It could be that his source of wealth is not clean. Think it more spiritual

Reasonabledoubt:
Hmmmn...Where do I start from to answer all these quotes? But then again, the message will be missed by keyboard warriors.

Dear all,

Please don’t plan for your retirement o, don’t prepare for when you are unable to work.

Go and born plenty children, suffer and train them, obviously because you can not afford them in the first place.

Then leave the responsibility for your first/richest child to shoulder.

Then when they don’t meet up, emotionally blackmail them and remind them of how many times you sat in the sun an rain, just so you can feed them

Don’t hustle for yourself o, keep your eyes in your richer siblings wealth, and be wondering what he/she does with her money.

Carry nuclear and extended family wahala till you’re old, struggle to train these kids, that you made a selfish decision to have, then pass on the circle of poverty to the next generation.

Nigerians, and their inability to have a rational conversation, without bringing religion, emotions, and insult into the mix.
Like I said, when you decide to procreate, it is your absolute responsibility to cater for that child.

It is not a privilege, it is your WORK. Those parents that don’t do this, are irresponsible people. Let this recycling of poverty stop with our generation.

@Poster face your life, and stop coveting what is not your own, if you were busy, you won’t have the time to notice how many expensive places he goes to. Face your life. You are not his banker.

you are stupid nd u have no one to tell u,ur mother should av swallow the semen dat produce a wicked soul like u

Maybe the money is not clean.maybe the babalawo dat did it for him told him the day he uses his money to help a loved one he won't live long.and also he has the spirit of boasting in him hence he has to flaunt his wealth at you guys to oil up his ego.na wetin me see for d matter be this.

Reasonabledoubt:
Hmmmn...Where do I start from to answer all these quotes? But then again, the message will be missed by keyboard warriors.

Dear all,

Please don’t plan for your retirement o, don’t prepare for when you are unable to work.

Go and born plenty children, suffer and train them, obviously because you can not afford them in the first place.

Then leave the responsibility for your first/richest child to shoulder.

Then when they don’t meet up, emotionally blackmail them and remind them of how many times you sat in the sun an rain, just so you can feed them

Don’t hustle for yourself o, keep your eyes in your richer siblings wealth, and be wondering what he/she does with her money.

Carry nuclear and extended family wahala till you’re old, struggle to train these kids, that you made a selfish decision to have, then pass on the circle of poverty to the next generation.

Nigerians, and their inability to have a rational conversation, without bringing religion, emotions, and insult into the mix.
Like I said, when you decide to procreate, it is your absolute responsibility to cater for that child.

It is not a privilege, it is your WORK. Those parents that don’t do this, are irresponsible people. Let this recycling of poverty stop with our generation.

@Poster face your life, and stop coveting what is not your own, if you were busy, you won’t have the time to notice how many expensive places he goes to. Face your life. You are not his banker.

I agree with you 100%

You are too logical, that is why a lot of posters disagreed with you. In these climes, the emotional blackmail especially from family and friends why they think you are rich is sometimes ridiculous.

Nigerians sure do have entitlement mentality.

We plan our lives way out of what our resources can cater for and expect someone else to carry the burden just because we feel or assumed they have a financial breakthrough.

It is important to help those in need but what Nigerians subtly ask for when they claim support friend and relative is basically putting the burden of a life style e.g school fees, weddings, burials, even properties, on another persons resources sometimes 100%

amprat:

we are just 6, including him and mum, besides he is one of thos3 people who flaunt money in your face and tells the ones still in university to go and hustle, that he has reached a stage where he can use 50k for just refreshments, the last time he travelled to Dubai he made sure everyone knew including his mother and told her he should have taken her there but he just didn't.

this your brother is funny oh. But has anyone of you brought his attention to this and is he married? probably his present family needs has prevented him from doing the needful, though he is not justified.

There are reasons.

- the person wasn't raised and supported by his real family. In this case, he or she was raised by another family that adopted them as their own.

- the person is just not happy with his family. The family must have done something really bad to him or her.

- the person didn't deem helping family as a responsibility. In Nigerian society, it is a cultural responsibility to help the less privileged in your family. Most Nigerians who were born and bred in the West lack that mentality. In most cases you can't blame them, because in the West, kids are trained to be fully independent and not be a liability to anyone.

