Please I need serious and mature advice. My girlfriend who I love so much is pregnant for me. We actually saw it coming but the problem is am nt financially stable. Our parent arnt rich enough to carry the burden, but my woman and I has agreed to live on the little I earn as salary. Also, we are planning to have our introduction as soon as possible just to salvage the situation. I hinted my mum about my plan for the introduction (hiding the part that she is pregnant already). Mums response was to be patient since I already know the situation of things from the home font, she advice we shud wait till probably next Year, hoping things will be better. Its really a trying moment for me presently as I can't concentrate, thinking how am going to cope as there is no help anywhere. I love my girl, she understand the situation of things and she is ready to sail with me no matter how, and I dnt want her to suffer for any reason. Being a poor boy, I dnt know how to go about the whole thing.
Please I need advice on what to do. (abortion is out of it)
Note: is there anyone who has experienced this and scaled through.

Mr. Engr.. First of all u were so careless to get her pregnant without thinking of the conequences...
Now it has hit U hard...

U knew that u were incapacitated financially...
Since u are not considering an Abortion(Right decision)...Go ahead and let ur parents knw about it...Before its too late..Since ur Mother suggested next Yr...let her knw now...so that everything will be fast..

So that u will not be shamed...

Equal2DeTask:
Mr. Engr.. First of all u were so careless to get her pregnant without thinking of the conequences...
Now it has hit U hard...

U knew that u were incapacitated financially...
Since u are not considering an Abortion(Right decision)...Go ahead and let ur parents knw about it...Before its too late..Since ur Mother suggested next Yr...let her knw now...so that everything will be fast..

So that u will not be shamed...

Seconded

Thirded

@Engr06

There is an adage in Yoruba that says "The father will end up solving the issue we are hiding from him"
Your best bet here is informing your mum
I understand the fact that you might be trying to avoid staining your lady's reputation but at this stage, put that aside cos with the state of Nigeria presently, you might end up needing your parent particularly your mother in the marriage.

I love your idea of NO ABORTION tho.

Mr,i think d best way is u shld open to ur mum nd do a little thing about d marriage don't make it a big.jst do it according to what u ve.God bless ur new home

SlimHan:
@Engr06

There is an adage in Yoruba that says "The father will end up solving the issue we are hiding from him"
Your best bet here is informing your mum
I understand the fact that you might be trying to avoid staining your lady's reputation but at this stage, put that aside cos with the state of Nigeria presently, you might end up needing your parent particularly your mother in the marriage.

I love your idea of NO ABORTION tho.

thanks so much.. ... GOD BLESS U

Brownish24:
Mr,i think d best way is u shld open to ur mum nd do a little thing about d marriage don't make it a big.jst do it according to what u ve.God bless ur new home

Am grateful

Equal2DeTask:
Mr. Engr.. First of all u were so careless to get her pregnant without thinking of the conequences...
Now it has hit U hard...

U knew that u were incapacitated financially...
Since u are not considering an Abortion(Right decision)...Go ahead and let ur parents knw about it...Before its too late..Since ur Mother suggested next Yr...let her knw now...so that everything will be fast..
So that u will not be shamed...

I ll find a way to inform mum this week.. ... .the pregnancy is still a month old. Nevertheless, I av to act fast. I so much appreciate this

Well, now that your girl is in the family way you should just marry her quietly. Budget shouldn't exceed 50k( I hope she's not Igbo). No need to make too much noise, just finish the whole ceremony in her father's living room. Then start your simple life...I hope she works too.

Op, you understand your parents more. Will they be understanding towards this issue? If yes, feel free to tell them. I think you should pay her bride price and do a court wedding.

Engr06:
Please I need serious and mature advice. My girlfriend who I love so much is pregnant for me. We actually saw it coming but the problem is am nt financially stable. Our parent arnt rich enough to carry the burden, but my woman and I has agreed to live on the little I earn as salary. Also, we are planning to have our introduction as soon as possible just to salvage the situation. I hinted my mum about my plan for the introduction (hiding the part that she is pregnant already). Mums response was to be patient since I already know the situation of things from the home font, she advice we shud wait till probably next Year, hoping things will be better. Its really a trying moment for me presently as I can't concentrate, thinking how am going to cope as there is no help anywhere. I love my girl, she understand the situation of things and she is ready to sail with me no matter how, and I dnt want her to suffer for any reason. Being a poor boy, I dnt know how to go about the whole thing.
Please I need advice on what to do. (abortion is out of it)
Note: is there anyone who has experienced this and scaled through.

