Best:

"While children are very, very important, I always say that the best thing couples can do for their children is to put their marriages first. If they don't, there won't be a marriage".

Nature has thought us that in any situation in the life of humankind there is a head.
the husdand is always the head of the family, head in the sense that he should respect the opinion of his spouse. It is also important for the husband to be very active at night, lets try to drill them to their satisfaction.

Best advice from my divorced Uncle: 'The man is made to be the head of the house and the wife ought to be submissive.Whenever she violates this RULE, beat the hell out of her, leave the house for her for a whole day then bring her nice things the following day.If she continues, my boy, marry a second wife!'

^^^^
LOL, Very good advice from a divorcee.

Waow!

I can see there are some very good women in the house.

Keep it up, you know yourselves.

From my lady cousin====tell that girl all she wants to hear. spray some money around, buy her stuffs, when she comes in anything she sees, she cannot run away.

Of course she is a failure with her husband

Be careful when your spouse is taking advise from PASTORS especially the new generation ones. They can SCATTER a well organized home.

best: any time you see something you don't like about your spouse or she/he does something you don't like, think and dwell on something good she/he had done in the past that you really like or something about him/her that you like very much.

Best: Don't Oppose your husband especially in front of other people.  If you don't agree with him you can keep quiet or express your opinion calmly when both of you are alone.

Bad: Hide things from him or tell him about it when you have finished taking decision or when the bad part is about to be exposed.

[b] Same is applicable to the wife[/b]

Best: Men don't criticize your wife in public. Don't call her names or lower her self esteem in anyway. Even if she has done something wrong, wait for the appropriate time to scold her   talk to her.

Bad: To keep her on the rail, beat her. When she is off the rail beat her more.

Best: from a couple who has been married for over 50 years getting to 60 now and still have a very strong marriage.

Question: what has been keeping you both together for this longest time? whats your secrert?

Answer: "secret? there is no secret my dear. just perseverance, endurance, sacrifice, respect and God. you see the problem with so many todays marriage is that they lack this virtues. you have to preserve in marriage. you must make sacrifices in marriage. and you must learn to endure. she continued. respect is  a huge part because you cant have two captains at a wheel at the same time. you MUST learn to respect each other. and you cant forget those three word "i am sorry"

finally, she said the biggest one is GOD. Remember there are three people involved in a marriage. God, you and your spouse. if you take God out of the equation, you will have a hard time balancing things out. NEVER forget him. make him the captain of your marriage. you will encounter many storms and waves of the ocean in your marriage, but with God in charge, you
will NEVER be shaken"

End of discussion . To me this is the summary of this thread, everything about sustaining  a marriage can be seen from the quote above.

@Miss Ife and everyone else:

"Best: don't involve any third party in your marriage and, especially, don't discuss your relationship's issues with friends (or anybody else actually), discuss them with your husband directly."

I agree. But what happens when your husband WOULD NEVER discuss anything with you, or LISTEN when you need to talk or even give you the opportunity to start any discussion I am talking long term, not just for a few nights or days.

spicymum:

@Miss Ife and everyone else:

"Best: don't involve any third party in your marriage and, especially, don't discuss your relationship's issues with friends (or anybody else actually), discuss them with your husband directly."

I agree. But what happens when your husband WOULD NEVER discuss anything with you, or LISTEN when you need to talk or even give you the opportunity to start any discussion I am talking long term, not just for a few nights or days.

use your best judgment and the know the kinds of third party you involve

Bad Advice: Always welcome your husband in bed with open arms and open legs

2g4:

Bad Advice: Always welcome your husband in bed with open arms and open legs

LOL

Best marriage advice: Always seek marriage advice on NL.

Worst marriage advice: Never listen to anyone who says you shouldn't.

best: always make sure you satisfy yourselves in bed   (for many have fallen off the path in search of sexual satisfaction)! not forgetting emotional satisfaction too.

best: Never you sacrifice what you need on the alter of what you want. you can never get a 100% of your heart's desire in marriage. 70 to 80% is what you have at home, the remaining 20 to 30% is what you want and it is found outside, it glitters but it is hardly ever gold.

best: always be ready to forgive and even though it is difficult to forget don't make it a habit of digging up graves that are better left alone.

best: no man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is not saying

best: love is an ideal thing, marriage is a real thing. so even if your wedding is made in heaven, your marriage still has to be maintained on earth!

funny: i luv being married. its so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life!

worst: dont ever allow ur wife to take upper hand in any argument or quarrel. manufacture a lot of lies and heap it on her, call her a pro.stitue, say u are sure shes having  affairs etc any false accusation will do (for this will make her spend more time trying to defend herself). then, when she breaks down and starts to cry  , cuddle her and tell her sorry, that it was a slip of tongue.

WORST:
To keep your marriage lively,cheat on him once in a while

To a married man from his friend:
She will definitely get over an affair,just go ahead and have it,prove you are a real man.

