Dear Nairalanders, please I need your candid advice on what to do or how to handle this emotional crises. My Mom had an accident and fractured her thigh bone. We had also been treating her for sugar prior to the time she had the accident. One day my auntie (my mom's younger sister) bought ice cream for everyone because the heat was killing, she also got for my mom but I stopped her from taking it. She really wanted it cos of the heat but I struggled to stop her from taking it because of her sugar issues. She eventually died some weeks later due to pain induced BP. Since then the only regret and guilt on my mind has been that day I stopped her from taking the ice cream and it makes me really guilty. Please how do I handle this emotional trauma because it's eating me up, would it have been better if I allowed her take the ice cream afterall she still died eventually. Any psychologist/Docs in the house? Please professional advice please.

You did what you thought was in the best interest for your mum.
Any child who cares for his mum's health,would do the same based on her condition at that time.
Free your mind,you showed her love and did your best.
Remember the law of dynamic negatives... Anything that can go wrong,will,at the worst possible moment.
I am really sorry that you lost her... PLEASE ACCEPT MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES.
May God give you the strength to carry on.

lalasticlala,Mynd44

My condolences. I'm sure your mom understood you were only looking out for her health. Don't blame yourself. My condolences once again.

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Dear Nairalanders, please I need your candid advice on what to do or how to handle this emotional crises. My Mom had an accident and fractured her thigh bone. We had also been treating her for sugar prior to the time she had the accident. One day my auntie (my mom's younger sister) bought ice cream for everyone because the heat was killing, she also got for my mom but I stopped her from taking it. She really wanted it cos of the heat but I struggled to stop her from taking it because of her sugar issues. She eventually died some weeks later due to pain induced BP. Since then the only regret and guilt on my mind has been that day I stopped her from taking the ice cream and it makes me really guilty. Please how do I handle this emotional trauma because it's eating me up, would it have been better if I allowed her take the ice cream afterall she still died eventually. Any psychologist/Docs in the house? Please professional advice please.

Please accept my sympathy

How old are you?

I Wish I Have Someone Like You Around As My Patient's Relatives. Imagine The Favourable Outcome,,

What you did may have given you extra time with her biko.

GlobalGisting:
Dear Nairalanders, please I need your candid advice on what to do or how to handle this emotional crises. My Mom had an accident and fractured her thigh bone. We had also been treating her for sugar prior to the time she had the accident. One day my auntie (my mom's younger sister) bought ice cream for everyone because the heat was killing, she also got for my mom but I stopped her from taking it. She really wanted it cos of the heat but I struggled to stop her from taking it because of her sugar issues. She eventually died some weeks later due to pain induced BP. Since then the only regret and guilt on my mind has been that day I stopped her from taking the ice cream and it makes me really guilty. Please how do I handle this emotional trauma because it's eating me up, would it have been better if I allowed her take the ice cream afterall she still died eventually. Any psychologist/Docs in the house? Please professional advice please.

It was not your fault. You did your best

GlobalGisting:
Dear Nairalanders, please I need your candid advice on what to do or how to handle this emotional crises. My Mom had an accident and fractured her thigh bone. We had also been treating her for sugar prior to the time she had the accident. One day my auntie (my mom's younger sister) bought ice cream for everyone because the heat was killing, she also got for my mom but I stopped her from taking it. She really wanted it cos of the heat but I struggled to stop her from taking it because of her sugar issues. She eventually died some weeks later due to pain induced BP. Since then the only regret and guilt on my mind has been that day I stopped her from taking the ice cream and it makes me really guilty. Please how do I handle this emotional trauma because it's eating me up, would it have been better if I allowed her take the ice cream afterall she still died eventually. Any psychologist/Docs in the house? Please professional advice please.

You were trying to help her, and you couldn't have known she would die few days later.

You're not guilty op. Maybe you extended her lifespan.
Accept my condolences tho.

Cc lalasticlala.

Op whenever someone we love dies, we always have guilty feeling one way or the other. Its normal so don't allow it weigh u down. If I tell u the story of my Dad's death and the guilty feeling it caused me, u just pity me. If u had allowed her eat the ice cream, by now u would have been contemplating suicide. You did the best for her.

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If not you, your mum would have died earlier, sugar and wound healing do not go together. She probably died of embolus and not that Bp rap

kelechiodo:
Op whenever someone we love dies, we always have guilty feeling one way or the other. Its normal so don't allow it weigh u down. If I tell u the story of my Dad's death and the guilty feeling it caused me, u just pity me. If u had allowed her eat the ice cream, by now u would have been contemplating suicide. You did the best for her.

Very true.
Op, please let the guilt go. I'm sure time will heal you though.