needforanswers:
I stopped finding him attractive and have been avoiding sexual encounters with him. I don't know if my being pregnant is the reason or its because I am put off by his laziness and inability to plan for the future which are two things he admitted by himself after we got married. And no I didn't know all of that before we got married because he told a number of lies about his financial status so I assumed he was quite put together and had his life in order. Its just recently he started saying things like 'black people are backwards because they don't plan for the future' and he doesn't know whether to point fingers because he himself doesn't plan for the future. He isn't even so young to know that his way of life is wrong. He is a mature man. When I bring up the issue of how he needs to work harder and save up for our unborn child he starts arguing that I worry too much and I need to learn to leave the future to take care of itself.

selflessmaya:


OP you are so fuccking dumb! geez... just 15 mins ago, i just left a comment on your other thread where u posted this in april:



and these were the replies u got:






and this was my own comment i left minutes ago when i didnt realize the thread was 2 months old:


and i come here and see this? look, women like u just love to be miserable, so stew in your own juice, i really dislike stupid ppl and find it very hard to sympathize with them, OP, life gets harder every year and i'm guessing you're based back in nigeria and that country is 15 times as hard and only gonna get harder, you've signed yourself up for a very sh!t life by being foolish too many times and you will deal.

like i said, sentiments are not my forte, i would give you one last rational advice but i wont waste time talking sense into u, you dont fuccking listen and i have a hot date so bye, but mark these words of mine, naive ppl never really get far in life, they always succumb to their mediocrity. when it rains it pours and you've signed up for a storm... so brace yourself.

yvelchstores:
hi, I just want to say, you are being very rude to the lady. You have a date, to you, your life is 100% cos you are so "smart". It's OK. I know your type, you don't laugh last.in your infinite wisdom, it will one day dawn on you that you were not as 100% as you thought. As expected, u will reply me in a manerless tone. Still, you don't matter to me. I had to reply you cos I can only imagine how your comment will make the op feel. Ciao.

yvelchstores:
dear op , I believe I can be of use to u but I don't want to drop my contact information. Can u create a new email and send to me? I have useful information for u. All d best.

vikithor:
Am a hard working,responsible graduate of banking,who unfortunately got married to a wrong unrepentant woman,n instead make something happen to her or,to me,n police n court involve,we better be seperated from each other

I am looking for a graduate ,bt nt a condition,either single mum or unmarried,working class lady for a serious relationship leading to settling down

She could be from south south,oron,ibibio,efik
My contact-call or whatsapp-08109974859

Richy4:
Some times, what we read here, I kinda pause to think or wonder if these people are for real.. What do they even think marriage is?

Maybe I am kinda an old school. But has marriage become some thing you wake up one morning and say you want out?

What is really wrong with this our present generation? OP I don't want to be a PITA in your issue but I can't help wondering.....

yvelchstores:
hi, I just want to say, you are being very rude to the lady. You have a date, to you, your life is 100% cos you are so "smart". It's OK. I know your type, you don't laugh last.in your infinite wisdom, it will one day dawn on you that you were not as 100% as you thought. As expected, u will reply me in a manerless tone. Still, you don't matter to me. I had to reply you cos I can only imagine how your comment will make the op feel. Ciao.

needforanswers:

She will not even listen to you. Can't you see that she already convinced herself that she is so logical and intelligent?
Having a child now means you will be stuck in marriage forever, imagine the foolishness.

needforanswers:

I am so ashamed to inform my parents that I want to end everything. They warned me to not marry him but I didn't listen. I believed his lies which they saw through before warning me.

Nancy2016:


Instead of you taking a break and analyzing where your marriage went wrong, you are looking to jump into another relationship. You would most likely take your bad habits into the new relationship since I do not see you acknowledging that you share some responsibility in the breakdown of you marriage.

vivypretty:
@ op are u not a human being? maybe when u start hustling n bringing money he will man up.show him u can do better .marriage is sacred not every little thing divorce

realtalk19:


this advice wil only make him relaxed and make him feel u can always handle his responsibilities.

av bin tru this and i can tell i was so pissed wit him.

needforanswers:
@selflessmaya,
glad you're leaving. Get the hell out, nobody needs your worthless advice.
I didn't read it anyway, just scrolled to the end where you saw yourself out. Bye, keep moving.
Madam intelligent and logical.
People with better and more meaningful posts said their piece politely and left and one person with no iota of sense in her post was the only one throwing insults.

Nancy2016:


Instead of you taking a break and analyzing where your marriage went wrong, you are looking to jump into another relationship. You would most likely take your bad habits into the new relationship since I do not see you acknowledging that you share some responsibility in the breakdown of your marriage.

needforanswers:
@selflessmaya,
glad you're leaving. Get the hell out, nobody needs your worthless advice.
I didn't read it anyway, just scrolled to the end where you saw yourself out. Bye, keep moving.
Madam intelligent and logical.
People with better and more meaningful posts said their piece politely and left and one person with no iota of sense in her post was the only one throwing insults.

selflessmaya:


[size=11pt]lmao girl bye, it's not me you're mad at. every 2 seconds u run here to post about your sad life and complain, then totally ignore every single advice given to you cos you cant help being stupid, so, dont read anything, u know it all and it's working out sooo well for u which is why you're always here crying out for advice. again, it's not me you're mad at.

needforanswers:

If you weren't such a dumbass you would know what it means to filter suggestions and decide to go with what suits you best. but you're a dumbass that thinks hoodrat behaviour translates to intelligence.
Bye too.
Take your mannerless self back to lipstickalley or whatever foreign website you and your fellow hoodrats hang out.

FortuneTeller:


Don't pay those bitter mouths any mind. Let them live life first, then talk. I'm praying for you and I know tomorrow will be a better day for you.

selflessmaya:


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needforanswers:

Bye

needforanswers:

t25zs@boun.cr

needforanswers:
Lol, God forbid my child will never suffer.
Either give advice without involving my kid or stfu. Such nonsense.
Yes, I got pregnant knowing the kind of person I married because I wanted a kid. I wanted to have a child for a long time and I can comfortable care for myself and my child even if I leave him so getting pregnant doesn't translate to being stuck with him forever.
I don't know why people on this site think because you ask for advice that gives them the right to type any and every sort of rubbish to you.

FortuneTeller:


Instead of attacking her, you should correct yourself. She did not write that nor did she respond to him. I quoted her in a message he posted. See how quickly you made yourself look like a fool.

Nancy2016:


Are you high on weed? Can't you see I wasn't responding to the OP but to the other poster who used her thread to post something about his search for a new partner? If I was responding to the OP won't I have quoted her?

FortuneTeller:


I'm pretty sure you're fat little white lady married to a Nigerian man. I've ready your posts and it's obvious. Go sit down before he leaves you. Stay away from the op with your nasty mouth.

Nancy2016:


It is clear I was not responding to the OP. Instead of admitting your mistake, you try to cover up your illiteracy with abuses. Well I guess it is my fault responding to a half-wit like you. We are certainly not of the same class and I am certainly losing brain cells interacting with you. I blame your parents for not sending you to a decent school because if they had, you would have learnt comprehension skills. Go and attend remedial classes so you can read and comprehend better.

FortuneTeller:


Ok Nancy the white lady.Take your classless fat rolls and head out. Attend to your black husband you are paying for. Never address the op again with your mess. Get to stepping!!!