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Lady Cursed For Being Pregnant Out Of Wedlock Becomes Family's Breadwinner / Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? / DEBATE: Mother And Father Who Is More Important In The Family And Why ? (1) (2) (3) (4)
|Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by easyboss1(m): 1:00pm On Aug 12, 2017|
Traditionally, the man, as head of the family, is expected to lead, provide for and protect his family. This has been his God-given role since creation. But with the passing of time, especially in this jet age where farming is no longer the main source of income for many families, women are gradually taking over, contributing financially in the home.
Without any doubt, most homes in Nigeria have the wives earning more, and most cases they are even the breadwinners. They are not only educated, many have risen very high in their work places and businesses, earning big incomes.
As a result, some husbands have become insecure, unnecessarily aggressive and even abusive. Also, some wives have become arrogant, irresponsible and very domineering. Many couples who did not manage this situation well have either divorced or separated.
Couples have got to learn to see the positive side of the situation. No big deal if a woman earns more than the husband. The big deal is when the man is doing nothing at all to support his family.
The wife should not be out there all day working to cater for the family and then gets back home to prepare food, clean the house, check the children’s books, etc. Meanwhile, the husband has been home all day, probably watching television and sleeping. That is injustice.
Every husband should avoid becoming a houseboy in his own house. There are too many houseboy-husbands these days. That you lost your job does not mean you should surrender and give up on life. When a man falls, he gets up, dusts himself, figures out what made him to fall, learns not to fall that way again and moves on. If one door closes, recreate yourself and move on to other doors.
Granted, the economic situation in Nigeria is very unhelpful in men’s efforts to be breadwinners, but there should be no retreat or surrender. Some husbands like the comfort zone provided by their wives too much and make no effort to be economically productive. If you are that type, you should accept any poo thrown at you.
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by Gentlevin: 1:10pm On Aug 12, 2017|
since d man no fit "win d bread" again den make d wife be d bread winner na. As far as food go dey table...but d man go dey lick d wife leg be DAT oooo
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by delishpot: 1:20pm On Aug 12, 2017|
There are NO laws insisting but morally and traditionally the man is expected to be the bread winner in the olden days it was a must being that Men are typically the ones that go out and mingle in business with fellow men, Men had more training and exposure outside the home which equips them to get employment, the woman (esp in the olden days when child birth happened almost every year) was mostly making babies and taking care of the home front. Nowadays with modernization and family planning (small households), Female education etc at a certain time men can afford to be home if the wife has a higher paying job offer that can support the family needs. There are no set rules these days as long as the partners are working in agreement and mature understanding. But most men would rather be the one leaving the home everyday to Hussle for the family upkeep.
But even in the olden days, women were indirectly the bread winners in many cultures because they were in charge of farming, gathering etc while men were mostly into trade and other jobs/tasks that involved traveling and mingling with other men. Foreign religion changed that aspect of our culture by locking up women and keeping them in the background..
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by poshestmina(f): 1:39pm On Aug 12, 2017|
No laid down rules anywhere... Whoever is 'winning the bread 'should bring it to the table.
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by lilmax(m): 2:03pm On Aug 12, 2017|
yes....to WEAK men who have no purpose
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by truthsayer009(m): 2:39pm On Aug 12, 2017|
Like you !
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by Jman06(m): 4:21pm On Aug 12, 2017|
Anybody who eats bread should be able to win bread.
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by Divay22(f): 4:43pm On Aug 12, 2017|
It is not compulsory,but should be when times calls for it.
But it is bad if the husband doesn't get up and go out in search of another job or find something to do, it even worse if he feels comfortable with it...
No matter how little, A woman will always appreciate you bringing to the table..
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Aug 12, 2017|
My man will be the breadwinner of our home.
I can't be a man abeg..
Have been doing that job for years. I dont intend to continue when am married.
Let's say, we will be team players. Works better for me.
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by lilmax(m): 6:01pm On Aug 12, 2017|
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by eyinjuege: 6:15pm On Aug 12, 2017|
Anyone with the higher earning power will naturally assume that role.
It doesn't mean the other party won't work. But the one who earns more takes care of more bills
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by Yuji: 10:00pm On Aug 12, 2017|
Yes she should as long as her husband can help her in domestic duties. Else,he should win the bread and let her do her own domestic duties. Nobody is a fool
|Re: Should A Woman Be The Breadwinner Of The Family? by bukatyne(f): 11:15pm On Aug 12, 2017|
In theory, no biggie
In practice? I will say a woman with help(s) can win the bread with peace.
A woman without help winning bread? Clears throat.
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