Question: "Do I have to confess my adultery to my spouse?"

Answer: Whether or not to confess the sin of adultery to one's spouse is a dilemma for many Christians who have had the unfortunate experience of the sin of adultery. Worldly "experts" usually encourage adulterers to keep their mouths shut about their infidelities, proclaiming worse damage will be done by confessing. The problem with this is that it stifles one's conscience and doesn't allow for the restoration of relationships that confession is intended to encompass. James 5:16 says, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."

The apostle Paul wisely stated, "So I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man" (Acts 24:16). Although adultery is a sin against God, first and foremost, the Bible also says that our bodies do not belong to ourselves, but also to the one we are married to (1 Corinthians 7:4). The physical act of sex is the symbol of the way a married couple becomes one flesh when God joins them together in marriage (1 Corinthians 6:15-16). For these reasons, a person who has committed adultery should pray and allow the Holy Spirit to lead him or her, confessing the infidelity at the appropriate time.

A guilty conscience will not go away simply by trying to ignore it. It may, in fact, lead to psychological and even physical problems. As difficult as it would be for anyone to tell their husband or wife that they have been unfaithful, it is necessary not only for the integrity of the marriage, but also for the relationship between the person and God, so that their conscience may be clear and they will be able to live a holy and blameless life.

Nine years ago I had a serious problem with my husband as he had a gambling problem, having no time for me and the children. He could not give me attention at all, he hardly told me how much he loved me, and he did not give me money because he used to spend it all at the casino.

I was tempted and fell into a trap of adultery since I needed somebody to love and value me. I thought may be my man was ignoring me because I was valueless. The guy which I fell inlove with was very caring, although he would ask for sexual intercourse at times, but I would refuse him. There was an element of fearing God in me. I remember when I used to attend a church service, I would lift my hands up singing worship songs to the Almighty, satan would just whisper in my ear telling me to bring my dirty hands down because I am committing adultery.
This thing worried me a lot, I kept on asking God for forgiveness, but loving the guy at the same time. One day the Holy Spirit told me to confess the sin before it was too late.

I was forced to listen to Him, I first confessed the sin to my pastor and he asked one question, he said, "Mrs Mabaso, do what the bible say. Does the bible say we commit adultery or does it say do not commit adultery?" I was speechless because I knew the truth about the commandment. I went back to the guy and told him it was over, I then confessed my sin to my husband after a week. He was very disappointed and could not believe what I was telling him. But I explained to him that he was the one who was pushing me away because I was robbed of love and care, even financially. I told him that if he was able to give me these, I would not have fallen for the guy.

After I confessed to my husband I felt like there was a huge stone which was offloaded from my back. I was free as a bird. Confession helped me a lot, I love the Holy Spirit who prompted in my ear about confessing my sin before it was too late. I became so very close to God and prayed that my husband would love me and gamble no more. I always spent time with God by praying and fasting. He answered my prayers, and my husband loves me to this day as I continue to be submissive to him.


Source>> https://ebible.com/questions/1274-do-i-have-to-confess-my-adultery-to-my-spouse

fastgyal:
A man can
A woman shouldn't.

fastgyal:
A man can
A woman shouldn't.

Deicide:
Why do women feel so safe exposing their unclothedness to their pastor is it psychological?