My 2kobo..poverty is a thing of the mind..get out of that poor boy attitude and find something doing..you have more mouth to feed now..making money should be the focus now and not self pity

sisisioge:
Well, now that your girl is in the family way you should just marry her quietly. Budget shouldn't exceed 50k( I hope she's not Igbo). No need to make too much noise, just finish the whole ceremony in her father's living room. Then start your simple life...I hope she works too.

Ahn ahn madam, only 50k ?

Will you allow me to marry you with just 50k, biko lemme give you my number..let's meet and start planning to do the marriage sharp sharp. Don't worry iyam your spec

truthsayer009:


Ahn ahn madam, only 50k ?

Will you allow me to marry you with just 50k, biko lemme give you my number..let's meet and start planning to do the marriage sharp sharp. Don't worry iyam your spec

If i may ask, what exactly are you bringing to the table? Your untreated Erectile dysfunction? Na real 'iyam your spec' Mtshew!

truthsayer009:


Ahn ahn madam, only 50k ?

Will you allow me to marry you with just 50k, biko lemme give you my number..let's meet and start planning to do the marriage sharp sharp. Don't worry iyam your spec

You no year say our guy has knocked the girl up? At this point, na only government go collect money...money for marriage certificate. The rest sef suppose dey free

zolapeperenpe:


If i may ask, what exactly are you bringing to the table? Your untreated Erectile dysfunction? Na real 'iyam your spec' Mtshew!

Don't be so cruel about the guy's predicament baby, maybe he wan marry me gift him elder brother ni

yvesboss:


My 2kobo..poverty is a thing of the mind..get out of that poor boy attitude and find something doing..you have more mouth to feed now..making money should be the focus now and not self pity

the least he can do is to rob...Mr Op, run ur race based on ur pace

Engr06:
Please I need serious and mature advice. My girlfriend who I love so much is pregnant for me. We actually saw it coming but the problem is am nt financially stable. Our parent arnt rich enough to carry the burden, but my woman and I has agreed to live on the little I earn as salary. Also, we are planning to have our introduction as soon as possible just to salvage the situation. I hinted my mum about my plan for the introduction (hiding the part that she is pregnant already). Mums response was to be patient since I already know the situation of things from the home font, she advice we shud wait till probably next Year, hoping things will be better. Its really a trying moment for me presently as I can't concentrate, thinking how am going to cope as there is no help anywhere. I love my girl, she understand the situation of things and she is ready to sail with me no matter how, and I dnt want her to suffer for any reason. Being a poor boy, I dnt know how to go about the whole thing.
Please I need advice on what to do. (abortion is out of it)
Note: is there anyone who has experienced this and scaled through.

This rankles.

Why should your parents take responsibility for your irresponsibility?

Your entitlement mentality is breathtaking.

#Born first then God go provide#

Oga Engineer man up and sort out you ish YOURSELF. Hope your misus has got a job / source income? If not, good luck on your meagre salary.

I hope you are a graduate and you've applied for N-power sha...

Dude, make sure you jack your ass off so that you can pass that exam, not for yourself, but for your family.

I'm not saying you should settle for it and become complacent..o.. It's just to give you a head start.


Just make up your mind now and be ready to face your responsibility as a man even though you feel you're not ready, it's the price you have to pay for your mistake...

As for the wedding, tell both of your parents I'm sure they would understand and try to assist you guys as much as possible.

yea ur mum is right,but u 're a grown man now,u should no ur own decisions. I think u should go ahead wth d marraige proposal no matter how little u earn.A portion of d bible says he who findeth a wife would obtain favour,just dont worry u will survive. ..just dont put d girl jnto shame,

The part I love best is 'Abortion is not an option '. Bro it's time to increase your hustle. May God prosper you.

mira24:
yea ur mum is right,but u 're a grown man now,u should no ur own decisions. I think u should go ahead wth d marraige proposal no matter how little u earn.A portion of d bible says he who findeth a wife would obtain favour,just dont worry u will survive. ..just dont put d girl jnto shame,

amen... Tnx

Amhappy:
The part I love best is 'Abortion is not an option '. Bro it's time to increase your hustle. May God prosper you.

Amen, thanks so much