Quit, maybe it's not your area of specialisatipn

Its the consequences of premarital sex.
Give your life to Christ totally.
Abstain until u are legal married. Sex is for the married. Pursue God vigorous With your strength.

God bless you

RETIREDMUMU:
Please help me nlander, this thing has been baffling me for a year now.

fast forward in 2016, i started having break ups due to the reason: once i have sex with girls i started having hatred towards them especially when the sex is constantly.

i thought at first maybe it a normal thing due to fact that i love taste random........

until this same occurrence happened yesterday on our first love making, toward me and my long term girl, this girl i love her like mad, am even planing future reference with her, i don't want to lose this same girl because of this hatred.


i tried to discuss this with my friend, and fortunately this happen to some of them(having hatred after having sex)


i tried to Google for solutions but nothing useful found



i tried to do dating without sex but the thought still runs in my head,and i always want stable relationships for now.

just help me!!

You hate yourself and not them!!!! Try loving yourself after sex then and you gonna thank me latter.

see the name naaa:: RETIREDMUMU ?
why won't he hate?? leave puna alone and focus on ur life and future. There is more to life than just sleeping around with girls and having fun. compare urself with ur equals and u will understand what an talking about.

just passing....

It means you befriends those girls because
1). Physical appearance (beauty)

2). Body position (Back side or so)
However, you need to gradually build what we call LOVE. It's not a day perfected arrangement. Do you know you can marry the person that never occurred to you through love building?

HMZi:
HABA....HAHA..




Its not abt being selfish,its just that i've tried to beat it over the years but it aint going away.. i hate it but it just keeps happening..... i mean she wants to say how she loves me and had a great fuuvk but i just want silence.....else i just get pissed as fvvvvk....

It hurts us women.. Trust me..Speaking from experinece..Like you guys have your fill and just want to be alone...Gosh!!

Effiezynews:



It hurts us women.. Trust me..Speaking from experinece..Like you guys have your fill and just want to be alone...Gosh!!

damn....never saw it that way....

RETIREDMUMU:
Please help me nlander, this thing has been baffling me for a year now.

fast forward in 2016, i started having break ups due to the reason: once i have sex with girls i started having hatred towards them especially when the sex is constantly.

i thought at first maybe it a normal thing due to fact that i love taste random........

until this same occurrence happened yesterday on our first love making, toward me and my long term girl, this girl i love her like mad, am even planing future reference with her, i don't want to lose this same girl because of this hatred.


i tried to discuss this with my friend, and fortunately this happen to some of them(having hatred after having sex)


i tried to Google for solutions but nothing useful found



i tried to do dating without sex but the thought still runs in my head,and i always want stable relationships for now.

just help me!!

A little psychoanalysis for you.

You don't hate the women, YOU ACTUALLY HATE YOURSELF BECAUSE OF GUILT.

I suspect an ultra-religious background where FORNICATION is CONDEMNED in no small measure.

I am very sure you need a no sex relationship that would lead to marriage. That's one.

Two. You need psychiatric help. One or two sessions with a proper psychologist should point you in the right direction.

Hope this is helpful.

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Brother you have the spirit of lust in you .it will be better if u repent and give ur life to christ.then u can have the real love in your heart and be establishe.then u. Need deliverance from powers that does not want u to have a stable marriage .

To come out of this problem,firstly,you must have an encounter with Jesus,that is,you must be born again..secondly,stop porns to avoid lustful desires

tobbiest:
To come out of this problem,firstly,you must have an encounter with Jesus,that is,you must be born again..secondly,stop porns to avoid lustful desires

bro, u mean born again solve this issue, this is different bro from emotional affairs but by tge the way lot of thankful

HMZi:
Thats cold....

after sex i just want total silence,its when she talks that i get annoyed...

guy I dey craze ooooo

HMZi:
Thats cold....

after sex i just want total silence,its when she talks that i get annoyed...

guy u dey craze ooooo

I think its normal for some people.https://tbloaded.com/2017/09/03/wizkids-come-closer-certified-gold-international-market/

AreaFada2:


Spirit wives ko, masquerade/egungun wives ni.

It is not at all unusual to feel such hate.

In fact it is one of the reasons some guys womanize a lot. Thinking they have now definitely found the girl they love. But same happens after sex.

Once you have "conquered" her, your hunter instinct is to get a "fresh" one.

Fact is that you have not really fallen in love with a girl. Not even the latest you are "planning future reference with", whatever that means.

I feared same feeling so much that I turned down two/three girls who were all over me. One as a teenager, and another was a work colleague years later. I confided in a female friend about the work colleague. That she was really pretty and most guys at work toast her but she refused them.
That as shapely & pretty as she was, I had no feelings for her. Though because we were so close, everyone called us bf & gf. But we were NOT.
The female friend advised me not to date her or be intimate with her. That she'd could trap me with a pregnancy.

I called her one day and told her the truth. That I had no feelings for her. She'd not even speak to me after that. She looked sick for a few weeks.
The second work colleague seemed like "donatus" in that she had two other guys, gleaned from talking to her. Maybe even more. She liked me but was not in love with me.

