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Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 11:13am On Jul 03, 2017 |
ivolt: It's not a misconception,its a fact!!! Look when you love someone(weather man or woman) you're ready to share n comfort your loved ones both in sickness n health,in riches n difficulty. That's the way it is.... If u like believe it or not.. That's the plain truth. 2 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by ivolt: 11:22am On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83: You have been fooled by nollyhood love stories, which doesn't play out in real life. Standing by a loved one in sickness and riches is a question of compassion, empathy and commitment! Many young people don't understand this and think "love" is a kind of magic that makes you do the impossible, no it is not, this is a fact many couples discovered after 5+ years of marriage. It is no surprise that all over the world "love marriages" don't last as much as those based on practical realities. It is not an accident that our grandparents marriages were very successful. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 11:27am On Jul 03, 2017 |
ivolt: So enlighten me, why were our grandparents marriages so successful? |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by ivolt: 11:29am On Jul 03, 2017 |
yhemster: While your view is a progressive one, it will meet its greatest opposition from men in general because that will be losing their "authority" in the home. I don't know the OP, but if he is one those who believes that he should be worshipped because he provides for the family, then he must live with the reality of being disrespected if he can't live up to his image. 2 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by ivolt: 11:35am On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83: Because they place practical realities first e.g income, desirability, integrity, behaviour and principles, family background etc. They went ahead with the marriage if their partner ticked those boxes and they understood that love will come with the marriage and that love, an emotion which rise and fall erratically cannot be relied on to keep the home. 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 11:52am On Jul 03, 2017 |
connectpoint: You're right. It's speculative. |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 11:54am On Jul 03, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn: Many men suffer hell in similar scenario at the hands of ya sisters so i can relate |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Amhappy(f): 12:11pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
CapitalCee: Oga pls Take your quote to another place. I never called the man lazy, I only told him the truth.To do something no matter how small and regain his respect. Do some handy jobs and return home with something no matter how small.He can even use their car for Taxi,bread selling etc. God designed man as the provider. God did not assign that role to women because He know better. The same thing I tell my fellow women. How can you be a help mate if you contribute nothing? Meanwhile I responded to the guy who quoted me based on what he said. I don't support people staying idle. |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by CapitalCee(m): 12:31pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Amhappy: My friend keep quiet, does that justify the insults she is raining on him? where did he say he is idle the entire four months, the problem is that he can't shoulder the entire family responsibility the way he used to, hence the wicked wife started keeping records of the amount she contributed. It's obvious that anything he will bring home for now will not be up to what his wife is earning. Who told you that God has made it mandatory for the man to be the sole provider for the family? If so why then did the man waste his hard earned money to send her to school? Is it not for her to possibly start working and cover up in situations like this? Pending when the man finds his feet. Don't tell me that not fully providing for his family for a period of 4 months has translated to laziness. The way you women of this generation think sometimes is very silly. This your response has practically confirm that what the OP is saying is true. Somebody like you might even be worse than the woman in question 4 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by chibuzorAbia: 2:01pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83: You must be very very young. You will learn trust me. 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 2:22pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
chibuzorAbia: Oga! I'm 34 years old and believe I'm old and experienced enough to know what I'm talking about |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by GodsLastBorn: 4:22pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
DukeNija:Bro thanks so much for bringing this to my attention, I've been noticing it but felt its nothing but now I do understand. 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by jconsulting(f): 4:24pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
The owner of this story is a foolish man, in addition you actually married someone,s wife because if she is your wife she will stay with you and support you, and the idiot you are find something to do and be a man, stop collecting​ money from your wife , bury your pride and think of what to do next, I lost my job as a banker and I enter construction site you won't believe it use my idea and the owner of the site employ me later I got another job , the problem with ex bankers are their ego cos of the life style they are used to.........Some bankers will actually die a poor man 2 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by GodsLastBorn: 4:40pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
haske7:I don't know you but I want to fxxking kiss your hands, wow laaawd thank you! at least we have two oooooooo. May you marry a very good man that will treat you like a queen. Tah!! I de follow you jooor 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Jman06(m): 5:04pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83:What we call ''love'' in sexual relationship most times is mere bodily attraction which fades with time. Many who claimed to be inlove before marriage are divorced today. What happened? They got used to whatever that blinded them to their partner's real character and reality dawned on them. This is why it is good to marry people due to their good character. Marriage is an eye opener! Like i said before, don't be surprised that the lady was head over hills inlove with op before now. 2 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by armyofone(m): 5:13pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Op, Financial stress between couples isn't funny. Roll up your sleeves and help at home, keep up your games and work harder to get a job. 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by chibuzorAbia: 5:22pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83: I believe you. Honestly I do but you know nothing yet. If you have uncles you respect and trust please go and repeat what you put up there. |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by bukatyne(f): 5:41pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
