A lot of folks believe jealousy is something you feel because of sex--because someone wants to have sex with your partner (or you think someone does) or because your partner wants to have sex with someone else (or you think they do).

The reality is that jealousy isn't about sex--jealousy is about insecurity. You're afraid that you'll lose something you have, or lose something you want to have.

We live in a society that tangles sex and love all up in a big knot. That's a social construct, not a fact of biology. We are told over and over, almost literally from the day we're born: if your partner wants sex with someone else, they don't love you! You can only love one person at a time! If your partner strays, you'll lose them! If your partner loves someone else, that means they don't love you! If your partner strays, you're not good enough!

And on top of all that, we are not taught how to be secure, we're not taught how to communicate, we're not taught how to advocate for our needs.

So you combine those two things--we are told to mix up sex and love and assume that a partner who wants sex or has feelings for someone else is about to leave us, and we're not taught to be secure--and you have a recipe for sexual jealousy.

But again, these things are cultural, not an innate part of being human. We aren't born with these attitudes. We learn them.

Brb

Plagiarism? Or you're the original author of that post?

https://www.quora.com/If-monogamy-is-unnatural-then-why-do-we-have-jealousy

pocohantas:
Plagiarism? Or you're the original author of that post?

https://www.quora.com/If-monogamy-is-unnatural-then-why-do-we-have-jealousy

lol, of course, its quite unfortunate reasons people gave me over there ain't convincingly credible for me, guess here is worse.too bad you can never ascertain anything substantive on this platform.quora is patently better. i guess you are also a member of Quora.prolly we can follow each other if you don't mind