is better for you to find someone u will build life with n that Will appreciate you n not the other way round....that's my taught though

missloluwa:


I'm in my mid 20's.



Hmmm, technically I found the respect with them. Love and fulfilment are so abstract, it's hard to determine how much is really enough. I like this answer though, thanks

how old are you can't you be specific instead of mid 20s
It's obviousyou not straightforward with yourself
Well good luck searching and don't ever settle for less

This story will change in a couple of years.

truthsayer009:


Exactly sis. Exactly.

She's rolling with lower class people and friends / co-workers and expecting a miracle rich husband.

If you Roll with chickens. More chickens would come way.

High class ni

Keep decivin her

You can find your type among senators and reps including Governor. Just make sure they don't use you for money ritual why searching for rich guy. Ole, olojukokoro.

God Bless you bro God Bless you bro

you are on track my dear

Abeg just say you are looking for a ready made guy instead of writing these long epistle

If you must settle for a struggling guy, please make sure you really know him
especially how he thinks.

Many Nigerian guys automatically see a more financially buoyant partner
as being arrogant and disrespectful and will only date such to pass time till
they are well off and then go for a non-career woman or a less successful
woman.

Majority are intimidated by intellect and money, so look before you leap!

Funkybabee:
Sister don't settle for less!!!! don't be desperate, you have to marry who worth your standard so that you may have happy home..

May God grant you ur own husband that will take care of you.... just remember this wait for your time

not trying to brag buh ama big boy!! buh marriage because of financial standard aint marriage... not dat well to do guys cant do good marriage partner!!! buh if u go wit dat light for a marriage mate,, u might end up marrying a very wrong person!!! i want we youth to really see d light for an enjoyable nd lasting marriage... we talking a lotta years here,, been financially bouyant cant keep dat marriage vibe going for a long time,,,, FACT

Lexusgs430:
Keep waiting...... He might come along, if not ............

Beautiful232, took it out of my mouth ........ Seeing that she is above me, it feels like we are having lady on top .......

hahaha....there's absolutely nothing wrong starting life with a guy
..but make close mouth make them no come to me o

women shaa! but most of the rich guys settle for less and thereafter help their wife to get a suitable job why not do same to a guy u think u love

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Meritocracy:
You can find your type among senators and reps including Governor. Just make sure they don't use you for money ritual why searching for rich guy. Ole, olojukokoro.

Would you rather your wife be feeding you ?

hedonistic:


Words on marble. Guys, take note of this... And read the deep meaning between the lines.

Meanwhile, like I mentioned elsewhere, people need to stop making long-term decisions on the basis of short-term considerations. So-called good jobs and so-called money are things that can disappear at any point. And then you're stuck with a partner you barely love or understand, with a couple of kids and battered bodies as baggage. What do you do, then? Live the rest of your life in misery and discontent, ruing a paradise lost?

You can't assume that someone who has a good job or a thriving business today will have that in 5 or 10 years time. We all know people who were large yesterday and are nothing today, and vice versa. It's called life, and it has very many vicissitudes.

hedonistic:


Words on marble. Guys, take note of this... And read the deep meaning between the lines.

Meanwhile, like I mentioned elsewhere, people need to stop making long-term decisions on the basis of short-term considerations. So-called good jobs and so-called money are things that can disappear at any point. And then you're stuck with a partner you barely love or understand, with a couple of kids and battered bodies as baggage. What do you do, then? Live the rest of your life in misery and discontent, ruing a paradise lost?

You can't assume that someone who has a good job or a thriving business today will have that in 5 or 10 years time. We all know people who were large yesterday and are nothing today, and vice versa. It's called life, and it has very many vicissitudes.

LadyGoddiva:
I can already imagine your mouth twisted by poverty! When was the last time you ate a real meal? Why's her choice paining you so much? Look at this wretched and broke ass fool looking for a rich babe. You'll not go and work hard and make something out of your miserable and useless life! SmellyPig
And not everyone sTarted out poor. I'm sure you're one of those lazy, indolent dolts that stay in bed all day jerking off to porn and imagining "blowing", while screaming "Oluwa bless my hustle". God doesn't bless redundant masturbators. Be a man and work hard and live an okay life, maybe then you'll be able to have an opinion when relevant people are talking.

Take it easy. Life is not that hard. On this topic, I am not so surprised as I have known that the system in this country is dysfunctional. Right from year 1 in university, Nigerian girls that I know had always settled for yahoo boys rather than the studious, serious but average joe. It is what it is:Life!