She had the most curvy shape you could find. And tall. ALL work colleagues toasted her. ALL. And she told me so. And asked why I never toasted her. Really, people yearn for something seemingly out of reach. It took the Grace of God not to bang her one day. Very close. Before I regained my composure. She was gagging for it and her disappointment was obvious on her face.

A few months later, I left the job. Thank God. Working with her had become very difficult.

@OP,
In essence, you can feel "dirty" after sleeping with a girl you should not have slept with. The hate you suddenly feel may be partly due to your own guilt. We all have conscience, no matter how hard we try to suppress it.

Work harder at resisting the temptation of random sex. If there's a girl you really liked initially and started disliking her after sex, consider if you now suddenly hate those things you previously liked about her. If not, then it is the sexual act that you really feel bad about. Maybe somewhere within you have a deep religious or moral side. Perhaps subconsciously. You might be hating what you see as the "seductress" in her. But remember it takes two to tango.

as ur crk teacher, wat is the moral lesson of this short fiction? Narrate the gospel of Mark in connection with this story.

RETIREDMUMU:
Please help me nlander, this thing has been baffling me for a year now.

fast forward in 2016, i started having break ups due to the reason: once i have sex with girls i started having hatred towards them especially when the sex is constantly.

i thought at first maybe it a normal thing due to fact that i love taste random........

until this same occurrence happened yesterday on our first love making, toward me and my long term girl, this girl i love her like mad, am even planing future reference with her, i don't want to lose this same girl because of this hatred.


i tried to discuss this with my friend, and fortunately this happen to some of them(having hatred after having sex)


i tried to Google for solutions but nothing useful found



i tried to do dating without sex but the thought still runs in my head,and i always want stable relationships for now.

just help me!!

I can't help you Op but God can. Submit to Him, repent genuinely & receive Jesus Christ into your life today. He would help you to flee from immorality & youthful lusts. IMO, what you have is the "amnon complex". Amnon, David's son lusted so much for his half sister Tamar & when he finally had his way with her, the bible said that he hated her so much that it was equal to the manner he once thought he loved her. If you search your mind well & are blunt & honest with yourself, you would realize that you never really loved any of those women you were sleeping with. They were just tools for you to satiate the lustful yearnings of your flesh. Hence, when that desire was met, they had no use for you again. Hence, you got rid of them like you would to a sachet of 'pure water' after downing its content. You really need Jesus Christ, who would teach you how to crucify the flesh with all its lusts & desires. He would overhaul your mindset & make you see things in a different light. Our bodies are supposed to be God's temple, a holy, living sacrifice to Him. Don't defile the temple of God because you were redeemed by a hefty price (the blood of Jesus Christ). Read 1 corinthians chapter 13, which talk about the qualities true love must possess. If you can't do this to any woman, don't even befriend her not to talk of being in a relationship with her. Instead of pursuing sex in a relationship, focus on weighty issues like the fear of God, trust, mutual respect, honour, concern, selflessness, responsibilty, purpose etc. Those are the things that would ultimately build a happy marriage for you. A woman is more than what is in between her legs, she is more than shapes, curves, looks & other physical attributes. She carries an image of God within that you should help her to fully express. Your aim should be to promote God's agenda in her life not engage in acts that jeopardize both your souls. Surrender unto Jesus, be a chronic prayer & bible studying & meditating practitioner & ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. Start with 2 corinthians 3: 3-5 focusing on the last sentence of verse 5. God bless you.

gemale:

I can't help you Op but God can. Submit to Him, repent genuinely & receive Jesus Christ into your life today. He would help you to flee from immorality & youthful lusts. IMO, what you have is the "amnon complex". Amnon, David's son lusted so much for his half sister Tamar & when he finally had his way with her, the bible said that he hated her so much that it was equal to the manner he once thought he loved her. If you search your mind well & are blunt & honest with yourself, you would realize that you never really loved any of those women you were sleeping with. They were just tools for you to satiate the lustful yearnings of your flesh. Hence, when that desire was met, they had no use for you again. Hence, you got rid of them like you would to a sachet of 'pure water' after downing its content. You really need Jesus Christ, who would teach you how to crucify the flesh with all its lusts & desires. He would overhaul your mindset & make you see things in a different light. Our bodies are supposed to be God's temple, a holy, living sacrifice to Him. Don't defile the temple of God because you were redeemed by a hefty price (the blood of Jesus Christ). Read 1 corinthians chapter 13, which talk about the qualities true love must possess. If you can't do this to any woman, don't even befriend her not to talk of being in a relationship with her. Instead of pursuing sex in a relationship, focus on weighty issues like the fear of God, trust, mutual respect, honour, concern, selflessness, responsibilty, purpose etc. Those are the things that would ultimately build a happy marriage for you. A woman is more than what is in between her legs, she is more than shapes, curves, looks & other physical attributes. She carries an image of God within that you should help her to fully express. Your aim should be to promote God's agenda in her life not engage in acts that jeopardize both your souls. Surrender unto Jesus, be a chronic prayer & bible studying & meditating practitioner & ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. Start with 2 corinthians 3: 3-5 focusing on the last sentence of verse 5. God bless you.

thanks so much

TrapHedges:
happens to everybody once you fuçk a girl u don't like

I disagree with you. It only happens to boys who are not prepared to be in a relationship not matured minds.

jfleece:
guy I dey craze ooooo

SINCE 1923

jfleece:
as ur crk teacher, wat is the moral lesson of this short fiction? Narrate the gospel of Mark in connection with this story.

