what are the steps to tarbiyya of children?

Tarbiyyah simply means ways of proper child upbringing.

This question was asked by one of our followers some months ago and we want to benefit the people With the steps as we replied the questioner.

Assalam alaykum, the following points can be taken care of for correct upbringing of children.

Firstly:
A person chooses a partner who will aid in building a strong pious family with righteous offspring! So choose a righteous wife and the woman chooses a righteous husband. A pious man for a pious woman, a wicked man for a wicked woman. So choosing the right spouse is the first step towards the good cultivation of children.

Secondly:
That a person is sincere to Allah in the cultivation of his children and he hopes for the reward of Allah for exerting his effort and his wealth – so he seeks only Allah’s reward and favour.

Thirdly:
Encouraging one’s children upon worship with gentleness; to encourage them with good character and manners from an early age – so they begin to love these affairs from a young age.

Fourthly:
To keep them guarded and protected from the muharramaat (forbidden) and munkaraat (reprehensible) affairs, and to warn them from that, so they know right from wrong and good from evil. To cultivate in their hearts hatred for those things that are harmful to their religion and morality – and teach to dislike that which will cause them regret in this life and the next.

Fifthly:
Having a good example and role model. This is from the necessities of good tarbiyah. It is something well-known that a child is amazed by his father and loves to imitate him and follow him. And likewise a daughter loves to follow her mother and emulate her – so we must be excellent role models. It is therefore obligatory upon fathers and mothers and others who cultivate not to contradict that which they say with their actions.

Sixthly:
Keeping them far away from gatherings of evil and sin and directing and guiding them to good companionship – rather direct them to the best companionship amongst ahlus-Sunnah; the companionship of the righteous.

Seventhly:
Enrolling your sons and daughters in the Salafi schools and in after-school Madrassahs for the learning and memorization of the Noble Qur’an that are established within Salafi Mosques. These institutions must be safe, and not known for beating children and thus turning them away from the Religion. Young children must be nurtured and not beaten.

Eighthly:
Protecting the children from satellite channels, TV, and the internet where they may be exposed to immoral and haraam speech, images and music such as movies and soaps which are based upon glorification of fornication, infidelity, disobedience, disrespect and sin – likewise those cartoons which contain sin and disobedience and even idolatry and disbelief. These are affairs that the Muslims have become lax and easy-going with – many are heedless and foolish with regard to their responsibilities in this affair. If your children need to access the internet, then make sure you have strong parental controls on all of the computers they access. One the best and simplest and free parental controls is.

Ninthly:
To teach them the affairs of Islaam and Imaan and to implant and nurture veneration, love and awe of Allaah in their hearts – and establish them firmly upon Tawheed. And to love the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wassallam) by explaining his virtues and the excellence of following him. Inculcate this into their hearts by reading his Seerah )biography(, his bravery and courage, his kindness and generosity. To teach them good manners and etiquette and how to behave in private and public; To distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate behaviour; To know about the dress code of the believers ]men and women[; the manners of the masjid and how to behave in it. The manners of eating and drinking; personal hygiene and tahaarah (purification); to wait for mother and father to begin and serving them first; not over-eating and reaching over others.
Also how to behave around elders, friends, relatives and scholars. Not interjecting when elders are speaking, or pushing in through the door before the mother and father, or pointing their feet towards them or towards the teacher or scholar; Teaching them to constantly say please and thank you, and to be upon the remembrance of Allaah (dhikr); To pray on time; To sit after the prayer and make dhikr; Teach them short hadeeth and du’aas to memorise. Teach them to speak with clear speech that is free from street slang and obscenities. To be strong in body and character and resolute upon the Haqq – not swayed from it. Having self-respect and being proud of manifesting Islaam instead of trying to hide it!

Tenthly:
Sending them to bed early and waking them up early and to busy ..
Read the remaining at
http://islamtotalwayoflife..com/2017/10/proper-child-upbringing-in-islam.html?spref=fb

SOURCE;
http://islamtotalwayoflife..com

Thanks i will read it later.

jazakhallah khaeran op

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Jazakha llahu khoiron

Just advise them against joining ISIS and BH then drug abuse.


Don't forget to tell him western education is not a sin and also almajiri is bad not forgetting he should respect Ladies and see them as equals

Good

QueenOfNepal:
Just advise them against joining ISIS and BH then drug abuse.


Don't forget to tell him western education is not a sin and also almajiri is bad not forgetting he should respect Ladies and see them as equals

Noted

QueenOfNepal:
Just advise them against joining ISIS and BH then drug abuse.


Don't forget to tell him western education is not a sin and also almajiri is bad not forgetting he should respect Ladies and see them as equals

Equals to?

MasViews:


Equals to?

Men.

QueenOfNepal:
Just advise them against joining ISIS and BH then drug abuse.


