Shortyy:
Lol secrets? I've got terrible and scary ones. They even scare me when I think about em. I pray every day that God forgives me

nice will love to hear them here or whereever

CookieLaVee:
..."I will teach you so many things" he said. He would ask me to lie down, he'd apply cream -between my laps and he'd slide in and go on and forth in a rocking motion. I'd simply lay down, looking up at the ceiling and expecting to learn something out of the rocking movement.
It became an everyday event apart from weekends. He'd wait for me at the verandah, once I came back from school, after I did my homework, I would go to their flat where he was waiting. I was eight, I knew whatever bro Sam was doing to me was not right but I couldn't find the right words to tell my aunty who was babysitting us or my mommy who was always leaving to the market before 6:30am and back by 6pm.
Bro Sam thought me what a condom, porn movies and magazines were. He had lots of them, he was in the university then. He was at home because they were on strike.
I grew up believing I was no longer a virgin. Bro Sam took that away. I hated myself and cursed him silently when I got to senior class. We had parted ways by then but the dark memories hung around me. He took advantage of my innocence, my naivety and helplessness. When my peers chatted about who and when to loose their virginity to, I'd cry myself to bed, believing "he" took my virginity and now I have nothing to dream about. Those wishes and dreams of a teenager willingly giving her virginity to a boy were not for me,I had no right.
I took this burden and scar with me to the university. I met a guy in my second year, he was nice to me and asked me out. I thought about saying no to him because I would love to loose my virginity out of love and not out of gratitude, but then what was the point of talking about something I no longer had.
I accepted his proposal and willingly gave myself to him. The first time it happened, it was painful and I bled for a long time. "Why didn't you tell me you were a virgin? " he asked me...

Your story (or secret) is quite interesting.

I am not sure I believe it though; it sounds like a well-crafted plot from a great novel.

gensteejay:

Your story (or secret) is quite interesting.

I am not sure I believe it though; it sounds like a well-crafted plot from a great novel.

Life itself is a well crafted story, we all have our parts to play in it. This is my secret, it is my story, it happened some years back, it is real. The hearts of women is an endless ocean of secrets, horrible pasts and good memories, abuses and mischiefs. We only let our dear ones in on some, while we have thousands of them still locked away.
Sometimes I wonder if bro Sam ever thought of what he did to me, maybe he thought I won't remember or maybe he thinks it's nothing worth apologising for. We lost contact when my parents sent me to a boarding school, they packed out by the time I got home at the end of the term. I have never seen him since then, though I heard he is now married but I had always wished he could locate me and apologize. I used to secretly pray he gets served the same way he did to me, maybe his children. Well, I no longer wish that, I have forgiven him.

My story and secret is real, I have learned a lot from it, I hope you have too.

CookieLaVee:
Life itself is a well crafted story, we all have our parts to play in it. This is my secret, it is my story, it happened some years back, it is real. The hearts of women is an endless ocean of secrets, horrible pasts and good memories, abuses and mischiefs. We only let our dear ones in on some, while we have thousands of them still locked away.
My story and secret is real, I have learned a lot from it, I hope you have too.

The secret you revealed does not seem far-fetched and I learned a couple of lessons from it.

I doubted its authenticity at first because it was well written. Since you insisted it is a real story, I believe you.

You write like a creative writer; are you one?

gensteejay:

The secret you revealed does not seem far-fetched and I learned a couple of lessons from it.

I doubted its authenticity at first because it was well written. Since you insisted it is a real story, I believe you.

You write like a creative writer; are you one?

I do? Thanks. I'm not a writer though, my English teacher did well

CookieLaVee:
I do? Thanks. I'm not a writer though, my English teacher did well

Cookie babe!!!!

I've few secrets, which are really troubling me since 2 years ago. They aren't shameful secrets and I know they are normal things, but I don't want to expose them to anyone. Few people partially know about it, but no ones know it fully. The best thing is, I'm going to take them to my grave on the early hours of Monday(my location time zone is +3).

Hati13:
I've few secrets, which are really troubling me since 2 years ago. They aren't shameful secrets and I know they are normal things, but I don't want to expose them to anyone. Few people partially know about it, but no ones know it fully. The best thing is, I'm going to take them to my grave on the early hours of Monday(my location time zone is +3).

You plan on committing suicide?... there's more to life than that.

TeekayCarter:


You plan on [/b]commuting[b] suicide?... there's more to life than that.

I'm not going to do a crime. It's better to say "complete" than "committe".

Hati13:

I'm not going to do a crime. It's better to say "complete" than "committe".

Typographical error though. It has been corrected. Thanks.

How ever there's more to life than suicide. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Hati13:
(my location time zone is +3).

