Yeah you read it right. Previously I had envisaged how I'm gonna birth and take care of my daughter, make her a princess so she can proudly stand among equals. I have read about great women of valor who have effected positive changes in the world today, and I would obviously want to have one that would do same and be like the likes of Chimamanda, Dora etc.

But the present disposition of our society has left me with fears. After what I saw in campus and even what I still see everyday, I can only pray for God not to give me female children. I used to think it's all about home training, but I know girls that were brought up in the most upright way, but immediately they leave home and become out of sight, the story changes. These days you would see little girls still in high school being so promiscuous, some of the ones sent to the boarding house escape out and search for how to get laid. I don't want to talk about what I saw in campus, most of us already know the story, how some cohabit with guys, how some move from one city to another to hawk sex and the rest.

With all the above reasons and more, I don't know if it's enough justifications to pray not to have a girl child than to have one that would bring shame and disgrace to me and my family, not like the male ones are saints anyway and can't commit crimes, but that of the female is most disgraceful.

I wish to get your thoughts and opinions on this, am I getting it all wrong?

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mynd44

This is not a reason!

I sorry for you.

why do players always fear to have females?

Bro, you are not alone on this mehn. With what I am seeing, I also fear to birth a female child. But what can we do? It's not like you are gonna throw her away if eventually you do have a daughter.
I would love to have a daughter as my first child though, I'd make sure I train her in the best way i can and let her do the rest; I can't watch over her the rest of her life, I can just trust her to use her head and make the right decisions when it comes to the opposite sex and all.

When you think of all the things that you've done to another person's daughter, the thought of having men do the exact same things to yours fills you with dread. Karma, my dear, is an ugly bitch.

But you shouldn't think this way. When you raise a child with proper morals, in a specific way, that way will not leave that child even when she leaves your home. Chimamanda and all the women you respect still made it in a seemingly morally bereft society. Just work hard on your kids.

My guy dey fear karma

I'll advise you not to have any kids at all.Those girls that `hawk' sex would've gone out of business if no one patronized them.

I love female child,I wish my first child to be a girl

Unbelievable!!

Misogynists everywhere, look at the useless reasons this one gave,

As if it's only female children that can change, as if males can't change when they leave home, as if male children can't be bad,

All the issues you raised could apply to both male and female, but in your stupidity you decided to pick on the females.
Nonsense,

Better don't marry a woman, and a woman shouldn't give birth to your child, after all she is someone's female child. Go and look for a man to carry your kids.


The kind of misogynists on this nairaland.

Men are always saints.

RaggedyAnn:

When you think of all the things that you've done to another person's daughter, the thought of having men do the exact same things to yours fills you with dread. Karma, my dear, is an ugly bitch.

But you shouldn't think this way. When you raise a child with proper morals, in a specific way, that way will not leave that child even when she leaves your home. Chimamanda and all the women you respect still made it in a seemingly morally bereft society. Just work hard on your kids.

You gave him a good advice.

Exactly @ the bolded, Don't mind him, the problem is that these people only see the female child as the one that is spoilt, as if she is doing all these rubbish with herself. He doesn't know that if he feels females are bad for doing this then the men are equally bad for doing it with them, But he will never say he won't want to have a male child.

He needs to first work hard on himself, he can't give what he doesn't have

RaggedyAnn:
When you think of all the things that you've done to another person's daughter, the thought of having men do the exact same things to yours fills you with dread. Karma, my dear, is an ugly bitch.

But you shouldn't think this way. When you raise a child with proper morals, in a specific way, that way will not leave that child even when she leaves your home. Chimamanda and all the women you respect still made it in a seemingly morally bereft society. Just work hard on your kids.

In my life time, i have been involved and have trained over eight females, one married as a virgin...People don't do effective grooming..They keep making noise upandan olosho... It's the society, training up a child is more than beating, the values, principles, nuggets they receive all play crucial role as they grow through their formative years...Ignore a phase in the kid's development, create room for vaccum and chaos...This is why we have intrained and terrible adults, absentee parenting, and bad morals...Don't mind them jare..There are at least 50 Million females in Nigeria alone, and i don't see all of themof even an integral quota delve into prostituition..

