davidylan:

If even Michelin tyre can get what marriage is all about then i guess my job here is done. Let those who want to sign business contracts and draw up prenups on the day of their business incorporation (sorry i mean wedding day) . . . go ahead.

What ever, u had your pilot example, and I have my business partnership.

Business partnerships are most similar to marriages, in a plane, the the co pilot does not "maninpulate" the pilot to fly in a particular direction

platinumnk:

As long as there are men like el razour around there is hope, otherwise I'll adopt my 3 kids from Cambodia and rock it out  

OMG  . . . .u actually take what ppl say to you on the net  seriously? more fool u, sory to say

platinumnk:

What ever, u had your pilot example, and I have my business partnership.

Business partnerships are most similar to marriages, in a plane, the the co pilot does not "maninpulate" the pilot to fly in a particular direction

Wake up . . . this slumber of urs is too deep.   You think u're still playing bf and gf?

platinumnk:

As long as there are men like el razour around there is hope, otherwise I'll adopt my 3 kids from Cambodia and rock it out  

hehehehehehehehehehehe

u dont have to marry a nigerian

there are plenty of better reasoning men out there!

stillwater:

Lol, not that I conform to all that the poster is saying, not many women want a wimp for a mat[b][/b]e.

I sure as hell dont. i want a man that keep me on my toes cuz i am very stubborn and if u r a wimp u cant handle me
so i want a man who is a HEAD not a biz partner

stillwater:

Lol, not that I conform to all that the poster is saying, not many women want a wimp for a mate.

Platinumnk desires a MUMU husband.
The one that will hand-wash her dirty panties.

I think every relationship is different. People are different in a lot of ways, need different things, and respond differently to different situations. Some people enjoy being controlled, some people prefer to defer responsibility/decision making to someone else. Some people do not want to be controlled but will take it if it keeps the home together, some will become defensive and even hostile. . . .yada yada ya. I don't think any one situation is "better" than the other. It ultimately, IMO, depends on the individuals involved and whether or not they are happy/comfortable in the situation.

~Sauron~:

Platinumnk desires a MUMU husband.
The one that will hand-wash her dirty panties.

hell he was the one soaking them, shouldnt he wash them  

TOPE2000!:

OMG  . . . .u actually take what ppl say to you on the net  seriosuly? more fool u, sory to say

well still got cambodia so im good  

ayettymama:

hehehehehehehehehehehe

u dont have to marry a nigerian

there are plenty of better reasoning men out there!

Abi o!
Im not worried, my PARTNER is out there  

michelin89:

You can't compare two humans to numbers. Numbers or letters are abstract concept. You take them and invent some rules and they stick to those rules. That's why we have something called Science, but there is no science called Humanology.

If fairness was so easy to achieve like 1 + 1= 2, we wouldn't be here in the first place.

Logic rules in an abstract world, in the real world, compromise is the word.

But seriously The woman gets her way right, and the man is happy, so who is really leading who?

Krayola:

I think every relationship is different. People are different in a lot of ways, need different things, and respond differently to different situations. Some people enjoy being controlled, some people prefer to defer responsibility/decision making to someone else. Some people do not want to be controlled but will take it if it keeps the home together, some will become defensive and even hostile. . . .yada yada ya. I don't think any one situation is "better" than the other. It ultimately, IMO, depends on the individuals involved and whether or not they are happy/comfortable in the situation.

This is where the confusion is submission is not CONTROLLING. submission is willing to do without been forced
A guys that wants to control is an asswipe to me. . . i cant date a guy that controls me talk less of marry.

dedicated to the loooosers!!!

lol boss lady needs a boss man


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAsBVMZDZwE

davidylan:

Oh no but its equality season eh?  