Are you Ethiopian

TeekayCarter:


Typographical error though. It has been corrected. Thanks.

How ever there's more to life than suicide. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Thanks!

XKZ:


Are you Ethiopian

Yes!

Hati13:

Yes!

Righty
Just read your post about a road trip to Northern Ethiopia... Is the region Shewa related to Sheba

XKZ:


Righty
Just read your post about a road trip to Northern Ethiopia... Is the region Shewa related to Sheba

No, it isn't. I doubt Queen of Sheba to be a real person, but the legend associate herself to Eritrea and further northern part of Ethiopia. Before 1991, Shewa was one zone, but after 1991, it was divided into 4 areas. North Shewa was given to Amharas, south and west Shewa was given to Oromos and east Shewa was given to Afars.

Hati13:

No, it isn't. I doubt Queen of Sheba to be a real person, but the legend associate herself to Eritrea and further northern part of Ethiopia. Before 1991, Shewa was one zone, but after 1991, it was divided into 4 areas. North Shewa was given to Amharas, south and west Shewa was given to Oromos and east Shewa was given to Afars.

Interesting, always thought it was Ethiopia
So what's the story behind Shewa being split up; and Eritrea leaving Ethiopia

XKZ:


Interesting, always thought it was Ethiopia
So what's the story behind Shewa being split up; and Eritrea leaving Ethiopia

Shewa was controlled by many different peoples throughout history. Axumities had controlled it, until Muslims conquered it in the 9th century and established the first Muslim state in Africa. After the downfall of Axum and during the Zagwe dynasty period, Amharas(Axumitie descendants with together Tigrays, Gurages, Harars and Eritreans) started to conquered it. During the Abyssinian-Adal(Somalia, Afar and Harar) war, the Adals conquered it together with large areas of Abyssinia for 12 years. During the great Oromo population movement, Oromos conquered it, but after 18th century, the Amharas started to regain it. After the fall of Derg in 1991, the federal system based on ethnicity was adopted. Since Shewa was controlled by many peoples throughout history, different peoples permanently lived there, so north Shewa was given to Amhara region, because it was a historical places for Amharas and many Amharas lived there. West and south Shewa were given to Oromo region and east Shewa was given to Afars just like the reasons I stated above.

Emperor Menelik II and few other Abyssinia emperors were from Shewa. Personally, I believe all Shewa belongs to the Amharas. My father was from north Shewa.

Map of north Shewa and Amhara in general.

XKZ:


Interesting, always thought it was Ethiopia
So what's the story behind Shewa being split up; and Eritrea leaving Ethiopia

Oh, I forgot to answer your question about Eritrea.

The coast side of Eritrea was in Ottoman occupation from mid 16th century to mid 19th century. Ottomans then leased the cost areas to Egypt in the 19th century. After Egypt was colonized by Britain, Italy private company and later the Italian government occupied it. The Italians then started to further occupy the inland areas as far as Merib Melash river. During the battle of Adwa, after Abyssinians crushed Italians, emperor Menelik II didn't ordered his army to invade the area north of Merib Melash river(Eritrea) and liberate the peoples from Italy. His decision really angered the people that live in those areas.

After Italy and Britain were driven out of Eritrea after the WWII, Eritrea was federated with Ethiopia, but emperor Haile Selassie broke the promise and united Eritrea with Ethiopia unitary system. Because of this, the Eritreans started and continued their military struggle for liberation during emperor Haile Selassie and Derg regimes. After the fall of Derg in 1991, a referendum was held for the Eritrea people to decide whether to stick with Ethiopia as a federal state or leave. 99% of Eritreans decided to leave and now here they are being an independent country. In 1998, they tried to invade us, but we driven them out from our soil and we started our march to Asmara, Eritrea capital. When they understood they are being defeated, they accepted peace deal and we stopped our march. Read about it. It's interesting.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eritrean–Ethiopian_War

Basically, northern Ethiopians and Eritreans are the same people, but long period of foreign occupation and betrayal(as they feel) created a new identity for them and wanted to be independent from Ethiopia.

Hati13:

Shewa was controlled by many different peoples throughout history. Axumities had controlled it, until Muslims conquered it in the 9th century and established the first Muslim state in Africa. After the downfall of Axum and during the Zagwe dynasty period, Amharas(Axumitie descendants with together Tigrays, Gurages, Harars and Eritreans) started to conquered it. During the Abyssinian-Adal(Somalia, Afar and Harar) war, the Adals conquered it together with large areas of Abyssinia for 12 years. During the great Oromo population movement, Oromos conquered it, but after 18th century, the Amharas started to regain it. After the fall of Derg in 1991, the federal system based on ethnicity was adopted. Since Shewa was controlled by many peoples throughout history, different peoples permanently lived there, so north Shewa was given to Amhara region, because it was a historical places for Amharas and many Amharas lived there. West and south Shewa were given to Oromo region and east Shewa was given to Afars just like the reasons I stated above.

