Love is A CHOICE, it is a DECISION. Love is NOT EMOTION.EMOTION is a chemical reaction in the brain that ONLY last for 5 seconds because of what you feel about peoples achievements, body-shape/size, 6-packs, fashion make-ups, read, hear, watch, think, imagine e.t.c about another person. They do not last, cannot sustain a relationship not to talk of building a SOUND MARRIAGE. You can have the same EMOTION for different people at different times in your life and location but because of your CHOICE to "CARE" for that ONE PERSON you do not get MOVED by all those chemical reactions with regards to other human being you encounter on your daily routine in LIFE.
All those scripts they write and act in Movies have paralysed the thinking and MATURITY of those currently in marriage who are planning to quit on their marriage or go for divorce as well as those who claim that they are ready for marriage but they have not FOUND TRUE LOVE.
Even those who claim to be "DIVORCED"or "FOUND TRUE LOVE OUTSIDE THEIR LEGITIMATE SPOUSE" at this point check it; you ALLOWED COMMUNICATION GAP or MISUNDERSTANDING to move you into the CHOICE of not "CARING FOR YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN".
Take it or leave it if you make A CHOICE TO CARE FOR HIM/HER RIGHT NOW you both will fix back your marriage and even BLOSSOM into something BETTER than your 1st relationship.
The REAL PROBLEM is that either ONE of the SPOUSE or BOTH of the SPOUSE have "LOCKED-UP" that space in their lives WHERE they made the CHOICE/DECISION TO CARE FOR EACH OTHER, once you keep this space 'locked' NO BEING in the heavens, on the earth under the world can settle your DIFFERENCES!
if each or both spouse UNLOCK THIS SPACE, you do not NEED external bodies to settle your differences!
Most problem between spouse or intending spouse or human relationships is not lack of emotional love but 'LACK OF KNOWLEDGE' on how to manage each other.
You can have the HOLY SPIRIT but you do not have KNOWLEDGE.
You have the HOLY SPIRIT by believing in JESUS CHRIST.
You acquire KNOWLEDGE by STUDYING continuously.
The HOLY SPIRIT is GOD but to illustrate this difference let us 'assume' the Holy Spirit is "A TOOL BOX" then KNOWLEDGE is "HOW TO USE THE TOOL BOX" thus your car can spoil on the ROAD and in your car there is A TOOL BOX but you can spend 7-days on that Road beside your car with that tool box however if you have the knowledge on how to use that TOOL BOX; you will fix that car in less than 5 minutes and continue your journey. Most marriages today between Holy Spirit filled partners which have broken today would have been heading to 50-70-80 years wedding anniversary if they had KNOWLEDGE on how to use the 'TOOL BOX--HOLY SPIRIT' to manage each other.
If you are already in marriage GET KNOWLEDGE
If you are about to enter into marriage GET KNOWLEDGE
If you are A CELIBATE GET KNOWLEDGE
You will never ACQUIRE ENOUGH OF KNOWLEDGE on this AREA OF LIFE or ANY OTHER AREA OF LIFE till YOU DIE.
TRUE LOVE is not waiting for you ANYWHERE, wake up from your dream. People of the opposite sex cluster around you from morning till night, can you not see someone whose face is LIKABLE to YOU?
Use wisdom and approach him/her, Indirectly make research whether he/she is READY for MARRIAGE IN HIS/HER WHOLE LIFE?
Do you have a common understanding about MARRIAGE?
Is he/she thinking about MARRIAGE within your own time-frame to settle down?
What is he/she looking out for in a prospective wife/husband?
Do you think you can fit into that FEATURES?
What is the position of religious BELIEVE between both of you?
all these while you have been making research from your own point of view NOW!
AT THIS LEVEL BE CLEAR AND BLUNT;
Does he/she see YOU as someone who he/she can call 'HIS WIFE' or 'HER HUSBAND' even without PROPOSING (All those waiting for proposal have made some people stay too long to miss out other intending suitors and have scared so many men AWAY).
So many people have won "PROPOSING RING FOR LIFE-TIME" while so many ladies do not make-up their mind early to prepare for marriage until they start getting old then they will want to throw themselves to any person that comes around.
So many have backgrounds where there parents were at war on daily bases hence they perceive marriage as EVIL. My advise for people of this category is DO NOT ALLOW YOUR BACKGROUND to hold your back on the ground, grow up and MAKE A CHOICE OF COMMITMENT TOWARDS PEOPLE IN GENERAL; it does not hurt to CARE because you are not expecting anything in return at the initial intention rather to SERVE HUMANITY with your UNIQUE BEING then THE GOD OF SOWING AND REAPING {Galatians 6:7} will bring in the opposite UNIQUE PERSON however you must be APT to recognize him/her {Of-course, you must have a "VIVID WRITTEN DOWN DESCRIPTION" OF WHO YOU WANT both academic status, Social Status, Economic Status, Spiritual Level, Physical Status e.t.c. If you do not WRITE IT DOWN, how can you recognize him/her when you MEET? }.
The Love defined for REAL MARRIAGE is a DELIBERATE DECISION, CHOICE and COMMITMENT to CARE (search for what another person needs in life without asking him/her directly and provide it for the person before the person request for it) for another person till death without expecting anything in RETURN thus "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5: Man needs forgiveness so God went and brought it then gave it to man before man sinned, it was already provided thus JESUS is the LAMB that was SLAIN before the FOUNDATION OF THE WORLD (Revelation 13:
Hence you MUST be the "NEED" of that man or woman and not his/her want.
A NEED can only be MATE by ONE thing/PERSON but wants can be gotten from multiple locations and persons!!!