tollahni:


I had to quit my job shortly after we arrived nigeria.. He said it was taking much of my time and was preventing me from raising a family..so now I just work from home

Lalas247:

You see this is what men do .. promise heaven and earth make you do things for love ...
but I think you should first speak to him even if you need to cry do what it takes so you can be sure it's not you .. look you not getting pregnant could be his fault a lot of Africans just blame the wife and most cases it's low sperm count, lifestyle a lot of factors that will hinder this process ..

Don't talk to his mum it's the worst thing to do .. talk to him his response will let you know what steps to take .. also if he isn't having sex when you are ovulating chances are baby will never come ..

Stay strong

Mynd44 lalasticlala advice needed

tollahni:

I was put on family planing he found out a few days later..His mom just hates me for no reason...then I had a very demanding job and was definitely not ready for another child

O.k
Now, don't listen to lalas247 or the other women saying he definitely has a Mistress.
When a man won't eat your food, trust me, the problem runs far deeper than him getting tired of you or having a Mistress.
He obviously wants a child very much, so he blames you for the fertility issues you guys have been having...... He probably feels like you've robbed him of that opportunity because while not the desired outcome, but let's face it, total sterility is still a very possible reality for you.
Sit him down, talk to him. Show him how enthusiastic you are about having more kids..... Make an appointment with a fertility doctor and drag him along with you.

IamLEGEND1:
O.k
Now, don't listen to lalas247 or the other women saying he definitely has a Mistress.
When a man won't eat your food, trust me, the problem runs far deeper than him getting tired of you or having a Mistress.
He obviously wants a child very much, so he blames you for the fertility issues you guys have been having...... He probably feels like you've robbed him of that opportunity because while not the desired outcome, but let's face it, total sterility is still a very possible reality for you.
Sit him down, talk to him. Show him how enthusiastic you are about having more kids..... Make an appointment with a fertility doctor and drag him along with you.

Your husband is obviously not very forthcoming when it comes to how he feels at the moment and quite honestly, is being a little too bitter about everything...

Hell, maybe you can get a gym membership card and whip yourself back into shape, take him along too on weekends if he's started growing a pot belly.
It'll at the very least help you two reestablish whatever bond that was lost.

Oh, and wear sexy shit_around the house. Niggahz love that_shit.

IamLEGEND1:
O.k
Now, don't listen to lalas247 or the other women saying he definitely has a Mistress.
When a man won't eat your food, trust me, the problem runs far deeper than him getting tired of you or having a Mistress.
He obviously wants a child very much, so he blames you for the fertility issues you guys have been having...... He probably feels like you've robbed him of that opportunity because while not the desired outcome, but let's face it, total sterility is still a very possible reality for you.
Sit him down, talk to him. Show him how enthusiastic you are about having more kids..... Make an appointment with a fertility doctor and drag him along with you.

Your husband is obviously not very forthcoming when it comes to how he feels at the moment and quite honestly, is being a little too bitter about everything...

Hell, maybe you can get a gym membership card and whip yourself back into shape, take him along too on weekends if he's started growing a pot belly.
It'll at the very least help you two reestablish whatever bond that was lost.

Oh, and wear sexy shit_around the house. Niggahz love that_shit.

tollahni:



Lol...u got me smiling thank u so much. I'll do whatever I can to work things out. Tho I get scared whenever I think of speaking to him. I'm scared he might hit me again

Lalas247:

Hold up
He has hit you before

Well the plot thickens ....

tollahni:


Yeah he's not a bad person, he's cute and sweet but I think he got really upset and couldn't control himself that day..

tollahni:

Lol...u got me smiling thank u so much. I'll do whatever I can to work things out. Tho I get scared whenever I think of speaking to him. I'm scared he might hit me again

Lalas247:

Hmmmmm
I can't even ....
Speechless right now
Iamlegend and u say no side chic ok o ....

Homeboiy:
some are blind to have seen the cause of your problems .


Your husband no longer makes love to you because u can't get pregnant again.


The pill u took has destroyed ur womb


Next is for him to throw u out..


U went and did family planning without Hus consent.

When u where collecting diicks from ur bfs u never reasoned of karma

IamLEGEND1:
Wait. What?
He has hit you before?
First, don't try to defend his actions because it is never okay to hit your wife.
Any female acquaintance i have, even more so if we've got a thing going on between us knows that physical violence is not something I'd even consider......and I don't even consider myself a nice guy.

I go out of my way to make sure a woman knows that I do not pose a physical threat to her in any way,Under any circumstance. ........unless of cause she tries to smother me in my sleep or something like that, then I'd choke her to death in self defense.
So, it's not okay that your husband has crossed a line so much that you are afraid to speak freely around him. You'll do well to bring that up when next you have your heart to heart.

tollahni:

Thank u so much

tollahni:


I got infected with erm STD

jashar:


Hi hun....

Is that the cause of the fertility issues?

Have you been treated properly and does he know about this?

Sisto, never make excuses for a man that hits a woman, not to talk of his wife. It's always a mistake the 1st time...they never mean to do it...

IamLEGEND1:
The thing shock me too o!
And sure, a side chick is still very much a possibility but it isn't by any means a foregone conclusion.
Obviously they have more than a few problems between them...... That much is clear now. My point is she should focus more on trying to put the pep back in their marriage and see how it goes instead of turning into the stereotypical paranoid wife and risk alienating the husband even further.

Marshmallows:
Op is a troll. Possibly that demented whywhyogun person.

@dyt, baby girl. Kilon supin

tollahni:

I got infected with erm STD

tollahni:




I'm not barren!!
I told him about the family planning stuff cause I've always been on it and when it was time to renew it, he refused to go with me and said we should try for a baby but I wasn't ready so I just went for it without his consent tho I'm sorry about that
We got married really early And his mom didn't like the idea, she's always hated me and the first day I got to see her after 6 years the first thing she asked was "Where are your kids" knowing fully well that I had just one, she keeps talking about having so much grandchildren that I can't bear and how I'm going to render her son useless and how my daughter isn't really important as she's just a girl

tollahni:


I got infected with erm STD

Dyt:


A smart woman killing her husband by giving excuses for him yet putting up the things he's done to her

Smart move

He's loving and sweet
Yet he hit you
Infected you and he doesn't have a side chic

What else did I read?

Sisisioge
Epppp me

raumdeuter:


Who infected you?

tollahni:


I got infected with erm STD

tollahni:


Yeah he's not a bad person, he's cute and sweet but I think he got really upset and couldn't control himself that day..

femi4:
you cheated on him, he's doing same to you now. Its not easy to forgive and forget

Perspectives:
What exactly did he see on your phone? Am sure the family planning issue is not the only thing.

You ladies are making one scared of marriage these days. Frustrating men Upandan, you said it yourself that he has never done it before so you must have really pushed him hard to the wall.

tollahni:


I was actually chatting with a male friend.....it was a little bit flirty nd I know it was wrong