I have rich uncles , I ask them for help and they refuse to help so I took the bull by the horn now if they are talking I follow suit. Cause nobody will insult me that his feeding me or giving me food.....

Reasonabledoubt:
Hmmmn...Where do I start from to answer all these quotes? But then again, the message will be missed by keyboard warriors.

Dear all,

Please don’t plan for your retirement o, don’t prepare for when you are unable to work.

Go and born plenty children, suffer and train them, obviously because you can not afford them in the first place.

Then leave the responsibility for your first/richest child to shoulder.

Then when they don’t meet up, emotionally blackmail them and remind them of how many times you sat in the sun an rain, just so you can feed them

Don’t hustle for yourself o, keep your eyes in your richer siblings wealth, and be wondering what he/she does with her money.

Carry nuclear and extended family wahala till you’re old, struggle to train these kids, that you made a selfish decision to have, then pass on the circle of poverty to the next generation.

Nigerians, and their inability to have a rational conversation, without bringing religion, emotions, and insult into the mix.
Like I said, when you decide to procreate, it is your absolute responsibility to cater for that child.

It is not a privilege, it is your WORK. Those parents that don’t do this, are irresponsible people. Let this recycling of poverty stop with our generation.

@Poster face your life, and stop coveting what is not your own, if you were busy, you won’t have the time to notice how many expensive places he goes to. Face your life. You are not his banker.

you seem to want to have a point but it's just not still making sense. I do believe parents should work towards having enough in their old age so as not to overburden their children. But come to think of it, how many parents had retirement plans? Even if they had the opportunity, most of them couldn't go ahead with such plans because they had to take care of their kids. And you think such gesture doesn't deserve some credit even if it was their responsibility to train their kids? Your argument may receive some sympathy in other more civilised climes but not in Nigeria.
Plus go online and see hundreds of videos of guys from the so called developed nations buying their single mom's or dad's cars or houses, something tells me they are being appreciative of some kind gesture or effort.

https://www.google.com.ng/amp/m.eonline.com/amp/news/477848/macklemore-gives-future-mother-in-law-a-surprise-home-makeover-watch-now

There are many factors that can cause that, it maybe the friends he keeps are advising him wrongly, his wife and in-laws if married, then it maybe the money is not ordinary because no right thinking human being will want his fellow neighbours to suffer, talk more of his immediate family members.

Funny, just because @Reasonabledoubt expressed a different opinion, the best most here can do is to rain insults. And you want us to believe you are the type that take care of your extended families? Oh yeah. We don hear.

People running into judgment without getting the full story. People sha.

PS; Obviously, no one disputes the fact that you must respect your parents. That I believe is not even up for debate.

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

That is d instructions given to them not to help they family members from d source of the money or He/she maybe protecting u by not given u money because u may be d victim.

amprat:

nollywood story /script, not at all, I wish I could just drop his details here or call witnesses, all this so called saint and brethren in the church, head of excellent men and choir coordinators, respected in the church and stuff, we don't understand the guy that's the reason am asking questions here, Especially if there are ppl that also do this on this platform maybe they can tell us their reasons like @reasonable doubt who believes he owes nobody anything. I just wonder if he understands that his mum could have decided to drop him off in an orphanage, at a refuse dump or even flash him down the toilet, but everyone to his own, it is his own opinion.

Or beta not bring him to this world at all, anyone that does what you suggested here deserves to be put to death.

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

it is well ,so shit like this happens every where. My sister or brother like someone had rightly said again ,he's training you guys to be self dependant. I am an evidence of what u are saying . Do u know who has the blame ? ur parents. It all started with them . Right from the young man's early age jn life
They will start by telling u guys to call him brother and see the rest of you like they brought you all from an orphanage home . I'm talking from experience. So I will advice u guys to put more effort in ur hustle and forget about the bagger. It has helped me as well in life ,I don't beg people for my survival ,I work to make my money,I work to see me through school and now none of them can tell me was I not the one who send u to School or clothed and got u d job u are doing .