I will fight for equality in the work place, school or any institution or organization. But when it comes to the workings of a family, you can't use such mentality and you think you'll succeed. Even the West marriages people use as a case in point when we talk about 50/50 from what I have seen here the responsibilities of the home still lie on the woman. It's utter balderdash when people scream the 50/50 thing.

stillwater:

I will fight for equality in the work place, school or any institution or organization. But when it comes to the workings of a family, you can't use such mentality and you think you'll succeed. Even the West marriages people use as a case in point when we talk about 50/50 from what I have seen here the responsibilities of the home still lie on the woman. It's utter balderdash when people scream the 50/50 thing.

even stillwater gets it? Is today groundhog day?

stillwater:

I will fight for equality in the work place, school or any institution or organization. But when it comes to the workings of a family, you can't use such mentality and you think you'll succeed. Even the West marriages people use as a case in point when we talk about 50/50 from what I have seen here the responsibilities of the home still lie on the woman. It's utter balderdash when people scream the 50/50 thing.

Can i kiss you?

stillwater:

I will fight for equality in the work place, school or any institution or organization. But when it comes to the workings of a family, you can't use such mentality and you think you'll succeed. Even the West marriages people use as a case in point when we talk about 50/50 from what I have seen here the responsibilities of the home still lie on the woman. It's utter balderdash when people scream the 50/50 thing.

Biko nu, how much is your bride-price again?
I wan pay now before before the price soars.

~Sauron~:

Platinumnk desires a MUMU husband.
The one that will hand-wash her dirty panties.

You mean she deserves a mumu CEO? Now washing panties is good biz IMO.  

davidylan:

You mean she deserves a mumu CEO? Now washing panties is good biz IMO.  

Leave plat jor
She will soon get it, she is still young

Phooey- Stilly to get your way you will manipulate if you dont like what your hubby says


What kinda "leadership is that"
If you wasnt aiming for 50/50 then you wouldnt manipulate  

davidylan:

You mean she deserves a mumu CEO? [b]Now washing panties is good biz [/b]IMO.  

ROFLMAO.

platinumnk:

Phooey- Stilly to get your way you will manipulate if you dont like what your hubby says

What kinda "leadership is that"
If you wasnt aiming for 50/50 then you wouldnt manipulate  

i'm sure you have succeeded in confusing even yourself.

davidylan:

You mean she deserves a mumu CEO? Now washing panties is good biz IMO.  

*Dies*

TOPE2000!:

This is where the confusion is submission is not CONTROLLING. submission is willing to do without been forced

But what if he gets used to u being so submissive. . . WHat happens when you disagree with him but he insists on making decisions that directly affect you, for u, despite your objections?

TOPE2000!:

A guys that wants to control is an asswipe to me. . . i cant date a guy that controls me talk less of marry.

I think guys that try to control girls are wimps. In fact one of my friends asked me for my opinion today about some issues he is having with his girl, thinking I was going to take his side, but I just told him straight up that his relationship was gonna mess up if he didn't stop trying to control her. Basically she has two job offers and she wants to pick one of the jobs because she has worked a similar job before. He wants her to take the other job because the company has been around for longer while the other one is a new start-up company. I explained to him that she is an adult that is going to spend 40 hrs of her week at a job. . . It is only fair that she gets to decide which job that will be . . . offer your input or advice, but it is unfair to force your opinion on her. Being a typical Naija man he just said "Well, I've put my foot down and that's it"   . Kinda sad IMO.

davidylan:

i'm sure you have succeeded in confusing even yourself.

No i am the only one being politcally correct here.

the women are clamoring "oohh i can use emotions to get what I want"

isnt that 50/50?


If he was a truely your leader, you would listen to his intructions and not try to manipulate him to change his mind.
Meaning you are essentially striving for equality, where I want i bold faced, no playing games and running schemes on my husband.

Is he not human as I?

Because he wasnt given that special chromosone then I should bow down?

HA!

Story story!! Story!!!

Krayola:

I think every relationship is different. People are different in a lot of ways, need different things, and respond differently to different situations. Some people enjoy being controlled, some people prefer to defer responsibility/decision making to someone else. Some people do not want to be controlled but will take it if it keeps the home together, some will become defensive and even hostile. . . .yada yada ya. I don't think any one situation is "better" than the other. It ultimately, IMO, depends on the individuals involved and whether or not they are happy/comfortable in the situation.

Thank you!!  

davidylan:

even stillwater gets it?   Is today groundhog day?

You no well. This is not the first time I'm saying this kind of thing on NL. The rift here is that most girls and 'modern' men have a skewed definition of what the Bible says about submission.