Some people are so inexperienced that most things remain a fiction to them.

I had a theology professor, one of the UK's best known eschatologists of the last 50 years. He died 14 years ago. So CRK was way before that. Your NCE in CRK is at least decades late.

Many have travelled, read and studied across disciplines that you will find it hard to imagine.

I can understand. But many things others have done might remain a fiction for you if you do not learn from those who have already been there.
Doubts have got nobody nowhere. You can learn a lot from many people here. Like Jarus, Spyder and many others.

Be ambitious and work hard. Your horizon will widen. And many things can become reality for you.
Good luck.

Hollysaint:
It has happened to me bro.i t starts with guilt then hatred but it has stopped after a period of three years.i did nothing about it ,it just passed with time your post made me remember my first to 4th girl friend .it started when i lost my virginity don't worry it will stop with time just like mine it took me 3 years plus but now i can sleep with any girl and still be very normal.give it time but don't break up with her if u loved her before the sex the hate will go away soon.Am still regretting breaking up with my first love because of it.

I thinks say na only me this thing dey do sha

[quote author=Tonythriller post=60065493]Whr do u want us to start in helping you? Obviously you don't know what yo want in a girl. Must it just be the sex? Looks more like it. Am sure if you can find something else in a girl,let's say companionship, confidant, crime partner or even good adviser I bet dix ur attitude will change. I will just conclude that you have not yet met the right girl for you. Look beyond sex nd physical beauty nd focus more on character. You will find that girl whose personality fits into your own life and you will always love and bleep her non-stop till rapture comes.

Correct

Antecote:


Security Why are people getting married because of money or because of how much your partner can provide financially in marriage. Whatever happened to marrying someone you have a lot in common, This is the reason why divorce is on a rise, people putting more emphasis on money than the important factors

And if the husband or wife lose their job nd the security is gone then what next? Divorce

Securing a good future for their kids, finance is one of those things that can easily threaten a marriage.

Sfateema:



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Why I would be using paracetamol for someone else's headache?

can't u be Ur brothers keeper Ni.
Ehn I don't care attitudes is what's killing us in Nija

Sfateema:



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Why I would be using paracetamol for someone else's headache?

can't u be Ur brothers keeper Ni.
Ehn I don't care attitudes is what's killing us in Nija

Fair enough

Livefreeordieha:
eyaнннн very тoυcнy тoυcнιng ѕтory....dey yaғғғ � and yaғғғ cнop тнe ĸpeĸυzzzzz...oмo ғree dιz тιn...an acт conjυgaтed втw adυlтѕ na ғaιr gaмe...ιғ υ ғeel вad aғтerwardѕ na υr cυp oғ тea..

you know what? you are a dumb asshole dude, you only view entire women as a sex products and once you achieve your goals then everything is over.

A friend says that;
You sucked your mama's breast for THREE good years yet U never buy her anything. U started sucking UR gf's breast without milk three months ago Nd U don buy Iphone7 for her. Brother, close your eyes. Let him pray for you..

RETIREDMUMU:
Please help me nlander, this thing has been baffling me for a year now.

fast forward in 2016, i started having break ups due to the reason: once i have sex with girls i started having hatred towards them especially when the sex is constantly.

i thought at first maybe it a normal thing due to fact that i love taste random........

until this same occurrence happened yesterday on our first love making, toward me and my long term girl, this girl i love her like mad, am even planing future reference with her, i don't want to lose this same girl because of this hatred.


i tried to discuss this with my friend, and fortunately this happen to some of them(having hatred after having sex)


i tried to Google for solutions but nothing useful found



i tried to do dating without sex but the thought still runs in my head,and i always want stable relationships for now.

just help me!!

try dangote daughter and see

beautiful232:
you need some good SEX..maybe your sense Go come back....

your ass dey return person sense?

Tonythriller:


Good! Am glad you said "uniqueness" and I won't ask in what ways. Just focus on her uniqueness. If she is understanding, tell her about how u've bleeped up with oda girls ova sex and examine her reaction. If she is supportive,then don't Bleep her till she asks for it. If she is not, then she is not for you. Do the needful.

Oga, you be pro o but where did you put sin of fornication in this advice
?

RETIREDMUMU:



this thing will surely happen when i got married

Think positively! Build a solid relationship before thinking about sex. If you focus on sexual curiosity aka lust, you'll always be disappointed. You have to love the person for good reasons to keep the relationship alive.