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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Nobody: 11:21am On Jun 21, 2017
hmmm... undecided
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Nobody: 11:24am On Jun 21, 2017
Caustics:
how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.
So as I've an English name that makes me an American citizen

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by omodapson(m): 11:30am On Jun 21, 2017
Na wa o, we are happy to name our children all the foreign names becasue they are Oyinbo names but it becomes an issue if the child is given an African name from another ethnic group. We should wise up and stop all this ethnocentrism.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Nobody: 11:30am On Jun 21, 2017
Afam4eva:
Even though I have reservations about naming your child outside your tribal name but it shouldnt be the business of the father in-law as long as he truly married his daughter. The issue should be whether a marriage happened and not whether an Igbo child has a Yoruba name.


Even if a marriage did not happen, between the man and father in-law, who has more right over the child? It's common sense.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by meemeetruth(f): 11:30am On Jun 21, 2017
For Me I c notin wrong with the name,der's dis name in yoruba I so much love "subonmi "if I eventually name my child one day it doesn't mean, sum1 sumwhere may lyk my name nd personality nd want to name der child too

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Afam4eva(m): 11:31am On Jun 21, 2017
misterme:



Even if a marriage did not happen, between the man and father in-law, who has more right over the child? It's common sense.
Yes, he does by law. The father in-law is hinging his right on traditional law.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by frisky2good(m): 11:33am On Jun 21, 2017
Guy just document all the effort you have made and leave them. They will call you to come and take your child when he asks for his real father with a cutlas in his hand. The child will only be disappointed if you did not make any effort to get him.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by tiger28: 11:38am On Jun 21, 2017
So Jonathan answering Azikiwe meant his future was doomedRotimi amaechi answering Rotimi is a curse?Hatred has diminished these ppl. So just because you THINK he didn't marry your daughter, the child should be deprived of her father?this is the same thing these folks do to widows. They will rather kick a widow and her children on the street in order to take possession of OUR brother's property.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by eyinjuege: 11:39am On Jun 21, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.

I know a Yoruba person who has an Igbo name with no links to Igbo tribe at all.
She was given the name by a close friend of the family who's Igbo. The parents requested this family friend bring a name for the child during the naming.
Some people name their children after someone else, who's not necessarily from their tribe.
We know the FIL misses his daughter, and wants to have some part of her with him. However, the man in question is the father of the child. It's unfair to deprive a child of his father, especially if he's a responsible fellow.
The FIL has requested he completes the rites on his daughter, they are both from the same place so he should try and do that for peace to reign . I however hope the baba is not trying to turn it into a money making venture.
There's enough sadness for all of them already.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by eyinjuege: 11:53am On Jun 21, 2017
But come to think of it, does it mean the children of Flavour, the musician don't bear his name? Since he hasn't performed the rites on one or both of the baby mamas?
Are the children allowed to inherit him also?

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Timbuktuo: 11:55am On Jun 21, 2017
SirVintageCock:
What do you want now, a fight or a meaningful discussion?

The post he quoted is a stuupid one. Attempting to debate that is an insult to logic and common sense.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Timbuktuo: 11:58am On Jun 21, 2017
Afam4eva:
Even though I have reservations about naming your child outside your tribal name but it shouldnt be the business of the father in-law as long as he truly married his daughter. The issue should be whether a marriage happened and not whether an Igbo child has a Yoruba name.

My friend, shut up. That community leader is playing with his freedom. He has kidnapped a minor. It's like you people want to devolve into animal behavior, right? We will not tolerate that in Nigeria. Do as you please when you get your Biafra.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Timbuktuo: 12:03pm On Jun 21, 2017
eyinjuege:
But come to think of it, does it mean the children of Flavour, the musician don't bear his name? Since he hasn't performed the rites on one or both of the baby mamas?
Are the children allowed to inherit him also?

Don't mind the idiots. Tomorrow they will be foaming at the mouth claiming they are hated everywhere. Why will they not be hated when they are as barbaric as pre stone age humans. Imagine the justification and rationalisation going on in this thread.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by belindar: 12:04pm On Jun 21, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.

You just open your mouth without any reasoning . You can give any name to your child. Which Law, traditions or whatsoever prevents anybody to give any name he she likes to his child. Must everything be tribals.
The father inlaw has overstepped his boundary. What right has the father inlaw has to rename the child. It is a pity if it is in advanced country the father inlaw will be cooling off in prison for kidnapp, abducting and forceful imprison the child against the fathers will.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by tooth4tooth: 12:18pm On Jun 21, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.
You are wrong,the old man is wrong.A man can name his child any name he desires and it is nobody's business.The father inlaw's action is just borne out of sentiment.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by donqx: 12:20pm On Jun 21, 2017
ha
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by ipobarecriminals: 12:22pm On Jun 21, 2017
sad That baba is a wicked man. Thank God her dead daughter. isn't. responsible. for the husband upkeep, the man for open his yansh for ridicule. So the Igbo that name their child Tosin/tokunboh are werey,abi?I can imagine how Biafra country go be with old man like dis

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by ivolt: 12:22pm On Jun 21, 2017
The child was abducted because the husband didn't complete the payment of his wife purchase.
Is she a property ?
SMH at this stupid tradition.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by tooth4tooth: 12:24pm On Jun 21, 2017
Afam4eva:

Yes, he does by law. The father in-law is hinging his right on traditional law.
Pls enlighten me! Which traditional law allows us to answer English names and stops us from answering other African names?

