stillwater:

Which protection? What really matters is what you have instilled in her, not the unnecessary caging.

That is true but it doesnt remove the fact that she is still a woman, sometimes vulnerable to that smooth-talking, confident-looking, christian "brother" whom she thinks is God's gift to her. Believe me . . . there are so many things we dont see in our limited wisdom that only parents (especially mothers) can spot from a mile away.

Living with me and their mum is not equal to caging. They can go if they want but its in their best interest to wait until their God-send comes for their hands in marriage.

davidylan:

That is true but it doesnt remove the fact that she is still a woman, sometimes vulnerable to that smooth-talking, confident-looking, christian "brother" whom she thinks is God's gift to her. Believe me . . . there are so many things we dont see in our limited wisdom that only parents (especially mothers) can spot from a mile away.

Living with me and their mum is not equal to caging. They can go if they want but its in their best interest to wait until their God-send comes for their hands in marriage.

When she is done with her studies, send her packing.

davidylan:

That is true but it doesnt remove the fact that she is still a woman, sometimes vulnerable to that smooth-talking, confident-looking, christian "brother" whom she thinks is God's gift to her. Believe me . . . there are so many things we dont see in our limited wisdom that only parents (especially mothers) can spot from a mile away.

Living with me and their mum is not equal to caging. They can go if they want but its in their best interest to wait until their God-send comes for their hands in marriage.

word. . .but before u get carried away with this your line of reasoning, remember chances are y'all wont all live in the same state. . .

Those caged-in, over-protected daughters are the ones who fall into the traps of the psychopathic deceitful men.

michelin89:

When she is done with her studies, send her packing.

because na you born am for me abi?

Ebonyeyes:

Those caged-in, over-protected daughters are the ones who fall into the traps of the psychopathic deceitful men.

This is absolutely false. The uncaged, unprotected daughters have not shown us they are any better at dealing with the unscrupulous men out there. My cousins are just as "over-protected" . . . they are doing just fine. Their "friends" who flew the coop at 17 in the name of freedom? A lot of them brought back pregnancies to their parents.

netotse:


player hater(can u say that in yoruba?)

Nope.

michelin89:

@ topic

I guess any man who wants to get married shouldn't waste his time with me then.

You're still young now.

davidylan:

That is true but it doesnt remove the fact that she is still a woman, sometimes vulnerable to that smooth-talking, confident-looking, christian "brother" whom she thinks is God's gift to her. Believe me . . . there are so many things we dont see in our limited wisdom that only parents (especially mothers) can spot from a mile away.

Living with me and their mum is not equal to caging. They can go if they want but its in their best interest to wait until their God-send comes for their hands in marriage.

It can equal to caging especially if every single step you take you have to take permission and you are a supposed 'adult'?

davidylan:

because na you born am for me abi?

Maybe I don already get one for you.

Ebonyeyes:

Those caged-in, over-protected daughters are the ones who fall into the traps of the psychopathic deceitful men.

Not true. They might have their faults but they don't fall easily at the whims of a man. While growing up it was actually the ones that they could go out any time they liked that ended up with belle or some bad reputation.

michelin89:

Maybe I don already get one for you.

Chukwu forbid.  

stillwater:

It can equal to caging especially if every single step you take you have to take permission and you are a supposed 'adult'?

No they dont have to take permission to go out . . . why would they? they simply have to let us know where they will be as responsible members of a household where we each look out for the other. For all the "adults" out there . . . they havent shown us they are any better anyway.

Well we all know Karma is a helluva a thing so I hope David hasnt been tricking off girls because as Karma they say is visited on the kids and grand kids no matter how much you protect your kids.

davidylan:

Chukwu forbid.  

No they dont have to take permission to go out . . . why would they? they simply have to let us know where they will be as responsible members of a household where we each look out for the other. For all the "adults" out there . . . they havent shown us they are any better anyway.

Wait, as old as you are now would you still like to live with your parents?

stillwater:

Wait, as old as you are now would you still like to live with your parents?

I'm a man, culturally that will be seen as irresponsible.

Ebonyeyes:

Well we all know Karma is a helluva a thing so I hope David hasnt been tricking off girls because as Karma they say is visited on the kids and grand kids no matter how much you protect your kids.

Karma doesnt exist.

davidylan:

I'm a man, culturally that will be seen as irresponsible.

Lol, forget culture, you wouldn't want to stay under the supervision of your parents.

You will be singing a different song in 20-25yrs time when your daughter comes home crying about psychopathic goons Nature always has its way of reversing evil and meting out appropriate punishments. The bible also supports this argument saying the sins of the fathers will be visited on their children and great grand children.

stillwater:

Lol, forget culture, you wouldn't want to stay under the supervision of your parents.

