mind ya business

Yeligray:
Spare the rod and spoil the child

use koboko or plank maybe tewkwando style rod no dey work again.

DarkRebel69:


Who says addiction to pornography bears no malign ripple effect?
I fear that you are in fact a (insert apt expletive).

Insert whatever word you prefer. And it's very obvious you think there is only one kind of porn. You clearly have not heard of femdom.

encrypt:

That just sent your whole write up to sh*t

Oh well, too bad.

DarkRebel69:


And who says a vibrant, goal-driven, young adult cannot possess knoweldge should he faithfully commit to seeking for it?

What about my signature? Does it offend your priggish side? Or are you simply taken aback–in a good way–by the ingenuity of my wordplay?

When one is surrounded by guys your age who glory in small talk and speech devoid of depth , it actually comes as quite a surprise especially here on Nairaland

Priggish? Lol, you have no idea

I just went through it again and as one who appreciates the beauty in word play I LIKE IT

Initially all my mind captured was kitten and I juxtaposed it with your earlier comment about seeing women as sex objects.

You have to collect the android phone he is using and provide him with an ordinary phone meant only for calls. I think this is the best way to handle this problem, OK.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

banmee:


God? That's worse. He's going to be sexually repressed and eventually turn into a religious nut job.

Becoming a religious nut job, is different from talking to him about faith

Loving God does not make you a religious nut job, having faith in Christ's death and ressurection, doesnt make you a religious nut job.

It just you choosing the option of Life (and a wonderful one at that), over death (an eternal one at that)

jejemanito:
okay

U CAN'T TEACH PARENTS HOW TO RAISE THEIR CHILDREN OOOOO.

adegeye38:

Becoming a religious nut job, is different from talking to him about faith

Loving God does not make you a religious nut job, having faith in Christ's death and ressurection, doesnt make you a religious nut job.

It just you choosing the option of Life (and a wonderful one at that), over death (an eternal one at that)

Lol. Guy, if you want to understand how life works just hit me up and i will show you how to be successful. Don't worry. You won't have to sacrifice anyone, be part of a society, or kneel to anyone. There are two things you have to understand first though; bad things will always happen and there's nothing you can do about it and the other is angels do not exist. Before you were born did you know anything about the earth and where you were going? So how the phuck do you know where you are going when you die? You guys need to start using your heads more.

Elparaiso:

Insert whatever word you prefer. And it's very obvious you think there is only one kind of porn. You clearly have not heard of femdom.

I have heard of femdom, but I know better than to base judgement on outliers. That would be like claiming that Nigeria's entire citizenry is constituted of wealthy individuals based on the few Nigerian elites one has come in contact with.
Femdom-themed pornography belong in the minority, neither are they the normative nor recurrent theme in most pornographic videos.

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

Just give him a Nokia torch phone or any phone that has no access to the internet and one that cannot play videos

generationz:

When one is surrounded by guys your age who glory in small talk and speech devoid of depth , it actually comes as quite a surprise especially here on Nairaland

Priggish? Lol, you have no idea

I just went through it again and as one who appreciates the beauty in word play I LIKE IT

Initially all my mind captured was kitten and I juxtaposed it with your earlier comment about seeing women as sex objects.

You talk like you are 50 something plus, and like you're some kind of MILF.

Well, there are definitely guys out there who crave for, and who are more than capable of plumbing through the conversational surface on a more than superficial level. You just need to be able to discern them from the common herd, in the same way a homosexual man can pinpoint a fellow gay man from a crowd, even when he is a complete stranger to him—gaydar, they call it.

You probably would have had me placed also in that category of “small talk guys” on a first meeting, especially if I do not yet feel comfortable being around you. But when I know it's a person with whom I can freely share my often unorthodox thoughts, then you can bet that there's almost no topic under the sun that we wouldn't touch on–from Politics, to Literature, to Philosophy, and even more mundane subjects such as Shauna's facelift on Botched, to celebrity news, to Linda Ikeji's drooping tïts.

LOL. Erwin Schröndinger was an Austrian physicist who once demostrated a quantum superposition state by devising a thought experiment wherein a cat (püssy) is penned up in a steel box, along with a flask of hydrocyanic acid, and an internal monitor (Geiger counter). The crux of the paradox was to demonstrate that the cat could both be simultaneously alive and dead. If there's some form of radioactivity in the Geiger counter i.e even if a single atom starts to decay, a hammer is released which smashes the flask of poison, thereby killing the cat. But if no radioactivity happens, the cat remains safe.

In coming full circle, when a girl I'm dating starts acting up or begins to think that the earth orbits round her arse, I'd treat her fück-up by wedging her arrogant püssy (metaphorically of course ) in a box–an act that suggests that she's equally both alive and dead to me, and that I wouldn't mind canning her should her haughtiness persist.

1StopRudeness:


What is excess testosterone??

