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|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by lahips(f): 4:36pm On Mar 01, 2010|
hummmmm there are alot of things involved in this issue, experience they say is the best teacher, i have personally been involved with a guy that was earning 40k, meeennnnnnn it just wasnt working, not because of the pay but because of other factors like complex problems, insecurity, footing bills, we argue all the time, we even argue about means of transportation, he says using flight is a waste of money, why would i sit all day just trying to get to a place like Lagos, and frankly it could be embarassing, no offence meant to guys, but i am just been realistic, it just wasnt working, and i never asked for anything from him and the funniest part was that all i got from him was numerically not up to 2000naira through out the 6months we dated which was no big deal to me cause i understood with him.
and talking about getting him something to do, i did my best, i even got him in for First bank interview but he did not make it through, a male colleague advised me never to try to get a guy a job or try to make a guy comfortable enough for you cause he will never respect you for that, maybe some might but i guess its different strokes for different folks, well till date he still hasnt gotten a good job, which means i would still have been waiting, well we may not be dating again but if i hear of openings i still try to help him, but certainly not for myself, moreover trying to help a guy only makes one feel desperate and i am of the opinion that marriage should happen at its time, well in all i dont think i will marry a jobless guy, the drama in this kind of relationship is just too much.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by agabaI23(m): 4:40pm On Mar 01, 2010|
No they don't intimidate me. I was just talking of what I know. And you have not said I lied.
My black sisters only set that standard of 'must be a degree holder' only if the bloke is black where as
they can marry a white mechanic or even cleaner as far they are not black without bathing an eyelid.
For your information I have no problems with your degree criteria. To each his own. An average Nigerian abroad has at least 2 degrees.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by bawomolo(m): 5:32pm On Mar 01, 2010|
i even got him in for First bank interview but he did not make it through, a male colleague advised me never to try to get a guy a job or try to make a guy comfortable enough for you cause he will never respect you for that,
na wa o, where do you guys get all these theories from.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by ayettymama(f): 5:35pm On Mar 01, 2010|
yes u have lied
how many black women married to white mechanics have u seen??
how many white mechanics have u seeen sef?
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by agabaI23(m): 7:03pm On Mar 01, 2010|
haba I am sure you know better than what you have just said.
The mechanic there represents Artisans.
They could be bricklayers or anything but they do not have a degree.
Do you girls even ask them their occupation? The moment they do not have black skin,
they are the next best thing after amala and ewedu.
BTW it is your preference no bad feelings. My little point is that they should be made to submit their CV also where you would check if they got 2nd class upper or just school cert.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by chiogo(f): 7:16pm On Mar 01, 2010|
Iranoladun:What's that supposed to mean? Women can be lazy or jobless?
It'd make sense if women hold men to the same standards they have themselves.
Woman or not, you shouldn't be jobless unless you have a filthy rich husband and he wants you to handle other things and it works out for you two that way. Other than that, I don't see why anybody should be jobless. So, if he doesn't marry you, you'll be doing nothing with your life.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by stillwater: 7:40pm On Mar 01, 2010|
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by BlueDiva: 7:46pm On Mar 01, 2010|
What's wrong with marrying a jobless man?
An average jobless man won't have the money to even marry.
I know a guy who didn't have a job and got married to his long time girlfriend.
Though he came from a middle class home and his parents footed his bills.
He was already a graduate then and about a year later he got a very good job.
If the girl had refused marrying him then, they won't have had the two very beautiful kids they have now.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by agabaI23(m): 8:00pm On Mar 01, 2010|
^ you already have 2 kids?
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by captured(f): 9:12pm On Mar 01, 2010|
hey, it is rare but it happens, I married my man when he was still slapping the curbs of lagos and we are now blessed with a beautiful son and expecting another (the last),
If the guy has potentials, go for it and give him 110% support which includes constructive criticism and lots of ego boost.
And on your part, be more patient than the heavenly saints and pray harder than david
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Sagamite(m): 9:31pm On Mar 01, 2010|
Smeagol, so you know where your faith is heading with your fat head?
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by H2O2: 10:35pm On Mar 01, 2010|
lol @ smeagol
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Sagamite(m): 11:06pm On Mar 01, 2010|
I call her Smeagol because this is how "cute" she looks in her pix sitting on the stairs with her fat head:
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by TOPE2000!(f): 11:08pm On Mar 01, 2010|
say wetin happen?