mylander: Sorry bro for your job loss, it is a painful experience. Your post is not enough for us to decipher why your wife seems not to be supportive. While the going was good, how did you treat your wife? How did you relate with her especially in money matters? I can pay someone's bills from the place of love and from the place of pride and condescending. I will assume that your wife was the one in charge of domestics; what is the model now? Are you home more often? If yes, do you still expect her to handle all she was handling while she was the person at home? Do you know see everything through the lenses of 'you are now misbehaving because you are the breadwinner' bla bla bla? I will appreciate answers if you are inclined to. 3 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by djon78(m): 5:45pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Jman06: You know Bro, it took me years to understand that the best thing to happen to any young man is to marry during his down times. I lost all I had, lost millions in a bad deal. I was miserable, got jilted by the babe who was doing lovey dovey before. That was the best moment of my life, because it revealed me to myself, it showed me the true color of women. It helped me remove the chaffs from my life. That is why I tell young men, the best time to get a mate is your down time. Yes. The woman that stick by you during your down time, you must make your queen. I am so sorry for men that marry when the going is good, because life is not always up, when it is down, then they will know the nature of that woman that was confessing all the love for you, when you dey sample am, because money dey. Wait till things turn down, she will show you her through nature. The biggest bane to many young men is that because of present success they go for women that satisfy their sensual and lustful cravings, while neglecting the most important quality: Character. In the end they will get burnt by their decision, which may be too late, bring misery, or even heart attack if care is not taking. Young men if you are down now, it is a blessing in disguise, use it find that woman that accepts your condition, stick with her, commit to her. Another advice to young men, enjoy everyday of your life whether money dey or not. Be thankful to God for the gift of life. Try as much as possible to catch fun out of life whether money dey or not. Don't worship material things, live a very simple life. If you begin to make money save and invest especially in appreciating assets like land, properties, mutual funds, stocks, and even other businesses. Don't waste money to impress women. If possible hide your money, don't live flamboyant life. It will save you from strange women, read Proverbs 5. Proverbs 31 from 10. When dating look for a woman with good character that is your licence to peace. 8 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by haske7(f): 8:41pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
GodsLastBorn:j Thank you bro. Am already married and I have an amazing life. May God see you through. It is well |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by praise1705(f): 9:18pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Rolly83: one was submissive and the other took charge |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by LEOVOLUTION(m): 11:56pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Ifyone123:MMM? Sister why. |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by DukeNija(m): 10:16am On Jul 04, 2017 |
jconsulting: Good points. |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by ucheuzor1(m): 12:08pm On Jul 04, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:In this context, the man never sat at home. He lost his job which isn't out of place in any society. Because of that he lost his respect and dignity at home....pls tell me u aren't supporting this womab 3 Likes |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Greenbaypackers: 6:19pm On Jul 04, 2017 |
I know a lot of people have lost jobs in recent times and had to go through some changes. Here's my advice MAN -Please understand your wife is not accustomed with working, she has been depending on you since she got married all of a sudden she has to work and still do her house chores. It can be quite stressful -Gently reassure her things will get better, this is only a phase and not the end. -Appreciate her occasionally. "Ha my wife thank God for you oh. What will we have done. You are one strong woman". I tell you she will never complain - Please pick up after yourself at least, am not saying you should do all the house chores but do what you can. Try not to add to the work load. Like throwing your shoes and cloths all over the place. -I know you are looking for other jobs but please don't lay on the couch all day pressing phone and watching TV. Call some Entrepreneur friends and ex -customers find out if they have anything for you in the mean time, ask if you can hang around, you never know something might pop up. For supervising or PA you might 5k to 10k I know its small but you've got something in your pocket and you are learning new skills while you wait for your dream job. These days for introduction Mr A to Mr B you can get 10% commission without being involved in the job. But you might never know who needs what by laying on your couch all day. WOMAN -This is a good time to praise your man, not insult him. Say something like" I never knew this is what it feels like to work from 7am to 5pm" . Help build his self esteem and appreciate him for all the times he provided. -Assure him it will soon be over -Instead of complaining, thank God you got a job at this crucial time otherwise what will you all live on. Look on the positive side. Bad situation + bad attitude isn't going anywhere anytime soon. -Kindly prioritize and cut down unnecessary spending. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. -Watch your words, tone and body language . He is highly sensitive, almost everything sounds like an insult to him right now. My two cents 1 Like |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by mikolo80: 8:28am On Jul 05, 2017 |
mylander:Shebi na you wan marry bling bling wife |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by MrCork: 11:07am On Jul 05, 2017 |
Fabulocity: ...ok so.do u have nyansh? |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Josephamstrong1(m): 8:05am On Jul 12, 2017 |
zinny377: When you have a bae that got your back.
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Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 10:15am On Jul 12, 2017 |
sweerychick:Na like u dem go talk before it happens o especially d semi illiterate ones |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by walex2(m): 10:24am On Jul 21, 2017 |
MizMyColi: For better for worse. the head remains the head. go and rest |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Partnerbiz3: 2:46pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
stukinherdr1222:Pls how did u know it was gerd? |
Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by stukinherdr1222(m): 2:20am On Nov 26, 2017 |
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