Testosterone rage has been demonstrated in young adults from elephants, seals, monkey to human

banmee:


Lol. Guy, if you want to understand how life works just hit me up and i will show you how to be successful. Don't worry. You won't have to sacrifice anyone, be part of a society, or kneel to anyone. There are two things you have to understand first though; bad things will always happen and there's nothing you can do about it and the other is angels do not exist. Before you were born did you know anything about the earth and where you were going? So how the phuck do you know where you are going when you die? You guys need to start using your heads more.

am already a success, cos am connected to the only source of real success, which is God.

but that aside, It foolish if you think life is all about random events and chance, come into the light bro, life is much more easy and interesting over here.

adegeye38:

am already a success, cos am connected to the only source of real success, which is God.

but that aside, It foolish if you think life is all about random events and chance, come into the light bro, life is much more easy and interesting over here.

The light? You mean darkness don't you? If the world had left it's fate to religious nut jobs we would not have doctors, science, the internet etc. The things you are enjoying today. We would still be living in caves. The forum you are typing on was created by an atheist. The computer you are typing with was furthered by an atheist and a homosexual. Google alan turing. Guy, you better wake up. When you don't understand something it is god's work or the devil depending on the day and which way the wind blows. Lol.

naijaking1:


Testosterone rage has been demonstrated in young adults from elephants, seals, monkey to human

So what happens to young adult humans with testosterone rage

jejemanito:
Every thing except gay p*rn.

There was a day I asked him if he were to choose between his phone and a gameboy (video game) what will be his pick? He chose the later

That was how I knew he hasn't gone beyond the Rubicon. Sadly I can't afford such now prompting my need for smarter ways to restore his factory setting before he grows into an addict.

That's bad. That sounds like an addiction. Okay, you can't yell at him right now because it won't work. You need to call him and speak to him. Ask when it started, who gave it to him or does he download it, how many times a day does he refer to them, be gentle.

sexybbstar:


Give him a "torchlight" head phone that has no SD card slot. Since it's just for him to make calls.

It will be worse if he still sees the porn from friends' phones

jejemanito:
Every thing except gay p*rn.

There was a day I asked him if he were to choose between his phone and a gameboy (video game) what will be his pick? He chose the later

That was how I knew he hasn't gone beyond the Rubicon. Sadly I can't afford such now prompting my need for smarter ways to restore his factory setting before he grows into an addict.

You really need to read my topic, get him this app. It will reveal his internet activity, and he will know you are watching him. That would scare him and he will be responsible.

https://www.nairaland.com/3922933/conquer-porn-addiction-android-app

banmee:


The light? You mean darkness don't you? If the world had left it's fate to religious nut jobs we would not have doctors, science, the internet etc. The things you are enjoying today. We would still be living in caves. The forum you are typing on was created by an atheist. The computer you are typing with was furthered by an atheist and a homosexual. Google alan turing. Guy, you better wake up. When you don't understand something it is god's work or the devil depending on the day and which way the wind blows. Lol.

I AM NOT TALKING RELIGION WITH YOU

I am talking about LIFE

It has nothing to do with science or arts

likewise atheism (and atheists to me are people who know there is a God, but there are scared of probability of being accountable to a supreme being, so theu live in denial)

I love science my self, but the more i dive into science it all the more emphasize on the divine

JESUS CHRIST DID NOT PREACH RELIGION

Salvation involves three steps:

FORGIVENESS OF SIN

DELIVERANCE FROM SIN

VICTORY OVER SIN

finally unleashing your powers, treasures and dividends as a christian through FAITH

simple!!!

thats what Christianity is all about...

Its not a RELIGION

its a WAY OF LIFE

adegeye38:

I AM NOT TALKING RELIGION WITH YOU

I am talking about LIFE

It has nothing to do with science or arts

likewise atheism (and atheists to me are people who know there is a God, but there are scared of probability of being accountable to a supreme being, so theu live in denial)

I love science my self, but the more i dive into science it all the more emphasize on the divine

JESUS CHRIST DID NOT PREACH RELIGION

Salvation involves three steps:

FORGIVENESS OF SIN

DELIVERANCE FROM SIN

VICTORY OVER SIN

finally unleashing your powers, treasures and dividends as a christian through FAITH

simple!!!

thats what Christianity is all about...

Its not a RELIGION

its a WAY OF LIFE

Christianity is religion. Which is exactly the same as ignorance. The number one reason people flock to it is fear. Number 2 is laziness, and third but not least is ignorance. Fear of the unknown, too lazy to use their heads to think and lastly believing that angels exist is the height of ignorance. What with everything we've seen. Smh. I wonder what you all will do when we find life in other planets? I'm sure a new verse will be discovered in the bible explaining it.

sexybbstar:
I think you should collect the gadgets with him, like phones, laptops, etc and monitors the kind of movies he watches.

Give a rule on the type of TV station, programme or channels he can tune to.

I hope this works.

For a 14 year old?

You know nothing sexybbstar

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

You are still not teaching him what he needs to know.

banmee:


Christianity is religion. Which is exactly the same as ignorance. The number one reason people flock to it is fear. Number 2 is laziness, and third but not least is ignorance. Fear of the unknown, too lazy to use their heads to think and lastly believing that angels exist is the height of ignorance. What with everything we've seen. Smh. I wonder what you all will do when we find life in other planets? I'm sure a new verse will be discovered in the bible explaining it.