The first Abyssinia emperor Yekuno Amlak, our great emperor Menelik II and many other Abyssinia emperors were from Shewa. Personally, I believe all Shewa belongs to the Amharas. My father was from north Shewa.

Map of north Shewa and Amhara in general.

Righty

I find the fact that your federal system is based n ethnicity quite interesting, we have a similar system in Nigeria
How has ethnicity affected governance in Ethiopia

Hati13:

Oh, I forgot to answer your question about Eritrea.

The coast side of Eritrea was in Ottoman occupation from mid 16th century to mid 19th century. Ottomans then leased the cost areas to Egypt in the 19th century. After Egypt was colonized by Britain, Italy private company and later the Italian government occupied it. The Italians then started to further occupy the inland areas as far as Merib Melash river. During the battle of Adwa, after Abyssinians crushed Italians, emperor Menelik II didn't ordered his army to invade the area north of Merib Melash river(Eritrea) and liberate the peoples from Italy. His decision really angered the people that live in those areas.

After Italy and Britain were driven out of Eritrea after the WWII, Eritrea was federated with Ethiopia, but emperor Haile Selassie broke the promise and united Eritrea with Ethiopia unitary system. Because of this, the Eritreans started and continued their military struggle for liberation during emperor Haile Selassie and Derg regimes. After the fall of Derg in 1991, a referendum was held for the Eritrea people to decide whether to stick with Ethiopia as a federal state or leave. 99% of Eritreans decided to leave and now here they are being an independent country. In 1998, they tried to invade us, but we driven them out from our soil and we started our march to Asmara, Eritrea capital. When they understood they are being defeated, they accepted peace deal and we stopped our march. Read about it. It's interesting.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eritrean–Ethiopian_War

Basically, northern Ethiopians and Eritreans are the same people, but long period of foreign occupation and betrayal(as they feel) created a new identity for them and wanted to be independent from Ethiopia.

So if only the Emperor had allowed the federation Eritrea probably would still be part of Ethiopia...

I understand Eritrea's exit made Ethiopia the most populous landlocked country. How does the country manage without a seaport

XKZ:


Righty

I find the fact that your federal system is based n ethnicity quite interesting, we have a similar system in Nigeria
How has ethnicity affected governance in Ethiopia

It has affected hugely. The regional government has the responsibility to keep the interest of the many ethnic groups in his state. The federal government has also the responsibility to keep the interest of those 9 states. Since the federal government personnels are from different ethnic groups, certain ethnic groups ideas doesn't work, but what we are seeing is the opposite in certain level. Amharic is federal government language, since Amhara culture was relatively the dominant in the country in the past and now.

What about in Nigeria?

XKZ:


So if only the Emperor had allowed the federation Eritrea probably would still be part of Ethiopia...

I understand Eritrea's exit made Ethiopia the most populous landlocked country. How does the country manage without a seaport

Yes, they would have stayed.

We are giving billions of $ to Djibouti annually for letting us use their port. We are a poor country and those huge money could have been used on developing the infrastructures of the country if we had our own seaport. If one day, either Eritrea or Djibouti joined us, this problem may be resolved. But with all those difficulties we are facing, our economy growth is the fastest in Africa and one of the fastest in the world.

Hati13:

It has affected hugely. The regional government has the responsibility to keep the interest of the many ethnic groups in his state. The federal government has also the responsibility to keep the interest of those 9 states. Since the federal government personnels are from different ethnic groups, certain ethnic groups ideas doesn't work, but what we are seeing is the opposite in certain level. Amharic is federal government language, since Amhara culture was relatively the dominant in the country in the past and now.

What about in Nigeria?

Well, in Nigeria the system is designed, in theory, to ensure that the needs of everyone is equally met. But that doesn't happen in practice.

Southerners will argue that the system favours the North, while Northerners will tell you the South benefits the most; and everyone screams they are marginalised.

Although we claim to run a federal system, in reality Nigerian government is unitary.
Most revenue is made in the south (all oil producing areas are in the south), collated by the 'federal' government and re-distributed in such a way that most revenue goes to the north.

Hati13:

Yes, they would have stayed.

We are giving billions of $ to Djibouti annually for letting us use their port. We are a poor country and those huge money could have been used on developing the infrastructures of the country if we had our own seaport. If one day, either Eritrea or Djibouti joined us, this problem may be resolved. But with all those difficulties we are facing, our economy growth is the fastest in Africa and one of the fastest in the world.

