not be able to take, sacrifices you will have to make, your life directions will be significantly affected.How flexible are you?

(4 ) PARTNER IN SERVICE
1 peter 4: 10, John 13: 13-17, Please, know that you are his partner in service to bless and meet people’s needs in the Name of Jesus, you are to serve alongside him, do not go with the mindset that people are to serve you.You must embrace his ministry, learn under him and give him the total support.

(5 ) LADIES PASTOR
He will not only be the pastor of men but of ladies too and some of them will be extremely attractive. So, if you are a jealous type, you had better marry someone else and quit your relationship with the Pastor.

(6 ) BIG HEART
It is not only a big hat that makes a pastor’s wife but a big heart growing in the Lord and towards the Lord Jesus. You must have a large heart to accommodate and manage different classes of people with varying characters.

(7 ) NO DEPENDENCY ON PEOPLE FOR AFFIRMATION
Before you marry a pastor you must erase your dependency on people for affirmation and increase your dependency on God for approval.

(8 ) RIGHT SPIRIT
A positive and caring spirit to serve others will be helpful, you must do away with self-centeredness and solo life because a pastor is a man of the people.

(9 ) SLEEPING ALONE
The demand of the ministry might require him to travel for ministerial assignments, meetings, and retreats which may take him away from you at night.

(10 ) OPPOSE EXTRAVAGANT LIFESTYLE
If you must marry a Pastor, you must do away with extravagance lifestyle and be humane. You must not be materialistic lest the church members detest you

(11 ) ACT OF HOSPITALITY
Before you marry a pastor, how hospitable are you? A lot of People will come for counseling in your house and most of them may not be financially strong but you must be hospitable towards them even if they appreciate what you are doing.

(12 ) PREPARE TO BE A GLOBETROTTER
The work of a pastor involves a lot of transfer from city to city and nation to nation. At times, he may not spend up to three months in a location before he gets another letter of transfer. If you don’t like moving from one place to another, quit your relationship with the pastor now

(13 ) HE HAS A BOSS
He has a Boss –GOD. Do not expect him to put you ahead of his Boss. Help him to serve and obey God in all things.Please, don’t push him against God.

(14 ) MAN OF GOD
Before you marry a pastor, please always remember that he is a man. So, do not assume that been a man of God he does not have sexual urge and temptations like other men, he does. Maintaining your good looks and shape is very important for you to be able to keep him from falling into temptations.

(15 ) GOD’S REPRESENTATIVE
Before you marry that pastor, know that he is not just a man but God’s mouthpiece and His representative and you must respect and treat him as such, will you be able to?


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