I am a Christian and i have zero fear, i didnt become a Christian out of Ignorance, no Christianity has changed my life, God has changed my life, God is 100% real, very real i tell you, there is more to the life than what we see,

look around you man, look at your own complex body, look at the whole earth, what about the unimaginable gigantic space filled with billions of stars, and galaxies and filled with a mysterious force known as dark matter, look at the earth, that everything needed for human survival, its not just chance,

If you throw a dice consecutively 70 times, what is the probability of getting six, the whole 70 times? 1in10 raise to power 55, thats 1+55 zeros, (thats the probability rate that expansion happened at just the right rate to make the earth condusive to accomodate life)

the amount of time you have to keep rolling to get the 77 consecutively, 100, 000 000 000 000 + (120 more zeros) years.

meaning it did not happen by chance, it was designed by an intelligent mind belonging to an intelligent creator

so it takes more faith to believe in the non existence of God than to believe in his existence?

the bible says "a fool will say there is no God"

so atheism itself is a religion (and its requires the most faith, faith in foolishness)

so believing in God does not make you Ignorant, delusional or stupid its only logical to believe in a creator my brother


I didnt become a Christian because out of fear or because i was born in a Christian home, no, i became a Christian because, God is real, I have experienced him, in my life in uncountable ways, thats why tell you all this with assurance.

it wont cost cost you a thing to believe, but it will cost you a lot if you dont.

A person becomes born again when they admit their sinfulness and their need for salvation through Christ.

God wants us to spend eternity with Him! He wants us to be saved (II Peter 3:9)! He will forgive us of our sins because of the sacrifice His Son Made for us in dying on the cross, but we must accept that sacrifice on our behalf (John 5:24; Acts 3:19, 10:43)! We must ask Him to forgive us and to come into our heart (I John 1:9), to believe His sacrifice was for US and that He was raised from the dead (Romans 10:9-10)

just say this prayer sincerely in your heart

“Dear God, I admit that I am a sinner. I have sinned. I believe that You sent Your Son, Jesus, to take the punishment that I deserve. I believe that after He died for my sins, He rose again from the dead and because He is alive, I too can have eternal life. I now turn from my sins and ask You to forgive me. Please come into my life and be my Savior and Lord. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

get a bible and feed on his word

God will reveal himself to you in a way you never thought possible and Every aspect of your life will change after this, and you will enjoy a wonderful life both here and also get to spend eternity in heaven

Just try it out bro..... and you will see.

ps: m done typing.

Elparaiso:
How does watching porn affect anyone?

Na question I ask abeg



Is this how you truly feel it affects you, or how you were told it affects? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you are religious (Christian or Muslim), you were probably brought up with the doctrine that pornography is bad. Most of the "facts" you pasted are untrue, in fact, a lot of couples have used porn to spice up their relationship and made it healthier. It's just like weed and alcohol. Everyone has an opinion about it. But I say, as long as it done in moderation and not allowed to interfere with other aspects of life, then there are no ramifications. It's just to get a feeling.


If you are a Christian, then I will beg you to keep the Lord's Commandments and stay away from pornography as it is a form of fornication. Likewise for Muslims. Porn isn't for religious and spiritual people.

That's all, no true scientific reasons, just religious ones.

Its beyond Religious reason. It as physical effect.

Use your brain , its a phase every young boy would go tru especailly when he is 17, just adivce him, tell him to over do it, and he Shud Take it easy on it. That its dangerous to over do it. Taking the phone from him would never help or beating him. The bitter truth is HE MUST WATCH PORN WEATHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT.

I will give my Opinion but First, Jejemanito know that it is a stage. He need something to complete his physical urge.

Search for the problem. Not the result of the problem.

Vivipop:
@jejemanito
Educate him on the beauty of sex. Tell him that it is normal for him to want to do whatever he did(having porn videos) at that stage of his life(puberty). Also teach him that women aren't for pleasure and he should respect them. Take those away from him and advice him to focus more on things that really matter, like his school and the sorts. Make him understand that there is time for everything and he is still very young to have those.

#mytwocents.

What about the urge? How do you help him to conquer that? SMH

Omoluabi16:
Kai. gaAt 14?? Pornography destroys. it will destroy his minda and physically. Get him motivational books adolescents that can get to him, speak to his parents. Take him for deliverance, let him become active either in church or a sports club.Get him a video game if you can. Pornography is the devil's industry.

A video game is a bad option. It does the same work a porn movie does... it is called Fantasy.

Fantasy is normal and we all crave for it. But it is a disconnection from the real thing.

An hero in a game does not mean an hero in a real world.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

First of all,you need to know that pornpgraphy is addictive,as such he should be treated with Iron hands. The medium/media through which he views this rubbish has to be seized. Do not fail to talk senses into his head and watch him closely. He may have to do away with his friends if they are into it as well.

1StopRudeness:


So what happens to young adult humans with testosterone rage

Many things, but masturbation is the least dangerous.