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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by auntysimbiat(f): 10:35pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
seconded 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Divay22(f): 10:35pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
If only they will stop.. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by EWAagoyin(m): 10:35pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
No be who dem dey see dem go put burden on... Emi omolomo laarin ero ma ti Ja Lo.. . 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by bunmioguns(m): 10:36pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
makydebbie: I hate that statement like anything 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by mmsen: 10:36pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
No lies told. A lot of Nigerian parents are mentally disturbed and completely irrational - they don't trust their children to make decisions for themselves about their own lives but will entrust the younger children in the care of the eldest child... 10 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Poseidon000: 10:36pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by winternationals(m): 10:37pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
that's why I thank God for my family. team first born 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by CHAVINCI: 10:39pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by kratoss(m): 10:39pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Uv spoke my mind all about nigerian parents.. .. Worst part of it is you will see a 60 year old father still bearing kids because he feels he has the older ones to take the responsibility of the little one's as if its an obligation...and its not as if he has done anything worth mentioning to the older ones. their own is to just born plenty children with no plan whatsoever of how to take full responsibility, small thing dey go begin dey brag i hav 20 children as if na better tin..... Mtsww 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by sukkot: 10:40pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
poor mans problems not saying am rich but this is poor mans problems 12 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Afam4eva(m): 10:41pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
I've seen people bringing up this school of thought more frequently recently and i think it' imperative that i add my 2cents. We have become very stingy and greedy generation. These days people just want to enjoy by themselves without anybody to fend for. As much as i believe that the burden should be reduced on the first borns, it's important to note that almost every good thng of life usually accrues to first born but educationally, financialy etc in order for them to come out better human beings and be able to fend for the younger ones who weren't as privileged. For them to now come out when they have "Made it" and start complaining is selfish in my opinion. We're not American for fvck sake. Our families are our lives. We have to take care of them until they stand on their own feet. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 10:41pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Nyceguy92: My guy this your sharp mouth nah because you dey recieving end... 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by chuksanambra: 10:43pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Afam4eva: There is a fine line between right, duty and privilege. What would be regarded as not enough and how much would be regarded as sufficient? 17 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 10:44pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
God, Allah or whatever you believes in bless you till u depart this earth. I came into this world carrying this burden,,,,but u knw wat? I chose to be weak as they say, hustle for my life first b4 family 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Jamean(f): 10:44pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Lol! I just had this conversation with a friend this evening. I hope our generation learns from it and avoid having many children. In fact anything more than 3 is a crowd, don't stress the older ones to train the younger ones because you became incapable or irresponsible as parents. The thing dey vex me no be small. Family planning is free in government hospitals. 9 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by LegendaryArnold(m): 10:44pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
if you look am well, na the first born dey shout spot on spot on! lol if na time to share property, you go dey see dem dey claim say na dem first come this world make them first choose. some even take everything and make the younger ones beg for theirs. Even Jesus being the first creation of God take responsibility by dying on the cross for our sins. now, E reach responsibility dem dey para... continue. I don't burden my elder ones though but with much respect comes much responsiblity. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Curdlebug(m): 10:45pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
[quote author=CHAVINCI post=57902449][/quote] I HOPE YOU LIKED THE PHOTO |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by nkemdi89(f): 10:45pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Most of them assume the responsibilities without their parents telling them to, first issues are always understanding and calm, unfortunately its common in the east, most of my colleagues are passing through that. One after training his younger ones they started abusing him that he should get married, that he his promiscuous. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by LoveJesus87(m): 10:45pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
sexybbstar:Thank you o 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by islandmoon: 10:46pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
OP, tell that to the northerners.. organize seminar in the north. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by danidee10(m): 10:46pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Well i just Thank God My parents are not like that. But that doesn't mean i'll allow my Elder one's rest sha 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by ivolt: 10:47pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
@ sexybbstar you are only scratching the surface, Nigerian parents invest heavily both materially and emotionally on their first borns, so expecting him/her to take care of some responsibility is justified. I have seen families where wealthy uncles even contribute to their nephews empowerment. It is the Nigerian family code that is at work. Take the US for example, some parents usually leave their kids to fend for themselves after high school and many are even asked to move out of the parents house, left with little choice, may kids have to take up debt to finance their own education. This hardly happens in the Nigerian setting where parents feel responsible for the child until he/she is successful except the parent are indigent. No wonder many american adults put their parents in senior homes and only visit them during christmas. I see your post as encouraging selfishness and attempting to destroy the ladder one used in climbing up after benefiting from the same system. When children are tired of the current system, parents will also stop investing in post-high school life of their children, so they can focus on the younger siblings. In cases where parents contribute nothing to the child's success or the eldest child is not financially buoyant, then he/she can boycott any responsibility placed on him. 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nyceguy92: 10:47pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Fourwinds: No need going back and forth on this matter. But you are deviating from the point. Parents sending their female children into prostitution is different from the issue here, which is the role of the eldest child in the family. Please tell me, if you are the eldest in your family, what would be your role towards your siblings? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by whizqueen(f): 10:47pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
. OP spot on 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by britishknight: 10:47pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
Na for this age to take a clue. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by lepasharon(f): 10:49pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
African parenting sucks 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by uyiekpenn(m): 10:49pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
My parents are my essence and the reason I work hard. If they didn't abandon and had not taken care of me, it is my duty to do the same. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Liamm(m): 10:50pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by MrMcJay(m): 10:50pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
There's a difference between right, privilege and duty. Also, there is no parameter for determining what help is insufficient, sufficient or oversufficient when dealing with such matters. Hence, it is subjective. As for me, I'll take care of my parents, benefactors and dependants WITHIN MY ABILITY. No one is gonna tell me what is not enough and what is too much. I'll help them all but satisfy myself as to adequacy and quality. If you helped me with little when you had nothing, I'll willingly help with much when I have a little. 8 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 10:51pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
It really depends remember that we all will die one day and that burden you are seeing now is a legacy you are building for your family. Do what you can honestly for them and let the rest fall by the wayside. The most expensive cost in life only is a funeral remember that everything else there will be gains to suppress just bare and smile |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by twentyk(m): 10:54pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
well i want to make so much money and take care of my MUM...SHE DESERVE EVERY DAMN THING.... wen i get TARTY BILLION for the AKANT....mumsy share go be 27 billy....SHE IS MY GOD 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Afam4eva(m): 10:56pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
chuksanambra:Imagine a typical Nigerian parent with 4 children who work their asses of to feed, cloth, accomodate and send their wards to school. Do our parents have 7 heads that they're able to fend for us? How come a first born who after all the sacrifice is able to secure a job that is probbaly way better than that of his parent, have the effrontery to complain. Some fools are even saying why didn't the parents use birth control to give birth to children they can take care of. Maybe the first born shouldn't even have been born. The sperm that produced him/her shuld have probably been an episode of masturbbation. 2 Likes |
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