ayettymama:

^^ lolz

ull be here till tommorow fightin with the animals

ill advice u not to bother!

queeneve:


Okay Ayetty, I am going to leave these gays alone. You noticed gays come to each other rescue right? Hmmm.

na2day?:

just to clarify, i hope u didnt just call me gay, right?

na2day?:

there is nothing wrong for u guys to remain friends but u must point out to him the guidelines as regarding your friendship

Hairat007:


My luv d babe never call your name now! abi u don dey eye dis 1 again?

By d way hw re u doin u jst forgot bout your swithrt abi?

mito:

What do you mean? Can you explain me your reasons in more than one sentence?

na2day?:

i think that is self explanatory enough

mito:

If I asked it's because it wasn't enough for me, but anyway I'm waiting for Tai2 comments. Thanks!

Lamii:

why not just break up with her. . . and find someone else who prefers to be "controlled"

most of these advice on here are telling you to play mind games with her. this is juvenile behavior to say the least and very ironic considering the topic of this post. it will only work with a less or equally silly juvenile girl. and that my friend will make the most silly, juvenile relationship. lol

.NET:

From my recent experiences, I now know that the right women are not attracted to Men who profess Love and give Money. They may see such men as JERKS. I WISH I KNEW THIS 10 YEAR AGO. Instead, they prefer POWERFUL, SUCCESSFUL( in career) & INTELLECTUAL Men.

Dont wanna be in Love again till I work on my self to attain the latter status.

.NET

mito:

If I asked it's because it wasn't enough for me, but anyway I'm waiting for Tai2 comments. Thanks!

.NET:

From my recent experiences, I now know that the right women are not attracted to Men who profess Love and give Money. They may see such men as JERKS. I WISH I KNEW THIS 10 YEAR AGO. Instead, they prefer POWERFUL, SUCCESSFUL( in career) & INTELLECTUAL Men.

Dont wanna be in Love again till I work on my self to attain the latter status.

.NET

platinumnk:

topup- God bless you for that post
50/50

tai2:

Hey mito,

Sorry about the delay in posting, I've been on some other stuff, I only just popped in to drop a response to your problem. Basically the guy in question probably wants to get laid with no strings attached and is being a player about it. If he's good looking, he either has a girlfriend or he doesn't. If he didn't have one or at least a constant love interest, he'd get to the the darn point and make a solid offer instead of playing games with you.

You've clearly told him you're game and you're open to listening to whatever he has to say and he's still playing the friend dance and offering dumb excuses and sending text messages about "being friend's". Does he think you're still in grade school, lol. He wants to leave the door open for eating his cake and having it later with no commitments, if he wanted something serious he wouldn't be on about playing friends and all that jazz. Move on like the Greyhound Express, life's too short to be messing about with people who don't know what they want.

topup:

I really agreed with the first half of the original post, but then towards the discription of 'true control' I started to feel women like me would be seriously unfairly treated.

I am straightforward, and cannot tolerate games, I am not saying I am not susceptible to all games, but most of them I can tell. I think it is a problem if a man cannot say sorry - ever, simply because he thinks I will laud it over him, because I won't, I know myself and I won't, I am lucky to come from a family where my mother and father's relationship was very transparent, from the age 8 I understood where a man draws his line and what makes a woman tick. It actually makes me respect a man less if he cannot say the words, due to pride or some kind of imaginary lordship he has over me, it really makes me think that "are we still counting points here?".

I've always believed that life is much too difficult to be playing games, having sides and to be on the defense. It is these same guys who will meet women who don't follow the rules, a woman who is level headed, fair, loving and just who walks out on them because of the petty games, and then he's forced to choose to continue 'true control' which lost him the woman in the first place, such a guy who convinces himself that the woman was not controllable hence would not make a good wife might lose out.

In response to some of the rules you gave for 'total/true control' I certainly would have no problems walking out on such a guy (as I already have done so before) - unless he showed me the very thing that is forbidden in that game - true love, compassion, protection and more. .

I am 100% in favour of a 50:50 relationship, not all things must be shared equally all the time, but the balance MUST BE THERE at the end.

If you're going to hurt me, you're going to have to apologise.

And when do the games end? If we're talking long term, husbands and wives, children, do the games continue, should the mother explain why the dad might not be coming home from work in time to make the child's birthday, should she keep the children anxious because he is trying to be this unpredicatable, in control man? Bad analogy I know, but really, games are for those who don't trust, who cannot trust, and why be with someone who you can't trust, or who cannot trust you.

I could go on and on. . .

ayettymama:

u nigerian??

theres hope for humanity

*praise the Lord*

Gifted01:

This topic makes alot of sence to me,infact i feel like a man in true control now,thanks[url][/url]

Nwaka77:

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I have always said it that most marraiges between naija men and women is a master/slave relationship and you lunatics have proven me right. Why don't you get a dog if you are looking for who to control and maintain? It is no wonder that married naija women back home look so haggard since they are treated like slaves in their marital homes. When they see the way my husband treats me when we come to naija for a brief visit, they are silently wishing they did not marry those jungle monkeys, LOL

Peace out!