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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by reachbenny(m): 2:10pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
For me: 1. Marry someone who truly loves God and is passionate about Him. 2. Marry a flexible person. 3. Marry a man or wowan who is not given to Culture, Tradition and Customs of men. 4. Marry a man or woman who loves to read good materials and apply acquired knowledge. 5. Marry a man or woman who will put his or her family above friends and other distractions. 6. Marry a man or woman with a vision whether temporal or eternal. 7. Marry a man or woman who is teachable, hospitable, loves children and willing to make sacrifices. 8. Marry someone who has listening ears, patient with life, people and everything. 9. Marry someone who has character. 10. Marry a friend who is willing to strive at becoming better every day. Marriage is an amazing experience if we deliberately choose to make it a bliss. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ableguy(m): 3:22pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
TINALETC3:Wonderful mum you've got |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by tosyne2much(m): 5:44pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
TINALETC3:Wooow.. This is wonderful So, we still have ladies that are brought up with this kind of orientation? 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by OkoAnike(m): 5:57pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
TinaAnita: Good... The young man ask for my advice and I gave him what work wonders for me, seriously not disputing ur view. Enjoy your weekend. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by OLUJOSHINS(m): 8:34pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
VickyRotex: We had a brief chat. U explained Neymar 2015 to me. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Noblelass(f): 8:45pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
swegiedon:Hmmmmm |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by mecussey(m): 9:03pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Destined2win: simple advice, DONT CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND. You can nag, complain, worry him but let him know, the last thing you will do is to cheat on him. Men respect such woman a lot 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Daeylar(f): 9:37pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Jman06: @first paragraph truth @bolded, Hopefully this happens soon enough, they want to live their lives in a certain way as they see fit yet won't allow others the opportunity to do the same. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by uniquebony(f): 9:42pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Yels. ......any issue with that ashjay001: |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ashjay001(m): 9:46pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
uniquebony: Nope, just amazed. Serious ghostmode tins niyen!? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by uniquebony(f): 9:49pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
You are right. I hardly comment. I just read for knowledge n fun a times too, nairaland is like a relief drug ashjay001: |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by VickyRotex(f): 9:55pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
OLUJOSHINS: Oh lol. That was in 2015. Nice! I honestly cant remember the discussion though. But I remember "100% Jesus! (Neymar 2015)" used to be my signature in 2015. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ashjay001(m): 9:59pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
uniquebony: Exactly! Relief drug. Though, get raving ..., when I refresh all my favourite rooms, yet nothing new/exciting!? U can always pick a fight too, na?! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 10:16pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Daeylar:Yeah, people should be free to live their lives the way they deem fit. |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Afhounja(m): 12:32am On Aug 05, 2017 |
AnonyNymous: Why do you have to? Most people these days are like sheep that are guided and led towards certain directions by social 'norms'. They blindly do things just because everyone else is doing it. They don't even stop for a second to think and ask if such things are right or healthy for them. Most people are getting---or are willing to get---married because everyone else is doing it. They believe it's the "normal" thing to do. People who are refusing to get married (for good reasons), on the other hand, are seen as "abnormal". Marriage is a way to make yourself a slave as a man. Read the replies that FX has posted on this thread so far. "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married. And by then it was too late." --- Max Kauffmann 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 6:42am On Aug 05, 2017 |
FX:Can we talk more? OK, what about if your partner is very sexually liberal? And doesn't mind polyamory, or swinging? And has the same sexual 'kinks' as you? Would you still consider marriage then? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 6:47am On Aug 05, 2017 |
Afhounja:I agree with the sheep mentality thing. I've just been thinking/wondering if there's anything everyone else is seeing that I'm not. As an adult I'm definitely not living in this country, and in most developed places marriage is basically betting 50% of everything you've ever worked for in your life, that you won't get tired of your partner. Because once you get divorced you have to give away half of everything you own. To avoid that I'd have to get a pre-nuptial agreement. If I sign a prenup and I'm sitting down with my future 'wife' discussing the terms of agreement of what should happen in case we can't handle each other's shit anymore, then is marriage still about love? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Afhounja(m): 4:08pm On Aug 05, 2017 |