BEST:

Keep the lines of communication open, never keep score, and always have fiki faka…even if you're old.
Always be ready to say I'm sorry,and learn to forgive.

I dunno where to classify this one,
The secret to a happy marriage is to treat him like your boyfriend, and he should treat you like his girlfriend. Go out to dinner and a movie. Watch p *o *r *n together. You know, the stuff that you do when you are dating.”

trust_me:

funny: i luv being married. its so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life!

lmao

hispinkolo:



I dunno where to classify this one,
The secret to a happy marriage is to treat him like your boyfriend, and he should treat you like his girlfriend. Go out to dinner and a movie. Watch p *o *r *n together. You know, the stuff that you do when you are dating.”

LOL, nah. . . thats bad. real bad

^^^
Not bad to watch po.rn with your spouse.

what da heck is wrong in watchin po.rn? Please don't give me that shyte! I plan on having more po.rno films in my films shelf than any other film. , Variety is the spice of life naw, All these S.Us on NL sef.Mschew!

I LIKE THE WAY IT'S FLOWING HERE,

MY MUM ADVISED ME NOT TO KEEP TOO CLOSE

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CONFICENCE IN ANYONE OUTSIDE MY MARRIAGE

SHE WAS EQUALY ADVICED NOT TO KEEP SUCH KIND OF FRIENDSHIP, ALL THESE AND OTHERS HAVE ALWAYS WORKED BTW US

what da heck is wrong in watchin po.rn? Please don't give me that shyte! I plan on having more po.rno films in my films shelf than any other film. , Variety is the spice of life naw, All these S.Us on NL sef.Mschew!

DON'T FORGET THAT KIDS ARE AT HOME WATCHING THE TWO OF YOU ON EVERYTHING YOU DO, DONT BE SURPRISED SEE THEM PRACTICE SAME THING WHEN YOU ARE NOT THERE, WHATEVER BEHAVIOR OR ATTITUDE YOU NOTICE IN KIDS, TRACE 90% OF IT TO THEIR HOMES AND THE REST TO THEIR COLLEAGUES IN SCHOOL.

YOU MAY THINK THEY ARE SMALL, NOT LOOKING AT YOU OR OSTENSIBLY LOOKING SO INDIFFERENT IN WHAT YOU DO, IT ALL REGISTERS IN THEIR MIND

^^^^
Except you live in a one room shack, how will your kids watch?
You can watch as much po.rn but keep it under lock.

best advice
be submissive in marriage,
patience can settle a lot of things



worst advice
don't keep shut wen u'r angry

lol love this thread
m not married but ive heard some nonsense
worst: a man will be a man let him be. as long as he is feeding you and taking care of the children let him chase the woman outside thats not ur business, you have your children to bother about at the end of the day he will still come home.


so wot if he eventually comes home and brings AIDS to the house

thot provoking:Careful in carrying your family business to your inlaws or giving ur husband a bad name and judging matter for the mother,brothers or relations at the end of the day their loyalty lies with one person alone (certainly their son)regardless of what they may tell you when you complain even when he is wrong.


best: communicate communicate and communicate,

SORRY for the diversion, does anyone have an idea when Catholics celebrate Mother's day in Nigeria?

In the first yr of marriage, the woman talks and the man listens.
After like say 3yrz, the man talks and the woman listens. .
After another 4yrz, their neighbour talks and they both listen(i.e the neighbour is now the mediator). . . Hahahahaha. . .

In the first yr of marriage, the woman talks and the man listens.
After like say 3yrz, the man talks and the woman listens. .
After another 4yrz, their neighbour talks and they both listen(i.e the neighbour is now the mediator). . . Hahahahaha. . .

b0y:

what da heck is wrong in watchin po.rn? Please don't give me that shyte! I plan on having more po.rno films in my films shelf than any other film. , Variety is the spice of life naw, All these S.Us on NL sef.Mschew!

BlueDiva:

^^^
Not bad to watch po.rn with your spouse.

hehe different strokes . . . i guess

abeg, b0y no vex oo u hear. nothing do you jare. carry go

touchmeder:

lol love this thread
m not married but ive heard some nonsense
worst[b]: a man will be a man let him be. as long as he is feeding you and taking care of the children let him chase the woman outside thats not your business, you have your children to bother about at the end of the day he will still come home.[/b]

sadly thats exactly the way most african marriage are structured.

best: communicate communicate and communicate,

cant stress enough the importance of it. however, most people cant actually differentiate between 'communication and nagging/talking' those are serious two different things when we are talking about true communication in marriage.

most couples nag, talk and nag even more without actually communicating and then when all hell break loose and ask about communication in the marriage you will hear 'i have been talking/talking/complaining etc with him/her but to no avail' without knowing they were actually doing the opposite of what they thought.

daog:

best advice: be submissive in marriage,
patience can settle a lot of things

hehehe. . .that word 'submissive' scare alot of people

worst advice: don't keep shut wen u'r angry

important! cause you might do/say something at the heat of the moment you probably end up regretting