Interesting
Heard you guys are making huge strides in terms of infrastructural development, I think it was said you rolled out the first light rail project in Africa

XKZ:


Well, in Nigeria the system is designed, in theory, to ensure that the needs of everyone is equally met. But that doesn't happen in practice.

Southerners will argue that the system favours the North, while Northerners will tell you the South benefits the most; and everyone screams they are marginalised.

Although we claim to run a federal system, in reality Nigerian government is unitary.
Most revenue is made in the south (all oil producing areas are in the south), collated by the 'federal' government and re-distributed in such a way that most revenue goes to the north.

Do northern and southern Nigerians hate each other's?

Is it safe to live in the northern part? I ask because, Boko Haram stronghold on is in northern Nigeria.

XKZ:


Interesting
Heard you guys are making huge strides in terms of infrastructural development, I think it was said you rolled out the first light rail project in Africa

Yeah, we are the first sub sharan nation to have light railway? There are also others railways which are on construction to connect major parts of the country. We are also building the largest Dam(Renaissance Dam) and Airport(other international airport adjacent to the current Bole international airport) in Africa and one of the largest in the world. There are also other big infrastructure projects which are in construction.

What is the condition of your railway which is in construction process?

What about other big infrastructure projects in your country?

Hati13:

Do northern and southern Nigerians hate each other's?

Is it safe to live in the northern part? I ask because, Boko Haram stronghold on is in northern Nigeria.

For the most part, southerners and northerners live peacefully side by side. They do not necessarily hate each other.
Most conflicts are usually religious in nature (but take on an ethnic hue because the north is mostly Muslim and the south Christian); or political (as politicians tend to play the ethnic card when they're trying to get their way)

For instance an irresponsible governor in a northern state, a few days ago at the commencement of Ramadan, allegedly implied that Christians will be attacked if the eat while Muslims are fasting

With respect to Boko Haram their activities are limited to part of 1 state out of 19 northern states, so it is largely safe to live in the north

Hati13:

Yeah, we are the first sub sharan nation to have light railway? There are also others railways which are on construction to connect major parts of the country. We are also building the largest Dam(Renaissance Dam) and Airport(other international airport adjacent to the current Bole international airport) in Africa and one of the largest in the world. There are also other big infrastructure projects which are in construction.

What is the condition of your railway which is in construction process?

What about other big infrastructure projects in your country?

Currently, our railway is in a moribund state. There has been some new projects in the sector though, like the Abuja-Kaduna railway.
Also some new projects are being proposed, like the coastal railway. And GE is coming in to manage a large portion of the railway network.
At the state level, Lagos State is building a light rail network, though it's more than 5 years behind schedule.

Hopefully in the coming years rail transportation in Nigeria would see significant improvement



With respect to the dam, is it on the Nile

XKZ:


Currently, our railway is in a moribund state. There has been some new projects in the sector though, like the Abuja-Kaduna railway.
Also some new projects are being proposed, like the coastal railway. And GE is coming in to manage a large portion of the railway network.
At the state level, Lagos State is building a light rail network, though it's more than 5 years behind schedule.

Hopefully in the coming years rail transportation in Nigeria would see significant improvement



With respect to the dam, is it on the Nile

Yes, our Renaissance Dam is being build on the Nile(Blue Nile).

Do you know that, 85% of the Nile river water originate from Ethiopia Tana lake.

85%(Blue Nile) + 15%(white Nile)=main Nile river.

Do you blame corruption for the delay of your railway?

Hati13:

Yes, our Renaissance Dam is being build on the Nile(Blue Nile).

Do you know that, 85% of the Nile river water originate from Ethiopia Tana lake.

85%(Blue Nile) + 15%(white Nile)=main Nile river.

Right. Are there no issues with other countries that use the Nile

Hati13:

Do you blame corruption for the delay of your railway?

Of course, I do.
Nigeria has been aptly described as a kleptocracy; the major achievement of our successive leaders is enriching themselves from the public coffers.

XKZ:



Right. Are there no issues with other countries that use the Nile







Of course, I do.
Nigeria has been aptly described as a kleptocracy; the major achievement of our successive leaders is enriching themselves from the public coffers.

There was opposition from Sudan initially. Now, it has been resolved. Egypt also opposed it first and continues to oppose it. They are saying, large quantity of water and fertile soil will be cut by the Dam. They even warned us of a possibility of striking the Dam or declaring war. The truth however is there isn't going to be significant water reduction to them by the Dam. They just don't want to see a powerful Ethiopia.

Our military is best and they can declare a war if they want. We had kicked their ass twice in the 19th century and we will do it again if they come.

The two guys shld get a room and discuss. This thread is for secrets.

Thanks