jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

johnreh:


my BIBLE still works!

emilyone:
That guy na genus

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

Yeligray:
Spare the rod and spoil the child

tshege:
The issue of your 14 years old cousin watching porn shoukd not disturb you.
I started watching porn since I was ten. A habit I copied from my 26 year old cousin who actually had a wardrobe full of porn.
The older you get and the more sexually active u become leads to a reduction in porn viewing.
It's just a stage in his teenage life.

The best advice has been given already:
let him know the dangers of watching too much porn, teach him to respect the opposite sex,
talk to him like a friend and leave him alone.

benfluleck:


Of course I did I actually googled the original article where you copied it from. My point is you can't make an inference when you do not know your subject. It's like a doctor telling you that you have malaria just because someone told him you have a headache.

Papiikush:


It doesn't work. It didn't work during our time when our parents will collect all magazines then punish us.

We will see these things in movies (pirates) or go collect from friends and hide somewhere far away.

I think once you catch your child watching porn just let him be.

Call him later, sit him down and have a father/son discussion. It is time he gets trained on sex education.

You can't cheat nature Cuz he is becoming a man

VictorJoshua:
How About Trying To Lead Him To The Cross? Well,to do that,you must be saved first.When you are able to instill a Godly Atmosphere in your household let's say starting wit regular family morning devotion,gospel musics and educative videos,then yr problem is half solved.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

benedictac:


this was the same method I used for my 15 years old son when I cut him just last week Thursday here. The dad and I really talked some senses into and told him the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone. the following day he went to apologize to his dad and promised not to try it again. I just pray he stops it. We can only advice and pray as parents.

Papiikush:


Tell his dad to train him on sex education.

Let them go out and have a father/son moment. Trust me this is the moment he needs to start tracing the right steps.

Your "small boy" is now becoming a young man.

Yeligray:
Spare the rod and spoil the child

benedictac:


as funny as it may sound, the dad my husband is not that type of social guy that discuses such things. I have told him many times to do so, he will just smile and never do it. thanks all the same

Lol, he should do this. He needs to take that bullet for junior (literally speaking)

You are welcome ma'am.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

NobleAngell:
It's a terrible addiction. A spiritually-inclined addiction, you gotta pray him/her out of it. There are also effective physical approaches too, like bringing the child in the midst of people more cos they tend to keep to themselves a lot and they want to always be alone. Socializing with the right company can help them a lot.



If the above tips don't work, drag him to the nearest olumba olumba church for correct flogging.

NigerianScholar:


Let me give you a logical approach to this

Forget beating him or taking his phone away by force or anything like that. It wont work. The child will be more creative in technology than you.

Saying that we should help you because you caught your cousin with porn is not what you should be asking. You need to understand many things before you can know how to help him.

Is it his first time, how often does he watch it, is he addicted to the porn or self service. Many many questions. Just talk to him and try to understand. No matter how awkward it may be and be as fast as possible. Because the more he watches. The more he gets addicted

Let me just give points to make this shorter.
1. You may have to take away his phone. with his consent he may be trying to stop. You never can know
2. Never let him be alone. You may have to spoil him. Take him out a lot. Let him do activites that will wear hin out. Eg sports. Get him a ps3 or sth. Never let him have nothing to do
3. Assuming hes addicted to self service. Dont tell him all that BS that masturbation will give you erectile dysfunction or diseases.
4. Introduce him to PDA to reduce his sexual urges. But make sure he knows that hes meant to keep it in his pants. This isnt a 100% though. He may be too young but he has to start somewhere
5. Observe him properly. Never allow him stay too long in the toilet/bathroom. Be inconspicuous with your intentions. Pretend as if you want to use it as well
6. Let him sleep in the same room with you
7. Steal his charger so you have more control over his phone
8. And for the love of God. Dont let him go to any hostel. Let him be going to school from home
9. Tell his parents the truth...if you are positive they will over react and make things worse. Just tell them a lie that he told you he has emotional problems or something. Or you noticed he hasnt been sleeping well. Just tell them something that will make em observe him well. Make sure he knows about this so the lie wont spoil
10. Put the idea that "he is ashamed of what he is doing and he doesnt want anyone to find out" in his head by threathening to tell his parents or someone that hes scared of. (Do this before 9)


I still think you should give us more info after talking to the boy.

I am a teenager and i have seen many cases. I am just happy i never had the mind to watch

Vivipop:
@jejemanito
Educate him on the beauty of sex. Tell him that it is normal for him to want to do whatever he did(having porn videos) at that stage of his life(puberty). Also teach him that women aren't for pleasure and he should respect them. Take those away from him and advice him to focus more on things that really matter, like his school and the sorts. Make him understand that there is time for everything and he is still very young to have those.

#mytwocents.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

Papiikush:


It doesn't work. It didn't work during our time when our parents will collect all magazines then punish us.

We will see these things in movies (pirates) or go collect from friends and hide somewhere far away.

I think once you catch your child watching porn just let him be.

Call him later, sit him down and have a father/son discussion. It is time he gets trained on sex education.

You can't cheat nature Cuz he is becoming a man