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

u sound like u are the one being talked about here, u re a definition of an ingrate, and I'm very sure u are a Nigeria and u want to form European wey u neva meet before for ur life, how sure are u that Europeans don't help their parents and sibblings, or u don't read about all these footballers buying cars and houses for their parents and siblings, u re the son of ur father for a reason, u have to take responsibility of those under u, as they have no father (like he said) and I am not so sure u read the thread before commenting, if u have never being shown love in ur life, say it and we will help u. Being a saddist just doesn't pay.... Learn to be grateful....

Emzyme:
Op d money is his own ooo
Who knw mayb when.he was younger sef he didn't have dat Close relationship with ur family bvos of u pple.attitude
Go nd hustle ooo

He hustled to get his money do ur own too ahan

Hope say u no.b dat kimd family weh go.deh follow person wife nd children drag her husband property if person.die

Am laughing in Swahili, no we won't be dragging the properties, am not praying to be that wretched or heartless,thanks.

mechanics:
There are many factors that can cause that, it maybe the friends he keeps are advising him wrongly, his wife and in-laws if married, then it maybe the money is not ordinary because no right thinking human being will want his fellow neighbours to suffer, talk more of his immediate family members.

guy u just gave u like for this statement ,my brother too was sorrounded by friends who foolishly advised him against his siblings as well.

Ballmer:

Or beta not bring him to this world at all, anyone that does what you suggested here deserves to be put to death.

I am not suggesting or supporting any of the aforementioned, am only pointing to realities That happen around us everyday

amprat:
people should please read the post and try to get the gist of what am saying :I haven't in anyway said he owes his siblings, maybe his mother if he so wishes, may I also inform all that I am married with kids, so is another of my siblings, another is working and earns more than 100k a month, only the last child is in university 400level,therefore my bone of contention is not we wallowing in poverty and needing his help for every and any lil thing, am just trying to understand his mindset, why promise things you won't fulfill, y call to check up on people when they mean nothing to you stay on your own Biko, why tell them you just moved into a duplex when you won't open the gate when they get there, why open your mouth to tell your own mother you Just took your wife to Dubai that she should have been the one but you changed your mind, why tag your siblings pix of you in different countries or celebrating birthday in an expensive restaurant with friends when you didn't invite your own nuclear family, the list is endless, knowing we were raised together with the same values and he turns out this way is what is confusing not how he chooses to spend his money.

my brother he is not normal, or maybe that is the price he paid for seeking for quick money, see that is antics as an advantage and a way God is trying to help keep ur lives safe, but be wary of the day he brings out sometin to give to u people, if it is possible, don't touch it, just hand them over to the people in need.. (homeless, beggars)

Greyman11:

u sound like u are the one being talked about here, u re a definition of an ingrate, and I'm very sure u are a Nigeria and u want to form European wey u neva meet before for ur life, how sure are u that Europeans don't help their parents and sibblings, or u don't read about all these footballers buying cars and houses for their parents and siblings, u re the son of ur father for a reason, u have to take responsibility of those under u, as they have no father (like he said) and I am not so sure u read the thread before commenting, if u have never being shown love in ur life, say it and we will help u. Being a saddist just doesn't pay.... Learn to be grateful....

Ode! I’m not from a family of leeches.

Tosinex:
Maybe he's into money rituals and he's warned not to help any of his family with the money...hahahahaha, maybe o. And If he helps or assist outsiders leaving you guys out of the show, then set up a friend to be collecting from him for you guys lolzzz, just some weird thought for the night hahaha, I'm off to bed oo before some messengers of pilate come to crucify me

lol, very good idea jare, just that I don't have the energy or liver , I will end up confessing before they catch me self.

Usually happens from the married ones

thorpido:
Something is wrong somewhere.I hope his spouse has not turned his heart away from the family.

He might be a member of a deadly secret cult where members are instructed never to help their immediate family members.

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

Post like this make me to see marriage & child bearing as a total waste of time
What is the need of bringing people into this world, suffer for them, only for them to start reasoning like fowl when they grow up...
If u don't know u owe your parents alot....Then i sorry for u...
I just hope your kids grow up & treat u like a piece of rag when u are old...
Ingrate...