how can we even get married without money? where are we going to live? what are we going to eat? i dont want a man that is going to be depending on me full-time. He is a MAN for a reason. A man must have a small job that brings in money atleast b4 thinking of settling down.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by kulyie: 11:10pm On Mar 01, 2010|
dat is arrant nonesense.love has eyes n it can see,love has senses n it can think its just dat some fools marry a jobless man.even d bible has said it,woe 2 a man dat cannot cater 4 his family 4 he is worse dan an infidel :-Xeven if he is earning 20 naira n d wife is earning 50 naira,d basic thing is dat he can still provide 4 his family 2 d best of his ability n d wife will be d help mate as in support.i have a cousin who got pregnant 4 a dude dat doesn't have a job,n dey r getin married in a weeks time.d guys mother was kind enough 2 pay d rent of one year,but my question now is dat after d rent has expired am sure she wount pay 4 d next year,d guys mother was saying dat at least b4 d end of dis yr he'll have gotten a job dat will afford him 2 pay 4 rent n other basic things,my cousins mother (my aunt) was telling d dota dat she really hopes dat hope comes alive cos if he doesnt have money 2 pay 4 rent dont think of coming back 2 my house cos i wount accomodate u,even if i'm livin in a mansion cos u chose 2 get pregnant n consequentely marry a guy without a job, while she has one i'm not looking down at d guy,i'm wishing him a brighter 2 moro but how can a man cope without a job n d wife is working n fulfilling his role role will d family depend on one source of income (from d woman) wount his ego n self esteem be affected
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by aaronfocus(m): 11:21pm On Mar 01, 2010|
It is deadly, even as a man, I'd rather not advice any lady to marry a jobless man, they can court but if there is no sign of success, that definitely means the man isn't ready for a home yet!!! Well, may God help us.[flash=200,200][/flash]
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 2:40am On Mar 02, 2010|
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by bawomolo(m): 4:40am On Mar 02, 2010|
osisi is all about the ujujoans
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by airzzee(m): 7:03am On Mar 02, 2010|
Little wonder their marriages (in Nollywood) are crashing like hell. What role models for Nigeria and Africa. Nonsense! If your marriage is built on materiality, what do you do when the man suffers a temporary setback in business? Divorce of cause. silly!
I hate when women of failed relationships begin to advise our younger folks that marriage can never work. I hate it, like hell & death. Instead of u to think inwards & redress whatever it is that caused your misfortune, you begin to advise others to tow your failed path. Nonsense!!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by smooooooth: 8:06am On Mar 02, 2010|
ahan! na fight? take am easy. maybe the guy wan work but no work. or prolly he was one of d victims from sanusi's ''cleaning'' exercise.
cos i really dnt think anyman likes to be jobless.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by H2O2: 8:50am On Mar 02, 2010|
lol even the ujujoans will snatch whatever they can find once that little devil called menopause starts dressing up.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SA Goddess: 12:42pm On Mar 02, 2010|
It's really difficult dating a man without a job because it means the woman has to carry all the bills, I am sure this would be fine for a couple of months or so just not indefinitely, ultimately this would place a huge strain on the relationship, I am talking from experience here, it's not easy at all! I just wouldn't marry a jobless man, he would first have to sort himself out then we can talk marriage!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 12:51pm On Mar 02, 2010|
I agree with u, but will you marry him IF he makes less than you do?
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SA Goddess: 1:07pm On Mar 02, 2010|
I would marry him if he worked and contributed something to the household, he can't make way less than what I am making because a man is a man and would hate to feel emasculated, whether it is real or imagined!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 1:13pm On Mar 02, 2010|
I buy ur points, i asked that question becuase Some ladies here said they wouldn't marry a man who takes home less money that they do
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SA Goddess: 1:23pm On Mar 02, 2010|
With unconditional love comes compromise/understanding and I definitely would marry my Prince if even if he made less money than me, as long we both remember that it's not money that brought us together but love, I should never throw it in his face that I make more money though as this could lead to fights and disrespect in the relationship, money is nice to have for what it can get but it's not everything!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 1:53pm On Mar 02, 2010|
You have my vote for 1st SA female president. I couldn't agree with u more. Gr8! you answered my question.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SA Goddess: 1:58pm On Mar 02, 2010|
I thank you sir, I just think sometimes we forget what's important and just place too much value on material things and we all know earthly possessions don't mean absolute happiness, can have them all and still be as miserable as hell,
NOW my hand is up for a marriage proposal kidding hey!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 2:06pm On Mar 02, 2010|
SA Goddess:Hahahaha. . . that will be e-marriage proposal or do i need to come to SA for that? In that case, i will book my flight to Zim then cross to SA by road.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by hbabe(f): 2:33pm On Mar 02, 2010|
smooooooth:Na war sef!
There are jobless men and there are jobless men! A man who lost his job will not be considered jobless in this discourse he will be said to be out of job. So victims of Sanusi's cleaning exercise and economic melt down are merely out of jobs not jobless. These can be pardoned, dated and rehabilitated for marriage purpose but the jobless and lazy guys should not be considered.
And as I stated earlier na war against the jobless men. I carry cutlass sef!
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by smooooooth: 2:46pm On Mar 02, 2010|
hbabe:chei! jobless man don dey receive militant treatment.
anyway carry the war small small sha.
|Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SA Goddess: 2:47pm On Mar 02, 2010|
A cyber proposal will do just fine thanks
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