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Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by sagluva(f): 9:20pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
i've been reading through alot of the threads on here and i notice that alot of guys are complaining about how girls offer nothing in relationships and all they care about is money and never give anything in return and blah, blah blah. My question is what about the girls who give alot in their relationships but dont get much in return? Is it wrong for them to spend alot on their boyfreind? i ask this question because over the course of my relationship with my bf, i have spent alot on him, i bought him a ps3 and video games and ralph lauren perfume for his bday, helped him pay for his car, bought him a mac for our anniversary, a 52 inch flat screen tv and $600 gift card for christmas, alot of my friends tell me that i shouldnt be doing that and the guy will take advantage of u if u do. So my question is, is it wrong for a girl to spend alot of money on a guy she loves? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Pweety4me(f): 9:26pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
Hmm gurl and is he doing d same in return? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by BadMoFo(m): 9:27pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
Now I ain't saying he a gold digga but he ain't messin with no broke b1tc3s On a side note, don't bend over backwards trying to satisfy him materially but if you're loaded, why the hell not? What may seem like a lot to others might just be pennies to you. Pweety4me: hey preety |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by googles: 9:39pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
[size=13pt]if he deserves it if he's worth it if he appreciates it if he reciprocates then you are good [/size] |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by sistajay(f): 9:45pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
If you've got loads of bucks. . . . . heck, go ahead and spoil him rotten, its amazin the tings we do for love. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by sagluva(f): 9:55pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
@Pweety4me He has done stuff for me but not as much because he is a college student and he cant afford to buy me the things i buy for him. I am a college student myself but i can afford it |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by sagluva(f): 9:56pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
i am not just talking about material things. there are alot of females who cannot afford to buy their guys alot of things but they still do alot for em as in cooking, taking care of em etc, |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Freiburger(m): 10:33pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
Nothing, absolutely nothing if u've got the cash, n he appriciates it. The same way it isn't wrong spending on a girl. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by platinumnk(f): 10:39pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
sagluva: Why cant he buy that for himself? Doesnt the guy have pride? What did he get for you? Lemme ask you this, this will make it all clear- If he leaves you or you catch him cheating, would you regret the amount you spent on him? If you can give without wanting it back even if you dont stay together, then fine, if not, you need to do some serious rethinking. Its not wrong to help once in a while, but to spoil him like this na, I just hope you are recieving your cup in full as well. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Pweety4me(f): 10:53pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
Bad_Mo_Fo:I heard yu. . . sagluva:Umm we'll do u think that he deserves it? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Armenian: 11:04pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
Either way, i just think that from the onset, if you find yourself spending a lot on who you've just started going out with, then they are there simply for what they can get. A potential partner will not keep making you buy things for them all the time. (this is the clearest sign that it wont last) Such relationships are not meant to be as when the resources start to dry, the parasite changes their behaviour. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by fifi09(f): 11:57pm On Mar 08, 2010 |
sagluva: |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by mamagee3(f): 1:50am On Mar 09, 2010 |
I'm sorry but shouldn't it be the other way round? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by H2O2: 2:28am On Mar 09, 2010 |
mama-gee:Question 1: Is it intrinsic and compulsory to have it the other way around? Question 2: What harm would it cause to have it the way it currently is? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by H2O2: 2:30am On Mar 09, 2010 |
It's not "wrong" to spend on your lover, so long as you're spending on the right person. It is effortlessly done out of love. However, if you spend it on a digger who's only using you for his ends, you may regret that decision in the end. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by mamagee3(f): 2:31am On Mar 09, 2010 |
H2O2:And what has all these insensible questions got to do with my question which is "Why should a girl spend money on a man"? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by H2O2: 2:33am On Mar 09, 2010 |
In fact I had a boss who lavished her man with spoils, but those two are inseparable. They were married in heaven and have been fortunate enough to find each other here on earth. All that PS3 wey you dey talk, na puff puff to them. Just be careful. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by H2O2: 2:36am On Mar 09, 2010 |
mama-gee:Yes, if you feel your questions are insensible I won't dare to disagree. I believe your question is "shouldn't it be the other way around?" And to paraphrase, my counter-question is "why should it be the other way around?" |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Lamii: 2:39am On Mar 09, 2010 |
paying for car, laptop, flat screen tv, almost $1k gift card, video games, perfumes all for one boy? my goodness what lucky dude he better be washing your dishes or something. lol just kidding but seriously, it's not wrong to spend a lot on a guy. as long as u have the money and are happy spending it i.e he is a perfect trustworthy boyfriend and deserves what your doing for him. you are a very pretty girl from ur profile pic too just to comment!! just be careful though. make sure u know him inside out otherwise u might start having regrets when u break up. same goes with guys who have regrets when they break up with a girl they've spent a lot on. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by mamagee3(f): 2:39am On Mar 09, 2010 |
H2O2:Who is more superior between a man and a woman? Who gets to call the shots when it comes to making decisions? Who proposes first? When you give me the answer to these questions, You'll see why every normal human being would ask the same question I asked. Lamii: |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by ayettymama(f): 2:46am On Mar 09, 2010 |