My advice to all young men under the anointing of my post is to forget about having a stable relationship (you can always get sex elsewhere) until you are financially stable. Do all what you can to make it. We are condemned to making it anyhow n this country. I have friends who are facing hell in their marriages because there is no money and their wives keep fucking around. I shudder whenever I think about it. I am consistently cynical about Nigerian women and I have credible justification for being so.

So in all, young men should work hard, smart and in a focused manner. We are at the tail end of civilization and these events have been foretold. God will help all Nigerian youths.

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Tough one!

It is difficult to determine success in Nigeria. A banker with a good job could be handed a pink slip any time. An importer could fall under the weight of Customs' indecision. A contractor may be under the weight of unpaid contracts.
In other words, being there today is not a guarantee that it will be there tomorrow. Too many uncertainties in Nigeria. Some men started doing better after marriage while once successful men went under after marriage.

The future could be unpredictable. Marriage is not just dating. I think prayers would come handy at this time. What you don't need is a man with many excuses.

/

Let me tell you my view. Like I said, it remains my view and you reserve the right to take it or leave it.

1. On my way to the office this morning, I thought about several things like I always do. Chief among them was the falsity of these renowned phrases: WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE, THERE IS NO COMPETITION IN DESTINY, DESTINY CAN BE DELAYED BUT NOT DENIED INFACT, I LOOKED AT THE WORDS DESTINY & FATE again........ It's all hogwash aka balderdash

2. HOW DOES THAT RELATE TO YOUR PROBLEM?

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Ajewealth123:
Your life is in your hands.
But let me enlighten you, all those you mention isn't a criteria.
What matters in a relationship is love, LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE.
p'square/omotayo
Emoney/ his wife
Tuface/ Annie
And so on.go through their story line the guys were extremely poor but they are hardworking guys and today, few of their peers meet up to standard.
My advice is, marry foe love but marry someone who has ambition,vision and is hardworking

Alcatraz005:


Take it easy. Life is not that hard. On this topic, I am not so surprised as I have known that the system in this country is dysfunctional. Right from year 1 in university, Nigerian girls that I known had always settled for yahoo boys rather than the studious, serious but average joe. It is what it is:Life!

My advice to all young men under the anointing of my post is to forget about having a stable relationship (you can always get sex elsewhere) until you are financially stable. Do all what you can to make it. We are condemned to making it anyhow n this country. I have friends who are facing hell in their marriages because there is no money and their wives keep fucking around. I shudder whenever I think about it. I am consistently cynical about Nigerian women and I have credible justification for being so.

So in all, young men should work hard, smart and in a focused manner. We are at the tail end of civilization and these events have been foretold. God will help all Nigerian youths.

Alcatraz005:


Take it easy. Life is not that hard. On this topic, I am not so surprised as I have known that the system in this country is dysfunctional. Right from year 1 in university, Nigerian girls that I known had always settled for yahoo boys rather than the studious, serious but average joe. It is what it is:Life!

My advice to all young men under the anointing of my post is to forget about having a stable relationship (you can always get sex elsewhere) until you are financially stable. Do all what you can to make it. We are condemned to making it anyhow n this country. I have friends who are facing hell in their marriages because there is no money and their wives keep fucking around. I shudder whenever I think about it. I am consistently cynical about Nigerian women and I have credible justification for being so.

So in all, young men should work hard, smart and in a focused manner. We are at the tail end of civilization and these events have been foretold. God will help all Nigerian youths.

Best advice!

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Are u DJ cuppy ? Well in my opinion someone must lift someone. I think its the heart and content of character u should be more interested in. However u are not a bad girl for having standards.

Babe im a made man.Working in aviation.I earn in d upper six digits.Kindly respond to my PM.

no one asks this



what happens to you when you loose that job ?

will your standards or preference change?


what investments do u have, that would go a long way in securing your future?