If i were a woman i'd see nothing wrong with it. I'd be saving money meant for rent anyway.

Ebonyeyes:

You will be singing a different song in 20-25yrs time when your daughter comes home crying about psychopathic goons Nature always has its way of reversing evil and meting out appropriate punishments. The bible also supports this argument saying the sins of the fathers will be visited on their children and great grand children.

The bible also reversed this rule in the book of Ezekiel. It no longer applies . . . my daughters will not reap what i sowed. I didnt even sow anything bad.

Call me in 20-25yrs time

Ebonyeyes:

Call me in 20-25yrs time

you may end up as their mother for all you know.

davidylan:

If i were a woman i'd see nothing wrong with it. I'd be saving money meant for rent anyway.

Because a woman should love to be supervised.

davidylan:

you may end up as their mother for all you know.  

I pray I meet a good man without a shady past so that our kids will have a good life not men who tricked out alot of females.

stillwater:

Because a woman should love to be supervised.

Its not supervision, its love and care.

Ebonyeyes:

I pray I meet a good man without a shady past so that our kids will have a good life not men who tricked out alot of females.

you just met the right dude i tell you.

You would say that wouldnt you? Even psychopathic goons claim they are good guys

Everyone's got to toot his own horn eh.

davidylan:

Its not supervision, its love and care.

I'm not doubting the love and care just the breathing space. As an adult you need to start making decisions for yourself not through some figure head. Who likes that?

stillwater:

I'm not doubting the love and care just the breathing space. As an adult you need to start making decisions for yourself not through some figure head. Who likes that?

How does living with your parents mean you dont have breathing space and that they make decisions for you?

davidylan:

How does living with your parents mean you dont have breathing space and that they make decisions for you?

Nothing o, my bad.

Ebonyeyes:

I pray I meet a good man without a shady past so that our kids will have a good life not men who tricked out alot of females.

Funny, That means the Dude you dulled while in school abi? Seriously,the human race is funny-selfish.Date the Hot guy,the Marry The Boy-Is-Good Guy.
Check out the Male Virgin Thread, They way the female responded, omo,i pity male virgins tire,

Karma Dey, Not the way you think

lord krato:

Funny, That means the Dude you dulled while in school abi? Seriously,the human race is funny-selfish.Date the Hot guy,the Marry The Boy-Is-Good Guy.
Check out the Male Virgin Thread, They way the female responded, omo,i pity male virgins tire,

Karma Dey, Not the way you think

And if you noticed, I was supportive of the male-virgins, maybe you should go back and check that thread out. I said we would learn together. Karma is there and it happens in many odd ways.

5.

The other stoopid thing people do is dating a married man who promises you he'll leave his wife for you.
If you fall for that line you're  a goat
99% of the time they don't leave their wives
your most exalted position will be that of a mistress,a standby
flee before you develop sudden wrinkles like a white girl!!!!!!!
find you an unattached man

6.

Another dumb one which I know someone did
lending a man money to divorce his estranged wife
are you insane?
You might as well give him dowry too
If he's not running helter skelter to gather money for the divorce and you have to offer to do it for him,you need some hot slaps.
desperado.
The man is not ready to get married,get away from there.

7.

another sorry line
"My people are against me marrying someone from your area".
"They insist I must marry an Igbo girl"
make I laff first
hohohohoho,hehehehehe,hahahahaha
na man you wan marry abi na ya fellow woman
that is a lie from the pit of hell
run as fast as your ikebe can carry you
he has found a girl from his tribe, has her on standby and wants to blame the break up on his parents and relatives because he's too chicken to tell you the truth.

8.

Another one

"My elder brother is not yet married,I need to wait for him to marry first"

Ladies , start shopping around, that relationship is going nowhere.
Make yourself available and keep him on standby too,he already has you on standby
be wise.

0hsisi:

8.

Another one

"My elder brother is not yet married,I need to wait for him to marry first"

Ladies , start shopping around, that relationship is going nowhere.
Make yourself available and keep him on standby too,he already has you on standby
be wise.

Not often used . . . i havent heard this in a long time . . .

0hsisi:

7.

another sorry line
"My people are against me marrying someone from your area".
"They insist I must marry an Igbo girl"
make I laff first
hohohohoho,hehehehehe,hahahahaha
na man you wan marry abi na ya fellow woman
that is a lie from the pit of hell
run as fast as your ikebe can carry you
he has found a girl from his tribe, has her on standby and wants to blame the break up on his parents and relatives because he's too chicken to tell you the truth.

Very common, very effective and can be used to make urself look the victim. Famous alternatives to this may be . . .

"my mother will not accept you" . . . (i've used this a couple of times)
"our churches are incompatible" e.t.c.