Don't forget to tell him western education is not a sin and also almajiri is bad not forgetting he should respect Ladies and see them as equals

I wonder how u guys think islam says western education is a sin even when you know our clerics are with degrees, masters Ph.ds and professors in every fields. Almajiri is bad, as for women, we regard them as queens therefore we cannot be mingling with them as you do. Meaning we are not equal to some extent. Thank u even when i know it is the hate for islam that made you to put hand in something meant not for you.

shukran jazakumulahu khayran

QueenOfNepal:
Just advise them against joining ISIS and BH then drug abuse.


Don't forget to tell him western education is not a sin and also almajiri is bad not forgetting he should respect Ladies and see them as equals

Y do you always jump on Islamic issues. Islamically women aren't equal to men. That doesn't mean they don't have rights. I do hope you are an atheist. Otherwise your religion ain't any better.

aminu790:
I wonder how u guys think islam says western education is a sin even when you know our clerics are with degrees, masters Ph.ds and professors in every fields. Almajiri is bad, as for women, we regard them as queens therefore we cannot be mingling with them as you do. Meaning we are not equal to some extent. Thank u even when i know it is the hate for islam that made you to put hand in something meant not for you.

But
you chat with women online and troll women just like your muslim brother python1 has been doing since morning



Mingle with women plz and stop this holier than thou attitude.




If islam loves education then why are the Northerners averse to it and why was Malala shot by the Talibans.

BenzEne1:


Y do you always jump on Islamic issues. Islamically women aren't equal to men. That doesn't mean they don't have rights. I do hope you are an atheist. Otherwise your religion ain't any better.

Women are all equal. Stop this nonsense. Don't you have a female boss or you are just being religious

QueenOfNepal:
Women are all equal. Stop this nonsense. Don't you have a female boss or you are just being religious

Of course that is not forbidden. It is limited mainly to religious and family issues, where the man is expected to be the head. There is no Islamic backing for barbaric ideas like; women shouldn't drive or get a decent education like a man. But within her family and her marriage she doesn't share equality with a man. Benazir Bhutto was prime minister of Pakistan, Khaleda Zia for Bangladesh, Mame Madior Boyer for Senegal and the list goes on. These are female prime ministers of countries, they went that far as Muslims. Its just the unenlightened folks, (in our case mostly northerners ) who feel the female child holds absolutely no rights. Deserves no education and should be auctioned out to the highest bidding Alhaji. This is not Islam's standpoint.

QueenOfNepal:
Women are all equal. Stop this nonsense. Don't you have a female boss or you are just being religious

Lol! of course you are all equal, especially when it comes to stuffs like MMM crashing with your money.

BenzEne1:


Of course that is not forbidden. It is limited mainly to religious and family issues, where the man is expected to be the head. There is no Islamic backing for barbaric ideas like; women shouldn't drive or get a decent education like a man. But within her family and her marriage she doesn't share equality with a man. Benazir Bhutto was prime minister of Pakistan, Khaleda Zia for Bangladesh, Mame Madior Boyer for Senegal and the list goes on. These are female prime ministers of countries, they went that far as Muslims. Its just the unenlightened folks, (in our case mostly northerners ) who feel the female child holds absolutely no rights. Deserves no education and should be auctioned out to the highest bidding Alhaji. This is not Islam's standpoint.

Now this is good. Standing Applause. Kudos

EazyMoh:

Lol! of course you are all equal, especially when it comes to stuffs like MMM crashing with your money.

It's better than worshipping an alhaji to be blessed for money or doing almajiri or marrying an old fool.



Women are equal to men

QueenOfNepal:
It's better than worshipping an alhaji to be blessed for money or doing almajiri or marrying an old fool.



Women are equal to men

I totally agree with you. Only problem is that MMM is always guaranteed to CRASH unlike any other thing.

EazyMoh:

I totally agree with you. Only problem is that MMM is always guaranteed to CRASH unlike any other thing.

Yes. I can't recalled i lost Money there again it's called moving on

QueenOfNepal:
But
you chat with women online and troll women just like your muslim brother python1 has been doing since morning



Mingle with women plz and stop this holier than thou attitude.




If islam loves education then why are the Northerners averse to it and why was Malala shot by the Talibans.

is northerners "Islam" that they ask u to learn about even Arabians is not "islam" so stop judging the religion by some people's attitude.

if u wanna learn about Biology u don't learn from ur teacher's lifestyle, rather u learn the course with an open mind.

I don't know what there problem is, anything there is an issue pertaining to muslims they will always poke nose.
Muslims will never talk about your tithe business and others.
Using paracetamol for another person's headache.

If you want to know what Islaam is in the real sense, ask with open mind not sentiment.

I don't know what there problem is, anything there is an issue pertaining to muslims they will always poke nose.
Muslims will never talk about your tithe business and others.
Using paracetamol for another person's headache.

If you want to know what Islaam is in the real sense, ask with open mind not sentiment.