AnonyNymous: I understand you and the fact is: there is a lot of things YOU are seeing that everyone else is not. Like I said previously, people get married blindly. Most people who are looking forward to get married (especially men) have been indoctrinated from birth to believe that they are SUPPOSED to do so. They have been told things like their life is meaningless if they don't end up with that 'special' person to spend the rest of their lives with. They have no other vision of their future other than to 'settle down'. This indoctrination (and brainwashing) is being done through various channels such as family and social pressures, TV, Music, movies, institutions (religious, academic, governmental), shaming tactics e.t.c. The indoctrination is so strong, so relentless and so in-your-face that one is most likely led to believe that that is how their lives SHOULD be. Virtually everything we've been taught about life since birth is false. You have to learn to stop looking at how people pretend to be living and start looking at how they are truly living. There's a lot of lies about how marriage is all about eternal bliss and blah blah blah. The reality is that marriage is a rollercoaster of endless drama, headaches, and inconveniences. As an adult I'm definitely not living in this country, and in most developed places marriage is basically betting 50% of everything you've ever worked for in your life, With such knowledge and awareness, would you really want to get married when you get there? It's just like walking into a casino to gamble knowing fully well that you will end up walking out with half of your wallet or bank account drained out. that you won't get tired of your partner. You just have to be brutally honest with yourself as a man. Man's natural make-up is not intended for him to be---or spend the rest of his life---with only one woman. At most, women should only be temporarily, casually and occasionally involved in a man's life. Because once you get divorced you have to give away half of everything you own.Even more than half in some cases due to either or more of certain factors such as: the judge, the jurisdiction, poor or weaker legal representation, e.t.c. You might even end up with nothing at the end of the day (after paying legal fees & the rest). Also, remember that alimony and child support [if you have a child(ren) in the course of the marriage] will be involved. To avoid that I'd have to get a pre-nuptial agreement. If I sign a prenup and I'm sitting down with my future 'wife' discussing the terms of agreement of what should happen in case we can't handle each other's shit anymore, There are certain western men I communicate with regularly and from what I've learnt from them, their judicial system is corrupt and biased against men. Prenups are thrown out of the window the instant a woman files for divorce. Any pre-nupital agreement you think you have with her is shunned once she decides that she is 'tired' of the marriage. then is marriage still about love?I'm convinced that you already know the answer to this question. *Based on the questions you've asked and the observations you backed them up with, I perceive you as someone who thinks correctly. Trust me, your line of thinking is not abnormal and I can assure you that you are not alone on this. In short, let me stop https://www.mgtow.com/forums/forum/marriage-divorce/ -If you have any further question(s), feel free to ask. (sorry for the late reply. It's been a quite busy Saturday for me) 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Aug 05, 2017 |
Afhounja:Wow! Thanks so much for getting back to me. And yes, I agree with a lot of your post. I just wanted to ask though, what are the legal implications of a civil union? You know, what homosexuals used to have before they were allowed to get married? I guess I should research this myself but as far as I know, heterosexual couples aren't allowed to have civil unions in the UK. I myself am not really that interested in sex, I mean I'm a healthy human and some days I have sexual urges but a lot of the time I just see it as two naked sweaty bodies exchanging disgusting fluids, lol. But assuming I was, say, hypersexual, what if I met a partner that was into the 'same stuff' as me? What if I met a partner who was into swinging, hedonism, or polyamory? Then if the reason to avoid marriage was because of infidelity/sexual satisfaction, hasn't the problem been solved? Thanks to technology, a search on the most basic dating site will help you find someone like that very easily. What would you say about that? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by JhyMedex: 11:55pm On Aug 05, 2017 |
seXytOhbAd:Dts ur advice to ur daughter?.. to manipulate her husband?.. Wehdone Sir.. |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Afhounja(m): 5:49am On Aug 06, 2017 |
AnonyNymous: Well, it depends on the kind of society you are in. If the laws of that society recognizes civil union as illegal, then it is best to avoid it. You should also take note that living with someone who is into 'the same stuff' as you for a period of time might lead to assumption of marriage by the laws. Again, this depends on the society and the kind of laws they have there. I know little to nothing about UK laws. But what I'm sure of is that if assumption of marriage takes place, you are going to be forced to perform the same marital duties as a married man. In MY honest opinion, I think the best option is that when you find a person who is into 'the same stuff' as you, you should have nothing more than a casual relationship with them. That will save you from a lot of headaches in the long run. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 5:52pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
Destined2win: Preserve your virginity, it pays!
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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Destined2win: 6:10pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
GodBlessMe4Life:Nice one but this advice should be when they are still teenagers right? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 8:05pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
uniquebony: Hmmm....men. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
reachbenny: perfect! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 8:31pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
FX: Stop this nonsense. God instituted marriage so is not a bondage. Some are enjoying their marriage, is a wonderful institution if u work on it. It is what u invest in ur marriage that u will reap. Go and work on ur marriage. |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by bbeautylik(f): 8:50pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
-Don't get married into a family house -Marry someone who can defend you all the time -If you are lady be financially independent -Marry a man whose love is greater than yours -Never marry for riches, and never accept to marry a poor man who lives under his father roof -Never marry beauty or handsomest. |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Destined2win: 9:56pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
bbeautylik:Wow. This is wonderful |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Destined2win: 10:07pm On Aug 06, 2017 |
iamloyalty:Abeg help me tell am. Whether devil likes it or not, I must enjoy my marriage |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by bbeautylik(f): 8:50am On Aug 07, 2017 |
Destined2win:Thanks |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by bukatyne(f): 1:58pm On Aug 07, 2017 |
Afhounja: Marriage is slavery for whom? What is your definition of slavery? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Aug 08, 2017 |
TINALETC3:Tell them o |
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