I've seen ladies upgrade to higher taste, especially when they get that high paying job , but when they are sacked they strive to continue with the old lifestyle and then would be desperate

You better relax dear, with all u have said so far I don't see u helping urself in getting the right man. U need counselling

beautiful232:



hahaha....there's absolutely nothing wrong starting life with a guy
..but make close mouth make them no come to me o

Every relationship is a risk and a gamble ..........

must u marry
just enjoy the money u make alone

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Mid 20s lol u still get time to make ur choice sha

It also depends on hw much u earn presently if u presently earn above 250k I will say settling with a guy dt earns above 150k with prospects is nt a bad choice. Sometimes some guys earn less BC of lack of better opportunities. A jobless guy or a guy dt is not presently earning up to half ur salary is a no no he shld find his level

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Hello dear, your thoughts are good ones but you need to also face the reality. We don't always get 100% of what we want in life and by waiting to get it, we tend to waste so much of our time and before we know it, we becomes desperate to get just anything which will not be your portion inn shaa Allah.

You can just support any guy with potential since you earning a decent salary. A reasonable guy will plan something meaningful with an asset like you. For instance, as your guy, if am still struggling but have some wonderful business ideas rolling in my head, I expect you to support me with at least little capital to start with knowing that I have little capital with me too. The capital in question must not be big, something around 200k will do plus the one I have too say 200k which makes it 400k. Just to start up something. Remember to never despise a small beginning.

However, to do all this, you must be a woman with large heart. Ordinary woman can't do it. Also, you don't do this for an ordinary guy, it has to be an extraordinary guy with extraordinary potentials.

When I was processing my travelling to the US, my ex gave me 20k to pay for my international passport. Though, for a reason I couldn't complete the process. But if the process had been successful, there's no way I will not make reference to her whenever am narrating my success story. Even now, whenever am using my passport for a purpose, I always remember her for good.

Stop thinking that what if the guy disappoint me. You should always think positive. Life itself is not certain.
Take the risk to take the lead! All the winners you see today were at one point in their life a risk taker!

Above all, prayer is key. In everything you seeking, prayer must lead. All the best.

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Follow your heart. Nobody should kill you for wanting certain standards and if you have to drop below your current standard, make sure it has to be with someone who has genuine and sincere intentions towards you. That way, you wouldn't be losing too much. I personally, have vowed never to date anybody from a poor background no matter how pretty or sincere the person might appear to be. And the reason is this: from my assessment, most people from such backgrounds are hardly totally honest with you cos there's sometimes, this innate desire to get out of that phase of life and it puts pressure on them to do things they really shouldn't be doing. Sometimes, it's as a result of peer pressure. People who come from average of rich backgrounds hardly ever feel the urge to impress a lot of people even if they fall and the simple reason is cos, they have been there before. It's usually not a very easy decision but I still believe people should not marry out of their social status. Average/semi-rich should marry themselves. Semi-rich/very rich should marry themselves. The poor and extremely poor should marry themselves cos it's easier for them to understand themselves since they are from similar backgrounds. The poor often don't think about too much other than let's eat today, make babies and just live life as it comes. Over the holidays, I saw people living in single rooms/room and parlour, tying big ram and cattle in front of their houses just to celebrate sallah and I got peeved. That kind of mentality would hamper a partner who's from the background where they are always thinking of investment and how to turn the next kobo to a few nairas. So, there would always be a clash of ideology. But to everything, there's always an exception but your chances of meeting that exception, might be very slim.

Lexusgs430:

Every relationship is a risk and a gamble ..........

that's it

goodnewscliff:
not trying to brag buh ama big boy!! buh marriage because of financial standard aint marriage... not dat well to do guys cant do good marriage partner!!! buh if u go wit dat light for a marriage mate,, u might end up marrying a very wrong person!!! i want we youth to really see d light for an enjoyable nd lasting marriage... we talking a lotta years here,, been financially bouyant cant keep dat marriage vibe going for a long time,,,, FACT

That is your view. . I have already said my own, the way you think is different from mine

InvertedHammer:


Tough one!

It is difficult to determine success in Nigeria. A banker with a good job could be handed a pink slip any time. An importer could fall under the weight of Customs' indecision. A contractor may be under the weight of unpaid contracts.
In other words, being there today is not a guarantee that it will be there tomorrow. Too many uncertainties in Nigeria. Some men started doing better after marriage while once successful men went under after marriage.

The future could be unpredictable. Marriage is not just dating. I think prayers would come handy at this time. What you don't need is a man with many excuses.

/

Well said.

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

[b][/b] pm me..lol

missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

once you enter 35 and single you will be finding even lesser than less to settle down with

do you think men will be available?

any women who is telling you that men are all round and you will see the perfect one, biko!! that woman no want your progress.

in summary! marry your father


useless women thinking that the world revolve around them, and you see them apes shouting female right or feminist.