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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Icon79(m): 7:03pm On Sep 14, 2017
Well said. There's no need to add anything else ....


O pari

makydebbie:
So I don't know what you're waiting for. After all these years. You better wake up and tell the guy you both aint getting younger. And you guys are more like a couple so that's why he's relaxed. How can you be with a guy for six years and your parents haven't met him?



My dear you cannot eat your cake and have it. It's either he makes up his mind for door knocking or he takes the exit. Tell him what he should do and you're not about to wait another six years before you guys break up and you understand he's not ready.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Swissheart(f): 7:03pm On Sep 14, 2017
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Iscoalarcon: 7:03pm On Sep 14, 2017
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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by jericco1(m): 7:03pm On Sep 14, 2017
If you're still thinking you love each other, then there's a big problem.

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Truepee(m): 7:04pm On Sep 14, 2017
I can't advice you Ayam Just 21
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by abbaapple: 7:05pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided


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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by yanjutomi(m): 7:06pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
make him do d needful but don't be a pest. there ar logical ways
1 make him feel threatened
2 do as if u don't care about d relationship in a very matured way ( I know I understand what I mean )
3 create a room for him to feel his in a competition not as if u have side game but colleague that knw the strength of a woman.........
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Iscoalarcon: 7:06pm On Sep 14, 2017
I'm a small boy o undecided I have nothing to say embarassed

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by olawaleh(m): 7:07pm On Sep 14, 2017
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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by NothingDoMe: 7:08pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
He wanted to marry on credit first and pay later. Maybe he wanted to see what married to you would be like to help him make up his mind.

You lost an opportunity.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by otitokoroleti: 7:08pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
what's his occupation & financial status?
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 7:09pm On Sep 14, 2017
how can a gal spend 6 years with a guy, ur 32 now chai

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by otitokoroleti: 7:09pm On Sep 14, 2017
Truepee:
I can't advice you Ayam Just 21
if a woman open her puna for you now, what will you do?
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by MARKone(m): 7:10pm On Sep 14, 2017
Well if he doesn't want to come and "knock at the door" I pray someone else ready, comes and "breaks the door" for you.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by emmafineboy(m): 7:10pm On Sep 14, 2017
Rush come my house
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Ameeria: 7:11pm On Sep 14, 2017
Well, even though "Oga I'm preggers" is not a legitimate reason to get hitched these days, it could be a nudge in the right direction for your two. The next time you give him a bj, swallow everything wink
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by brightalo17: 7:11pm On Sep 14, 2017
If he no wan meet your parents then go and meet his since marriage na by force for some of you ladies.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by babadee1(m): 7:11pm On Sep 14, 2017
He is not yet ready to get married. It's either you wait till he's good and ready or you move on to someone else who is ready. Things like these cannot be forced ever.

yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by maamisco(f): 7:12pm On Sep 14, 2017
To tell u d truth he's no more interested in you. Is left for u to live him
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by itohanphait(f): 7:13pm On Sep 14, 2017
Guys like this are the ones that get married to a new Lady less than a year after meeting them when you guys finally part ways... If he needs Six years to make up his mind then he is not the one

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by LordKO(m): 7:13pm On Sep 14, 2017
OKANGPRECIOUS:
Desperation mode activated.

Why are you making yourself cheap before him. You are talking of door knocking
I guess after that you will take in and start delivering children for him.

Babe wise up. Don't be too clingy to him incase other suitors want to come in.

Don't tell him again about coming to see your parent. You are pushing him against his wish
He may marry you out of pity n tomorrow he will regret marrying you.

Give am space joor. If he loves you he will go and do the needful

Unassumingness is sexy but pretense isn't. Literally,there's nothing like desperation about her thought process. She's just being factual.

@OP

Be bold to tell your BF that you in particular aren't getting any younger and that you long to marry sooner rather than later, therefore, ask him where your relationship with him is heading to. If he indicates interest to marry you, demand for an exact time frame from him when he intend to make that happen. If the time frame he will give you is OK for you you stay put with him and plan together for the marriage, while in the event that he fails to keep to his promise at the agreed time frame, you walkout of his life honorably.

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by goingape1: 7:13pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
I'm thinking you have a serious psychological problem undecided




you think he love you? keep thinking my dear!

when you were busy fvcking him, do you think he will consider marrying you undecided

you useless women, keep wasting your time in desperate mode. at your youths ya all will be busy fvcking others while driving away ya potential husband to be but when age is not on ya side, you will see them following useless men and forcing them to marry ya undecided

village people is on your case!

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by pcguru1(m): 7:14pm On Sep 14, 2017
deepwater:


Are you guys from same tribe?

Am curious where this is going ?

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by ukandi1(m): 7:15pm On Sep 14, 2017
thesicilian:
He feels too comfortable with you, that's why. Set him up to make it look like other serious guys are coming around and you are seriously considering accepting their offer. In that way he'll either let you go, or take the relationship to the next level. And that is exactly what you need now: a firm decision. Don't be afraid of losing him. Life is too short to waste 6yrs in one spot.

Listen to this fellow and do just that.
I dated my wife for 6yrs too. My eyes became opened when people started coming to marry her. Prior to d time, marriage was still distant to me but I hurriedly did d needful and married her. I couldn't allow such a jewel to go with d believe that there's someone better out there. Another six years down d line and its like we just met even after 3 kids.
Pls listen to d Sicilian

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by enemyofprogress: 7:15pm On Sep 14, 2017
I asked google about your relationship with the guy and google tolded me that you're just wasting your time with the guy,your husband to be lives in ijebu Igbo and his name is mumuni
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 7:17pm On Sep 14, 2017
itohanphait:
Guys like this are the ones that get married to a new Lady less than a year after meeting them when you guys finally part ways... If he needs Six years to make up his mind then he is not the one
Sounds like u have listened to da preacher mssg "voice of the heart"

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by riseabovehate: 7:17pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
A whole 6 years.
And it never crossed your mind, I hope your village people are not involved.
Maybe you're growing younger by the day.
Kontinue until he leaves, your eyes go clear
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by rainbow88: 7:17pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
Two things! You don't want to lose him & You can't do this anymore. It has to be one of them. They are on two opposite sides. You know where it hurts you most. Chose & let it not take long

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Acidosis(m): 7:21pm On Sep 14, 2017
That guy is your number 1 enemy!
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by HARDDON: 7:22pm On Sep 14, 2017
Op, just a lil quick question: all d while u 've with him, how many other guys have you met? Gone out with? Cheated on him with? Asked u to marry them?

Has he ever cheated on you? Or is your rs perfect like that?

If u can answer these candidly, i Wud tell you something important

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