funny enuff i dont think its wrong soo far as ur not payin his school fees his bills his rent or anything else thats a neccesaty u can buy him the odd polo shirt for xmas or in my case- went brand huntin and saw this perfume but never summin too expensive or too out of the blue otherwise theyll take advantage neva promise guys anything if u really wanna spend wait till theres a ring on ur finger then lavish him!! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Pataki: 2:50am On Mar 09, 2010 |
I have my reservation about a girl spending on me. If she wants to, fine. I have a friend here in the UK, that his girlfriend bought all his electronic gadgets for him. Right down to his i-phone, which got nicked off him, and she replaced it with a BB storm the second day. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by H2O2: 2:51am On Mar 09, 2010 |
mama-gee:I would be more than inclined to agree with you that a man is -superior (you're basically saying you being a woman makes you inferior to me, a man) -should call the shots and make all decisions -should propose first but that would be me feeding the system and perpetuating whatever gigantuan amount of prejudices or stereotypes we africans like to harbor. with that limiting colonial mentality aside though if i argue that daftly in the presence of intellectual mates here at my school while upholding those chauvinistic statements you posted above, I would most likely be destroyed to pieces and shamed. Frankly, a man is not superior to a woman . . . we only deceive ourselves into believing that. Women can be just as sound in decision making as men are. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by ayettymama(f): 2:53am On Mar 09, 2010 |
Pataki: some women are monkeys in this case shes tryna buy his love it wont work!! cos he will dump her for the next chick who is dependant on him!! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Lamii: 2:58am On Mar 09, 2010 |
ayettymama: things are changing fast my dear. today, more women are graduating from college and graduate school etc. so clearly more women are starting to make more money than men. it will be illogical for men not to agree to r/s where the female has more power. H2O2: i totally agree. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Nobody: 3:00am On Mar 09, 2010 |
ayettymama calm down. . . . Just because a woman spends on a man does not mean thatz her means of keeping him or buying his loff. I dont find it wrong, infact I encourage it. If you care about him, then spend on him as he spends on you. Why should men be the only one spending? My only problem is spending on a dude that doesnt deserve it. lol If you're spending on a dude that thinks you're an id//iot because you're helping him, and then tries to dry out your acct, then you better stop on your track and stop the spending. Normality breeds lack of grattitude, which breeds remorse [for me] I've spent on men alot, even my male friends [not because I think I can keep them], but because I want to, I dont mind But like everybody else, I have my limits |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by ayettymama(f): 3:05am On Mar 09, 2010 |
fl the first time i heard this was from an elder as a woman- you dont spend your money on a man simply because u have it and he doesnt buying ur friends presents are different also if u have plenty money at ur disposal- buy them expensive gifts and see nothing wrong with it they will all take advantage of you! thats the honest truth most women spend thier money thinking the man will believe its cos they care thats not true the man believes its cos thier desperate a self respecting man wouldnt want a womans money simply cos of the way it makes the woman look no matter how rich she is!! i mean if u spend alot of money on ur men and it works for u then so be it but i wont advice it for most women and certainly wont encourage it times are changing but not that fast!! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Pataki: 3:06am On Mar 09, 2010 |
ayettymama:She is not buying his love with money. She has the money, and she wants to spend it. What would you say of a woman who is into prostitution, earns her money and yet still spends the same money on another man she proclaims to love somewhere else? Is she buying the man's love with money? I do not deny love cannot be bought with money esp. in our time. But it would be so wrong to conclude that whenever a lady spends lavishly on a guy, she is buying his love with money. Afterall, we guys also spend lavishly on you women! And furthermore this is a girl who enters a night club, and the least amount she has on her is at least 600quid, just simply as a naija student here in the UK. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Lamii: 3:10am On Mar 09, 2010 |
they will all take advantage of you! thats the honest truth. and you think many women don't take advantage of a man's money? u think many women are not desperate? as i said, if she knows the guy inside out and trusts him. there is nothing wrong with it.
depends on what country u live in. if naija, then yes but this girl lives in US or UK. and time are changing very fast!! many women r single because they can't find men who r richer/ well off than them. women r advancing more than men at a rapid rate. esp if ur a black person and don't want to find a non-black bf. then get ready for the guy to be poorer than u unless ur lucky. so in that case, u still expect the guy to be spending on the girl? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by ayettymama(f): 3:11am On Mar 09, 2010 |
Pataki: THEN WHAT IS SHE DOIN THEN chaaaaale ooo she popped to england and started with the wrong crew!! where did she meet ur friend?? south east?? see what my relatives are doin wit thier money!!! if i find her i go beat her well well!! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by Nobody: 3:12am On Mar 09, 2010 |
ayettymama: Trust me, you make a lot of sense. Do you buy things for your female friends? Do you give them gifts? If your best friend asks you for money are you going to give it to her? Why should it be different when it comes to the male species? I mentioned in my earlier posts that NOT ALL women seek to find "everlasting" love by spending on me. If you have the money and you dont mind, why not? But if the dude sees it as a normality and is not shameful of asking you for money, if he makes it a frequent request and expectation, that's where you draw the line. I hate asking things from ppl, it ticks me off. If a guy asks me for sth once, twice, third time, I wont mind. Fourth time, wtf, se ori e ko pe ni? If he EXPECTS me to "HELP" like a disable, then I get remorseful, I begin to feel disgusted and used. There's a line for everything. . . . but the poster is going too far. A car, $600 gift card? Nitori kini? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy? by ayettymama(f): 3:15am On Mar 09, 2010 |
Lamii: there are also many women they are disposable! Lamii: this is the reason women do the things in question cos they think men are running out!! neways each to his her own i just said mine- if it dont work for u empty ur savings account and give it to the next broke man u meet in KFC lets see what he does with u after spending ur money!! |
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