TOPE2000!:

Can i kiss you?

Yes.

~Sauron~:

Biko nu, how much is your bride-price again?
I wan pay now before before the price soars.

The price is already high.

Krayola:

But what if he gets used to u being so submissive. . . WHat happens when you disagree with him but he insists on making decisions that directly affect you, for u, despite your objections?





I think guys that try to control girls are wimps. In fact one of my friends asked me for my opinion today about some issues he is having with his girl, thinking I was going to take his side, but I just told him straight up that his relationship was gonna mess up if he didn't stop trying to control her. Basically she has two job offers and she wants to pick one of the jobs because she has worked a similar job before. He wants her to take the other job because the company has been around for longer while the other one is a new start-up company. I explained to him that she is an adult that is going to spend 40 hrs of her week at a job. . . It is only fair that she gets to decide which job that will be . . . offer your input or advice, but it is unfair to force your opinion on her. Being a typical Naija man he just said "Well, I've put my foot down and that's it" . Kinda sad IMO.

Are u married?

Still hope!

stillwater:

You no well. This is not the first time I'm saying this kind of thing on NL. The rift here is that most girls and 'modern' men have a skewed definition of what the Bible says about submission.

you got that right. Perhaps you can try explaining what it means to plat, i'm sure she listens to you.

Or maybe i shld marry plat?  Just a thot.

Who said men don't use emotions to get what they want? Especially at night when they start stroking their kobokos against your yansh saying please na. If that is not being slave to your emotions, I don't know what to call it.

platinumnk:

No i am the only one being politcally correct here.
the women are clamoring "oohh i can use emotions to get what I want"
isnt that 50/50?

It is not.
There's no guarantee that a woman's use of her emotions will get her what she wants.
At best, she will get what she wants 3 times out of 10.

If he was a truely your leader, you would listen to his intructions and not try to manipulate him to change his mind.
Meaning you are essentially striving for equality, where I want i bold faced, no playing games and running schemes on my husband.
Is he not human as I?

They cannot always listen to his instructions cos men are human-beings prone to errors as well.
That a woman wants something does not mean she is striving for equality.
When a kid wants a new toy, he is not asking for 50% of your income.

Because he wasnt given that special chromosone then I should bow down?

I'm sorry for your relationship.
U would be thrown out of it faster than farticles stream out of OBJ's arse after eating a pot of beans.

michelin89:

Who said men don't use emotions to get what they want? Especially at night when they start stroking their kobokos against your yansh saying please na. If that is not being slave to your emotions, I don't know what to call it.

platinumnk:

Phooey- Stilly to get your way you will manipulate if you dont like what your hubby says


What kinda "leadership is that"
If you wasnt aiming for 50/50 then you wouldnt manipulate  

You really see this issue as a lord and subject thing. Sorry I can't help you here.

platinumnk:

Are u married?

Still hope!

haha. I'm not married. Probably never will. I love my freedomwomen too much. .

Krayola:

But what if he gets used to u being so submissive. . . WHat happens when you disagree with him but he insists on making decisions that directly affect you, for u, despite your objections?

Used to being submissive? I only start my submission after marriage.
I always say what u wont take when you are married. . . . voice it out when you are dating.
Only a useless man will make decisions behind his wife's back. But then again u are an Atheist . . . i dont expect u understand what God meant when he said wives shud be submissive

I think guys that try to control girls are wimps. In fact one of my friends asked me for my opinion today about some issues he is having with his girl, thinking I was going to take his side, but I just told him straight up that his relationship was gonna mess up if he didn't stop trying to control her. Basically she has two job offers and she wants to pick one of the jobs because she has worked a similar job before. He wants her to take the other job because the company has been around for longer while the other one is a new start-up company. I explained to him that she is an adult that is going to spend 40 hrs of her week at a job. . . It is only fair that she gets to decide which job that will be . . . offer your input or advice, but it is unfair to force your opinion on her. Being a typical Naija man he just said "Well, I've put my foot down and that's it"   . Kinda sad IMO.

I agree with you completely . . . .men that controls are are assholes
but we are talking abt submission darl.