agbonkamen:
I am pelumi I am fine too

wow.. lovely name.. i thought u ar an edo lady,cos i av lovely frnds from there.. all d same,am a graduate of microbiology from ekiti state University. nice metin u

thotianna:
Your husband was obviously cheating that's how he got the STD he infected you with.

Honestly this is the only truth am seeing right here.

He infected her with STD, isn't man enough to get both of them treated.

And untop that, he is trying to crumble her emotionally by not having sex with her and eating her food.

What kind of husband is that sef?

Op is in a weak position in her own home that's why shes overlooking his excesses.

Op, your husband has a mistress outside, whether it sounds pleasing or not but that's the plain truth.

He's done trying for a baby with u and he's optimistic his side chick could get pregnant.

Wow! I don't know how u will be able to turn the table around and make him the loving husband he used to be, cos this scenario as it is now, has become difficult and cunning to arrive at a decisive solution.

And the solution lies with your husband. Until he becomes willing again to fulfil his role as your husband and be cooperative , instead of this cat and mouse game he's playing with u, then Every other thing else is just a waste of time.


One thing is sure, your husband is cunning.





Sorry lemme rephrase the words I said up there. Your husband is not cunning, in fact he's responding to the kind of games uv playing all these while.

I read some of the op former threads and I realised both of them have trust issues and fidelity issues.

So op don't Play victim here abeg.

Retrace your steps and just be transparent to your husband shikena.

No need crying foul here

aro1:
wow.. lovely name.. i thought u ar an edo lady,cos i av lovely frnds from there.. all d same,am a graduate of microbiology from ekiti state University. nice metin u

Lol I am from Edo State o

agbonkamen:
Lol I am from Edo State o

i thought has much.. gud mrn.. hw was ur nyt

aro1:
is dat ur daughter on ur profile?

No

Summary of the Op's story
The OP's situation is the main reason why I never wanted to get married early.
They met at 16, they got married at 21 and had a kid at about that age.
She unilateraly made a decision not to have another so soon, so she went for family planning without the support of the husband.
Dude got really pissed, started giving her attitude and she went ahead flirting with some dude.
Dude stupidly went ahead to break his family(aiding what the wife has done instead of being in charge of his family) by getting another girl pregnant.
Now, their family is broken. She cant believe the hubby went ahead to have another kid outside marriage, a child which she never wanted from the hubby for about 5yrs. Hubby also is fathering two childs from diff mothers(this kind of exams, you do without collecting results).

Lessons:
Never take decisions behind your spouses, not important decisions,
Always resolve all issues you have internally, without inteference from outside sources.
Never do what will hurt your spouse.

aro1:
i thought has much.. gud mrn.. hw was ur nyt

morning

TINALETC3:
I tink u over_relaxed, 4rm no sex to coming home late and now he doesn't eat ur fud , it's really getting out of hand. Wat were u doing 4 hm b4 dat u no longer do? Wat does he find attractive in u b4 dat he no longer see? Ur dressing? Ur stature? Check ursef well, Wateva Dats is missing wen he met u, put it bak. Double ur caring attitude 2wards hm, treat him like a king he is, b4 he coms home, prepare his favorite meal, put water 4 hm 2 take his bath, offer 2 Even bath hm, u no Wat he likes, jst do anything to get hm bak. Men ar like babies, gv dem Wat dey like and watch dem surrender.

Mogbe !!! Offer to bath him? he's paralyzed?

iyisco2001:
Summary of the Op's story
The OP's situation is the main reason why I never wanted to get married early.
They met at 16, they got married at 21 and had a kid at about that age.
She unilateraly made a decision not to have another so soon, so she went for family planning without the support of the husband.
Dude got really pissed, started giving her attitude and she went ahead flirting with some dude.
Dude stupidly went ahead to break his family(aiding what the wife has done instead of being in charge of his family) by getting another girl pregnant.
Now, their family is broken. She cant believe the hubby went ahead to have another kid outside marriage, a child which she never wanted from the hubby for about 5yrs. Hubby also is fathering two childs from diff mothers(this kind of exams, you do without collecting results).

Lessons:
Never take decisions behind your spouses, not important decisions,
Always resolve all issues you have internally, without inteference from outside sources.
Never do what will hurt your spouse.

