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Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Elcuba: 6:39pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
coolcatty: Chaii.. You mean say common sense fall on the guy 1 Share
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Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:39pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
@Plankton2017: If you listen to the majority of women on this thread, you will die before your time (Most Nigerian ladies know how to stress their men like that). The final decision is yours, BUT if I were your brother; I'd ask if there is another girl you've ever considered for marriage besides the one with you (you understand what I'm trying to say...) And maybe you've done some wrong in the past, and God wants to punish you with a bad wife Anyways... 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by oluwaahmed: 6:40pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Get d fvck outa der quicly mehn. Dose are d typa women dat wen u marry, u start carryin deir family problem till it kills u. Dis typa women will alienate u 4rm ur family. Worse still dem fit kpai u 4 ur property. Be wise men. She's not even married yet & she's shoutin back at u in d presence of her younger sister. Dnt be pussy whipped men 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:41pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Is like she is not ripped to be a faithful wife yet. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by GOFRONT(m): 6:41pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Imagine.....Later some1 will start askin "What is preventin u from proposin to your girlfriend"?? If u never Marry, some go dey vex ontop ur matter.......u go hear, "Go and marry" @Op remember!!! Marriage is meant to be Enjoyed Not to be Enduered. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by juman(m): 6:41pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
ikp120: Gbam. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:41pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
yomi007k: Yeah OP listen to this guy. Since you guys are not married, send her away let her marry her family. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Youngzedd(m): 6:42pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
jashar: Mehn the matter weak me front and back. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by kings09(m): 6:43pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Better halt d wedding plans b4 u put urself into eternal mess Plankton2017: |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by cutepaul(m): 6:44pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
So you have laptop.... . Is it hp? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Humility017(m): 6:45pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
mylove4him:this is advice of the century.... I will be saving this....thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by greatman247(m): 6:46pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
If you must take my candid advice, pls don't go ahead with that wedding so you guys won't end up fighting, fraustrated or divorcing after a short while. You have to do away with sentiments or self pity for your wife, like what will happen if i renounce the planned wedding to her? The truth is, any woman exhibiting such behavior when she is not married will be hard to change, it's even better you try talk her out of her bad behaviors before wedding or don't go ahead with the wedding if there is no positive changes. And secondly, once you are married don't allow any family member (yours and hers) to live with you no matter what, except for a visit of one day or at most two days at most. You have to make it a rule, if not family members will use you. But if your wife put to bed her mother can come over for a month or two to take care of your wife and your new baby, after that go back to your standard rules. This is what i do. Nobody can come over my house to change my rules. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by playpaz: 6:46pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
I will advice you to put the wedding on hold until you see some positive changes. The sister only left because your wife doesn’t Want anything to go wrong with wedding plans. Wait until after the wedding... she will change it for you. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Elcuba: 6:46pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
coolcatty: Not exactly. Things can be fixed. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bebe2(f): 6:47pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Pidgin2:Very mean. It's u dat made ur family in law not to be free with u. Imagine u scolding ur cousin for boiling water for a lady dat just ran out of camp becos of difficult environment. I hope the wedding goes ahead , u go chop pepper for that ur wife hand 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ugofab: 6:47pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
postpone that marriage to work things out.if you try to fix things,without success you quit! |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by kolaa007(m): 6:47pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Very soon the odd will be kwikbet247.com. the op to turn woman beater 600 odd [qquote author=yomi007k post=59020278] I stake a thousand bucks .....as in ehn...I jus pity d poor dude.[/quote] |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Heavance(m): 6:47pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:3 rounds of nkwobi for you already. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:48pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Zilifish: Worrying about a 12 hour event when you should be worried about someone you are going to spend a life time with. You need to sort our your priority mate. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ChristineC: 6:49pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
and you still want to marry her 2 Likes
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Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:50pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
coolcatty: Dear op,if i were u i will take this advice! |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by livinglove(m): 6:52pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
My brother, you need to learn that women own the house if peace must reign. If you like pay 1m for rent, or work so hard to build the house, na them get the house. I didnt like the fact that u allowed that to happen. You could have calmed down n get to the bottom of the whole issue. It is even possible that your wife didnt support her sister coming or she might not even be aware. Wisdom is profitable to direct bro. See, the rule that applies to marriage A will not be applicable to B. You must learn how to deal with issues like that because you wont be informed b4 things happen all the time. And if you have to live peacefully in your marriage, you must welcome your inlaws anytime. Forget what people say about no one can come unless invited. To me, you need to apologise to your wife if you truly love her. You took a wrong approach to solving the issue. You should have even called the sister in law to ask her what happened because whether you like it or not, she has became your sister. If your sister comes to the house without telling you , will you send her out without knowing what happened. It is not about who is the Lord of the house or not. It could even be a test to you. Let me stop here..... Please God and beg her in my own opinion. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by BigBrother9ja: 6:52pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Gourdoinc:Kids... You know nothing about responsibilities... |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Originalsly: 6:52pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Hmmmm....breaking news to me...cooking water?!...wow!...and Op... using electricity is cheaper than gas?.... it must be you're getting free electricity. Postpone the wedding.... in 5 years tIme both of you should be matured enough for marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by jameshow: 6:53pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
[quote author=Jahblessme post=59015145] Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this? 1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house? Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up. Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace! Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here. In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!! Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation. Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults. If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example. Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante. Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog. Good luck o. By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework. [/quote May God be with you, if she comes to your house, and she used a storex of water how does that disturb you? Why are you getting yourself involved in every domestic matter? You paid 6k for gas and so what? Don't you know eni to bama se igbe iyawo ase gudugudu meje ni? Meaning the person that will marry should get ready for the responsibilities that followed, in-laws are to be respected, am also a man. She left camp and so what? Why are you bringing out issue where there is none? Bro you are not psychologically fit to be in a marriage. Pls don't go into one because you can't marry your wife alone, you marry the whole family likewise the wife. No wife will be happy when the husband not comfortable with her families presence. Is disgusting. Pls call the lady and apologize 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by hayfloze(m): 6:53pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
OP, your SIL not telling you before coming shows that she isn't free with you. Do a rightful and mature thing by calling her on phone. Tell her she shouldn't take what happened all wrong, that her sister (your wife) took the whole issue all wrong. Also, tell your wife to always inform you whenever her family are coming around. To handle the marriage part, please seek the service of a counselor , as it's very important. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by BigBrother9ja: 6:54pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Pidgin2: 1 Like
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Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by whatsupbitches: 6:55pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017: You messed up but your supposed future wife made matters worst by challenging you the way she did. Guy if this is how your wife usually acts then there is big problem and you might likely pay some money to the court system after wasting some money already. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by redbottles(m): 6:57pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
OP, I hope you get the advice you seek here on nairaland where majority of the post here are made from people who have barely had healthy relationships of 6 months. If you can't handle your relationship, you have no business being in one. |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ladyF(f): 6:57pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
The level of malice keeping sha... Why would she even sleep in the sitting room? You sef should have gone to join her in the sitting room na, for damage control. These ones are better single... If my future hubbby decides to sleep in the sitting room or toilet anyday, we will be there together with our mat 1 Like 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 6:57pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Your Sister in Law is a classy young lady, she left immediately she knew she was unwelcome; your wife should have toned it down a bit, to help cover face, but honestly I understand her anger...and you, damn, the person wey marry an Okoro man like you make mistake... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Prudent200: 6:57pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Zilifish:what does it mean sir/ma |
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