How To Save Your Marriage From Collapse
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Part 3. Should I Tell Close Friends My Marital Problems?

It appeared that the turmoil in your marriage has gone worse. Your wife always says no to sex. At work, you feel so miserable when you think about your family that you hardly concentrate. Your husband no longer care about your emotions, perhaps because he is having an affair. You get so confused on what else to do. You have tried all you could but it's not just working.

At this point, you turn to close friends or family members for comfort. You tell them how badly he treats you, ignoring your emotional needs. There are lots of stories to tell, how insensitive he has become over the years, how he unfairly refused to provide for the family materially and his unwillingness to change.

At any rate, you need empathy and willing to talk about your situation to those with a listening ear. More assuring is the response you get from them. They tell you, "Is he crazy? I can't believe he does that to you," "You are just too much of a wife for him to treat you this way." With such words, you feel vindicated and right and he is wrong.

A month passed by and you are increasingly unhappy. You updated your friends and family of the ever-increasing saga, and moved with pity, they suggest you get out of your marriage. "Enough is enough," they tell you.

Is it wrong to rely on the people that love me for comfort in this way? Their support and suggestions may seem very helpful and you may find a measure of relieve after a conversation with them, but in the long run, things may backfire. Here is the reason.

Because your friends and family are loyal to you, they believe your side of the story and without hearing the other side they make suggestions for you. They start seeing your spouse as the problem without reasoning any possible way you have contributed to the problem in your family over time. Without being aware whether your actions may have contributed to the reason your spouse behave in undesirable ways, they conclude that he is the one in the wrong.

If your spouse becomes more loving and involved in the relationship, you might change your mind about him and consider not to walk out of the marriage because you are impressed. Here is where the problem lies. They are not impressed. To them, you are just being brainwashed. You tell them all the changes your spouse has made but they are not moved, objecting to your spouse presence in your life. Sometimes, they withdraw their support from you if you decide to stay, concluding that you are indecisive.....

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Marraige takes God. Thats why you have to Marry God's own will for you.

You are right but right now, e are talking about maintaining confidentiality in a relationship