Daeylar:
Misogynists everywhere, look at the useless reasons this one gave,

As if it's only female children that can change, as if males can't change when they leave home, as if male children can't be bad,

All the issues you raised could apply to both male and female, but in your stupidity you decided to pick on the females.
Nonsense,

Better don't marry a woman, and a woman shouldn't give birth to your child, after all she is someone's female child. Go and look for a man to carry your kids.


The kind of misogynists on this nairaland.

Men are always saints.



You gave him a good advice.

Exactly @ the bolded, Don't mind him, the problem is that these people only see the female child as the one that is spoilt, as if she is doing all these rubbish with herself. He doesn't know that if he feels females are bad for doing this then the men are equally bad for doing it with them, But he will never say he won't want to have a male child.

He needs to first work hard on himself, he can't give what he doesn't have

, my favorite romancelander! Don't mind these people; if they don't bash women, they won't rest. You're right; he needs to start with himself.

supersystemsnig:



In my life time, i have been involved and have trained over eight females, one married as a virgin...People don't do effective grooming..They keep making noise upandan olosho... It's the society, training up a child is more than beating, the values, principles, nuggets they receive all play crucial role as they grow through their formative years...Ignore a phase in the kid's development, create room for vaccum and chaos...This is why we have intrained and terrible adults, absentee parenting, and bad morals...Don't mind them jare..There are at least 50 Million females in Nigeria alone, and i don't see all of themof even an integral quota delve into prostituition..

Thank you for this.

everyday I see one misogynistic thread or another on nairaland. OP when your wife gets pregnant and ultrasound reveals it is a female abort it. Then groom your sons to be gay cos they cant come and damage another person's daughter. there you go problem solved.

RaggedyAnn:




Thank you for this.

Took a young girl we found on facebook eight years ago, her mum didn't want her, and her dad had nothing to live on..( Not rich, but felt what she would eat won't kill us ) with sound morals and grooming, the number of people hunting to take her is at least 8 including the pastor of her church...I really don't know why people just want to take and not invest...With just seven years of sound training, she's the envy of the church...

Its true that most of girls are promiscuous especially in tertiary institution, most of them are into runs, my school is their headquarters, but that shouldn't make you dislike having a female child, there are still good girls out there, though rare.

RaggedyAnn:



, my favorite romancelander! Don't mind these people; if they don't bash women, they won't rest. You're right; he needs to start with himself.

Awwwwwww
My heart Thanks dear

It's their daily drug, one misogynistic article a day keeps their ability to reason away.

Getting more stupid by the day,

Anyways, I'm always here with the antidote to make them well I'm nice like that

supersystemsnig:



Took a young girl we found on facebook eight years ago, her mum didn't want her, and her dad had nothing to live on..( Not rich, but felt what she would eat won't kill us ) with sound morals and grooming, the number of people hunting to take her is at least 8 including the pastor of her church...I really don't know why people just want to take and not invest...With just seven years of sound training, she's the envy of the church...

You're an angel. Keep doing what you're doing, dear; the world needs good hearts that aren't shy to get their hands dirty. The reward for your benevolence will find you in time.

Tahra:
I'll advise you not to have any kids at all.Those girls that `hawk' sex would've gone out of business if no one patronized them.

I get your point and I already explained it in my post, the beam light is always on the female, hence aggravating my fear.

The world will truly be a better place with more men and very few women. We hope someday, women will go extinct so men can be happy and free to live their lives without women bringing shame and disgrace to them...

...such bliss..

RaggedyAnn:


You're an angel. Keep doing what you're doing, dear; the world needs good hearts that aren't shy to get their hands dirty. The reward for your benevolence will find you in time.

When we were kids, and in ancient society an idea was the norm...It was train up your child well, cause you could be training my future in-law..The principle holds...Teach a child, and you could be removing a kid that could have been exposed to violence and all sort of evils that would destroy one in the process, so when we do these things, we are the beneficiaries, not the other party...

It's simple Ann, we want good husbands, try train sons with good morals, we want a society with fantastic wives, train females in the right manner, if we live long enough, we could see the reward of our labour, if not, it's of no waste...But it's time we all look back to how things used to be done, and bring back good parenting

RaggedyAnn:
When you think of all the things that you've done to another person's daughter, the thought of having men do the exact same things to yours fills you with dread. Karma, my dear, is an ugly bitch.