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by patola080(m): 12:37pm On Jun 21, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.
u re not well so is a sin to love other people's name, d name may have meaning to him , so pls use ur head to think and wen Governor Fayose was giving lgbo name u re happy about it fool
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by ipobarecriminals: 1:08pm On Jun 21, 2017
patola080:
u re not well so is a sin to love other people's name, d name may have meaning to him , so pls use ur head to think
which head,the same F.H u mean? Hatred has becloud their sense of reasoning.They breath and think from their anus.Everything nah money/business. Nonsense. Abeg,whoever knw Lagos CP FATAI OWOSENI should tell him to lock up that old man/let the court do the needful. To hell with their useless tradition

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by fpeter(f): 1:12pm On Jun 21, 2017
Afam4eva:

That you accept it doesn't mean others should.

Of course everyone mustn't accept it.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by ipobarecriminals: 1:13pm On Jun 21, 2017
misterme:



Even if a marriage did not happen, between the man and father in-law, who has more right over the child? It's common sense.
common sense keh! Mbanu! As long as money is involve.Make God dey help us sha.May we nor jam wrong in-law
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by ipobarecriminals: 1:16pm On Jun 21, 2017
sad Afam4eva,u dey fall hand walahi.May u not disappoint God

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by swuftz: 1:24pm On Jun 21, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.

how can you be so myopic. the father can name or called his child any name he wants at birth given the circumstances of the child's birth, Yoruba name, Hausa name of Igbo name. it doesn't really matter.. The child can changed the name and bear any name he wants when he reached adulthood. Only ethnic bigots would see something wrong in a Yoruba name given to an Igbo child. besides he was born in Lagos a Yoruba land, he is a Lagosian

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by 9jaflave: 1:39pm On Jun 21, 2017
That father-in-law is definitely the wicked and troublesome type.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by PrexyD(f): 2:33pm On Jun 21, 2017
kitaatita:

The young man in this case should just conclude the cultural requirement of paying bride price on the late wife. In Igbo culture, you don't claim a child unless you pay the pride price of the mother. The custom and culture of Igbo people will be strange to the magistrate. It is not something that should be subjected to legal rigmarole.

if i may ask in a situation were in the man died even without paying the complete bride price and the girl's family is not in support of the engagement what do you thing happens to the child?

i know and have witnessed such situations of wife or husband's death but the families have no right to take custody of the child restricting association to the other party.whether married or not he owns the child and should have access to the baby unless the grandfather has other hidden agenda as regards to having no male child of his own.

also meditate on the fact that if the man has denied been responsible for the pregnancy, the same man(father-in law) would taunt and torment his daughter to provide the father of her son. He should be grateful that the man accepted both mother and child saving him from the shame he would have gone through especially as a Chief, his daughter who would have been rename as a second hand/ ashawo who can't keep her legs closed and the baby who would have been called a bastard.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by XX01(f): 3:35pm On Jun 21, 2017
Father that left the baby for the maternal grandmother to take care of now wants the baby back because he heard they changed the name? Interesting.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by Timbuktuo: 4:24pm On Jun 21, 2017
XX01:
Father that left the baby for the maternal grandmother to take care of now wants the baby back because he heard they changed the name? Interesting.

Try to look at this issue objectively.

1. The baby's mother is late.

2. The father is a busy man, everybody knows bank working hours.

3. Father does the responsible thing, give the baby to someone who has the time to care for it, his MIL.

Please, I would like you to reconsider this matter and present something the father has done wrong.

The grandparents have absolutely no right to change the baby's name. Even if the child was abandoned. For your information, these are not the first set of grandparents to change a child's name. Eventually, the children change their name to the ones their father christened them. This is all unnecessary, disrespectful nonsense.

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Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by edgecution(m): 1:10am On Jun 22, 2017
Old fool in law. So Samuel and Destiny are Igbo names? Baba Traditional.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by eyinjuege: 6:08am On Jun 22, 2017
XX01:
Father that left the baby for the maternal grandmother to take care of now wants the baby back because he heard they changed the name? Interesting.

He left the baby and his sister to help look after the baby with his MIL. They chased his sister away , and baba took the baby away. They do not want him to have access to his child. He allowed them have access to the child, and never for once thought of keeping the child away from them. They however played a fast one on him.
He didn't just abandon his baby there.
Re: Banker Accuses Father-in-law Of Abducting, Renaming Son (pics) by sleekman(m): 8:34am On Jun 22, 2017
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how can he name his child a yoruba name when both families have no ties to yoruba. The father in law was right on that part. He is probably withholding the child because of loss of his daughter.
what the hell are u saying? Na ur pickin? He has the right to name his child what ever he wants. stop public display of ur ignorance. If he married his wife legally then the high court he has taken the case to will finalise the matter.

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