Serious

my own advice is for you to forgive and forget. please you can make it work. and glory be to God you're pregnant again. if you still love him try and work things out.

agbonkamen:
Lol I am from Edo State o

banana wan fall on you soooo!!! hmmmm

tollahni:


Okay so, i'll be deactivating soon, I'm done with nairaland,i'll be travelling back and would get to do something about the pregnancy soon ... thank u so much

What if its a boy?

arnold123:
banana wan fall on you soooo!!! hmmmm

only Money is only allowed to fall on me not banana

agbonkamen:
Marriage dey fear me die. My dear keep praying God is still on the throne, Jehovah value marriage

As in eh from people experience the thing come dey be like trap for my eye now oo

tollahni:




I'm not barren!!
I told him about the family planning stuff cause I've always been on it and when it was time to renew it, he refused to go with me and said we should try for a baby but I wasn't ready so I just went for it without his consent tho I'm sorry about that
We got married really early And his mom didn't like the idea, she's always hated me and the first day I got to see her after 6 years the first thing she asked was "Where are your kids" knowing fully well that I had just one, she keeps talking about having so much grandchildren that I can't bear and how I'm going to render her son useless and how my daughter isn't really important as she's just a girl

Then its safe to say he's seeing someone else with his mother's backing. Just pray and try to talk to him and adjust.

Cannicus:


What if its a boy?

It doesn't really matter, does it?

tollahni:




It doesn't really matter, does it?

It really shouldn't, but it might score you points with the mum.

iyisco2001:
Summary of the Op's story
The OP's situation is the main reason why I never wanted to get married early.
They met at 16, they got married at 21 and had a kid at about that age.
She unilateraly made a decision not to have another so soon, so she went for family planning without the support of the husband.
Dude got really pissed, started giving her attitude and she went ahead flirting with some dude.
Dude stupidly went ahead to break his family(aiding what the wife has done instead of being in charge of his family) by getting another girl pregnant.
Now, their family is broken. She cant believe the hubby went ahead to have another kid outside marriage, a child which she never wanted from the hubby for about 5yrs. Hubby also is fathering two childs from diff mothers(this kind of exams, you do without collecting results).

Lessons:
Never take decisions behind your spouses, not important decisions,
Always resolve all issues you have internally, without inteference from outside sources.
Never do what will hurt your spouse.

I understand, thank you

Cannicus:


It really shouldn't, but it might score you points with the mum.

U saying I should go to her?

tollahni:


U saying I should go to her?

I'm saying keep the baby.

Cannicus:


I'm saying keep the baby.

Really? I don't plan on going for abortion, I can't do that but I'm done with kay and his family.

tollahni:



Really? I don't plan on going for abortion, I can't do that but I'm done with kay and his family.

Oh OK. That's nice to know.

agbonkamen:
only Money is only allowed to fall on me not banana

you have to take plenty banana in your well hole if you desire money excessively!, #truth be told

Dunasy, I don't think I have a husband anymore,

Cannicus:


What if its a boy?

What's the meaning of this nonsense?

tollahni:
Dunasy, I don't think I have a husband anymore,

Madam, try to sort your marital problems outside nairaland, it is not every family secret you will expose. You don't even know if some people giving you advice here are sane or not. If you have a mum or trust worthy aunt you can try to seek counsel from them. Grow up

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Pidgin2:


What's the meaning of this nonsense?

Na you sabi.

Its not my fault that you are too dense to extrapolate, meaning: fill in the gap(s) or connect the dots.

tollahni:
Dunasy, I don't think I have a husband anymore,

I really wish you well...have you spoken to your mum and dad? you need all the emotional support you can get and also need to be strong for your daughter & unborn child.

You should start taking prenatal drugs already....

Headlesschicken:
You mean one of yuh boyfriends

stop smoking weed

dunasy:


I really wish you well...have you spoken to your mum and dad? you need all the emotional support you can get and also need to be strong for your daughter & unborn child.

You should start taking prenatal drugs already....

Hi, thank u sis, my mom understands but my dad doesn't .. I 'll be fine.. thank u so much

tollahni:
Hi, thank u sis, my mom understands but my dad doesn't .. I 'll be fine.. thank u so much

Be strong.