But you shouldn't think this way. When you raise a child with proper morals, in a specific way, that way will not leave that child even when she leaves your home. Chimamanda and all the women you respect still made it in a seemingly morally bereft society. Just work hard on your kids.

your first paragraph though.

Well you made very salient points, but as I stated in my post, I know those who were trained with the highest morals, but you should know what peer pressure can cause, you know the cliche about Pastors daughters being the most corrupt. .

Go knee down and pray to God about it why you telling us on nairaland?

Proudgorgeousga:
everyday I see one misogynistic thread or another on nairaland. OP when your wife gets pregnant and ultrasound reveals it is a female abort it. Then groom your sons to be gay cos they cant come and damage another person's daughter. there you go problem solved.

Lol, he's not allowed to have a child through someone's female child, he should go and look for his fellow men,
But nice suggestion there that he should raise his male kids to be gay

I love how your last 2 DPs has been celebrating the female body.

Creamish:
The world will truly be a better place with more men and very few women. We hope someday, women will go extinct so men can be happy and free to live their lives without women bringing shame and disgrace to them...

...such bliss..

Crazy sarcasm..This got me laughing...God Forbid, i'm going to have daughters o..what are you wishing them...

Female bashing is a ritual to get ladies to respond to guys that would have never been able to get their attention... Ladies understand this. When you see guys bashing, it's a cry for intimate relationships and not what the word projects on the surface level... ;DIt's humility to walk off that path and do things the right way... ;DSo stop taking the bashing serious, it's reverse psychology, and is a desperate cry for attention......

supersystemsnig:
Female bashing is a ritual to get ladies to respond to guys that would have never been able to get their attention... Ladies understand this. When you see guys bashing, it's a cry for intimate relationships and not what the word projects on the surface level... ;DIt's humility to walk off that path and do things the right way... ;DSo stop taking the bashing serious, it's reverse psychology, and is a desperate cry for attention......

Damn fact and we know this.

But how does this relate to the topic thou?

Rokia2:


Damn fact and we know this.

But how does this relate to the topic thou?

The psyche of the oP...I don't look at projections, i look at the mental posture... The mental posture of the oP is an extreme problem, it's a self problem first before it's an external problem

Marcelo290:
but I know girls that were brought up in the most upright way, but immediately they leave home and become out of sight, the story changes. These days you would see little girls still in high school being so promiscuous, some of the ones sent to the boarding house escape out and search for how to get laid. I don't want to talk about what I saw in campus, most of us already know the story, how some cohabit with guys, how some move from one city to another to hawk sex and the rest.

With all the above reasons and more, I don't know if it's enough justifications to pray not to have a girl child than to have one that would bring shame and disgrace to me and my family, not like the male ones are saints anyway and can't commit crimes, but that of the female is most disgraceful.

I wish to get your thoughts and opinions on this, am I getting it all wrong?

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mynd44

You mean all the girls you met are lesbians

You don't meant it?

Or are you just foolish enough to not realise they are doing such with guys?


That will mean no kids at all. Or wait how do you want to even have kids when it's those same women that give birth to them?

Daeylar:
Misogynists everywhere, look at the useless reasons this one gave,

As if it's only female children that can change, as if males can't change when they leave home, as if male children can't be bad,

All the issues you raised could apply to both male and female, but in your stupidity you decided to pick on the females.
Nonsense,

Better don't marry a woman, and a woman shouldn't give birth to your child, after all she is someone's female child. Go and look for a man to carry your kids.


The kind of misogynists on this nairaland.

Men are always saints.



You gave him a good advice.

Exactly @ the bolded, Don't mind him, the problem is that these people only see the female child as the one that is spoilt, as if she is doing all these rubbish with herself. He doesn't know that if he feels females are bad for doing this then the men are equally bad for doing it with them, But he will never say he won't want to have a male child.

He needs to first work hard on himself, he can't give what he doesn't have

Lol girl calm down. So stating my thoughts and asking for your opinions have now made me a misogynist? I don't know if you aren't seeing what the society is turning into, what prompted this post was when I saw a teenage girl run away from home to go stay with the so called BF. Adding this to my experience in campus was what necessitated my post. Girls no longer have self control, some would visit you and refuse to go..