Evacroft:
I disagree with the believe that spouses turn ur heart against ur own family,its just what u accepted. He is not doing the right thing towards his parents ,siblings can deal wiv there own life ,but u owe parents alot.

you are 100% wrong .. you eventually become who you marry. Even the bible said it dat man and woman will come together and become one. If you get married to a stingy woman eventually you will start becoming stingy no matter how free giving you are. If you get married to a dirty person, you will start embracing dirtiness. That's why people change after marriage. The mystery that i am still trying to uncover is why couple start looking alike after marriage. Believe it or not marriage is a very powerful bond twining souls together

That brother of yours might be dinning with the devil and most a times it entails you snub ur family members.

lefulefu:
Maybe the money is not clean.maybe the babalawo dat did it for him told him the day he uses his money to help a loved one he won't live long.and also he has the spirit of boasting in him hence he has to flaunt his wealth at you guys to oil up his ego.na wetin me see for d matter be this.

The bold is very possible...

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

The money ritual he did entails him not helping his family...

Nosikebit:
you are 100% wrong .. you eventually become who you marry. Even the bible said it dat man and woman will come together and become one. If you get married to a stingy woman eventually you will start becoming stingy no matter how free giving you are. If you get married to a dirty person, you will start embracing dirtiness. That's why people change after marriage. The mystery that i am still trying to uncover is why couple start looking alike after marriage. Believe it or not marriage is a very powerful bond twining souls together

Very True...
Considerable number of women don't feel comfortable when a man cares for his siblings
The moment a man get married he is no longer the same
I strongly believe if the op brother was single, he wouldn't be this bad, except it really has to do with rituals...

amprat:

Yes everyone grew up together, I think it just his true nature because anytime he needs the family members like to be present at naming ceremony or introduction and those kind of stuff, he suddenly becomes friendly,calling everyone, reminding them they are all family members,making promises but once he is through he dumps everyone, won't pick calls, not even that of his mother until he needs them again . maybe we never really noticed

Please,let us be clear on this. That your brother is not rich. He's only pretending to be rich.

Rubbiish:

Post like this make me to see marriage & child bearing as a total waste of time
What is the need of bringing people into this world, suffer for them, only for them to start reasoning like fowl when they grow up...
If u don't know u owe your parents alot....Then i sorry for u...
I just hope your kids grow up & treat u like a piece of rag when u are old...
Ingrate...

Bleep you! I will train kids with the intent that they will be self sufficient adults, and at same time plan my retirement. They are not my retirement plan.

Unlike like most of the retards in this country, procreation shouldn’t be a sport. If you had a lick of sense, you will plan for it.

God forbid that I become a liability to my children, they will give me coz they love me, not coz I will die of hunger if they don’t.

With your poverty mentality, you shouldn’t get married, all your kind do, is aid poverty.

If only procreation was regulated in Nigeria, then you will understand the privilege of having children.

Bleep you and all the other idiots that go on a birthing spree, without proper planning.

Op you should first check yourself and your mom very well to ascertain the spirit of hatred living within. The young man in question may wish to help but things turns around whenever he wants to carry out that promise. I was once a victim, whenever I have at heart to help certain person's my financial system crumbles until I decided to let them go.

rman:


I agree with you 100%

You are too logical, that is why a lot of posters disagreed with you. In these climes, the emotional blackmail especially from family and friends why they think you are rich is sometimes ridiculous.

Nigerians sure do have entitlement mentality.

We plan our lives way out of what our resources can cater for and expect someone else to carry the burden just because we feel or assumed they have a financial breakthrough.

It is important to help those in need but what Nigerians subtly ask for when they claim support friend and relative is basically putting the burden of a life style e.g school fees, weddings, burials, even properties, on another persons resources sometimes 100%

Oga shut up!!!
Stop trying so hard to justify evil
People quoted that guy because he included parents
Your parents took care of u when were young, it is your duty to take care of them when they get old...Neglecting one's parent at old age is sheer wickedness, it has nothing to do with entitlement mentality, It only shows what your heart is made of.
No man with a good heart will neglect his parents at old age...
There are certain things we should do for our parents, they are not even debateable...

You can as well choose not to bury your parents...Ingrate!!!