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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by aurxtino(m): 8:50am On Jan 03
xrisdgreat:
obviously,deres a problem..talk 2 her abwt it,tell her u dont like it.

if it where to be u dats doin that,hope she'l b fine about it.
Forget it bro, ladies would always be ladies, my own babe openly told me to cheat on her if I want to , can you imagine hahaha

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by mikejj(m): 9:13am On Jan 03
i feel u dont trust ur woman.... the fact thats she is inlove with u doesnt mean she should kill all the male freinds in her life...#bobowiseup
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DeadRat(f): 9:14am On Jan 03
DiDeBee:
Hello NL,
A sincere advice pls, what do you do wen your woman does all to show she loves you but still keeps some familiar guys around?
By familiar I mean, you hv noticed a particular person or persons she still keeps tab with....
Could she be forming the same love with him or them and should it matter to me?? embarassed lipsrsealed
better Get Hold Of Two Side Chicks

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 9:58am On Jan 03
aurxtino:
Forget it bro, ladies would always be ladies, my own babe openly told me to cheat on her if I want to , can you imagine hahaha


Mehnnnn dats a strong one shocked
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by Fussbot: 12:26pm On Jan 03
Lol do you want to marry her? If no, there is no reason to be angry.
Even though I know as a guy, we are egoistic and don't like anyone get near a girl we like. Even if we won't marry her.

She clearly wants you to know there are guys waiting to pick her anytime. Which is true by the way. But she knows also none can be like you. She loves you and would like to keep you. But she doesn't want you to think she has loved up to the extent she can't do without you.Hence the flirting with guys. She is the one insecure not you. She wanted you to react this way nothing more. Talking about it wld make her do more trust me.

If you want something serious with her though, tell her to stop or u'd break up.

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by TheSuperNerd(m): 2:21pm On Jan 03
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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by TheSuperNerd(m): 2:21pm On Jan 03
Come out clean and tell us.

Are you both in a relationship or you are still in the "hoping-to-be" stage?

If she is not in a relationship with you, then I see nothing wrong with her also being as close to other guys. And hey! by "does all to show she loves you" are you sure this is not her just being nice and good-natured to you because most men will almost always see every good gesture from a lady as green lights or a possible sign of something more.

Look, don't go getting yourself killed emotionally over some girl you are not even in a relationship with. Unless there is a commitment between you two, then I say you got no right to be concerned. She can be as familiar as she wants. Deal with it.


DiDeBee:
Hello NL,
A sincere advice pls, what do you do wen your woman does all to show she loves you but still keeps some familiar guys around?
By familiar I mean, you hv noticed a particular person or persons she still keeps tab with....
Could she be forming the same love with him or them and should it matter to me?? embarassed lipsrsealed
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 2:32pm On Jan 03
Fussbot:
Lol do you want to marry her? If no, there is no reason to be angry.
Even though I know as a guy, we are egoistic and don't like anyone get near a girl we like. Even if we won't marry her.

She clearly wants you to know there are guys waiting to pick her anytime. Which is true by the way. But she knows also none can be like you. She loves you and would like to keep you. But she doesn't want you to think she has loved up to the extent she can't do without you.Hence the flirting with guys. She is the one insecure not you. She wanted you to react this way nothing more. Talking about it wld make her do more trust me.

If you want something serious with her though, tell her to stop or u'd break up.

Hmmm, thanks
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 2:35pm On Jan 03
TheSuperNerd:
Come out clean and tell us.

Are you both in a relationship or you are still in the "hoping-to-be" stage?

If she is not in a relationship with you, then I see nothing wrong with her also being as close to other guys. And hey! by "does all to show she loves you" are you sure this is not her just being nice and good-natured to you because most men will almost always see every good gesture from a lady as green lights or a possible sign of something more.

Look, don't go getting yourself killed emotionally over some girl you are not even in a relationship with. Unless there is a commitment between you two, then I say you got no right to be concerned. She can be as familiar as she wants. Deal with it.



Dude, am dating her, she is not jst anybody... undecided
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by TheSuperNerd(m): 3:31pm On Jan 03
Okay then. Good. You are both boyfriend and Girlfriend in a romantic relationship.

So, can you vouch for her commitment to you? Can you say for sure that she loves you with everything? Has she shown you any sign for you to think that her closeness to or friendship with certain male folks could spell doom for you both?

DiDeBee:


Dude, am dating her, she is not jst anybody... undecided

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 4:42pm On Jan 03
TheSuperNerd:
Okay then. Good. You are both boyfriend and Girlfriend in a romantic relationship.

So, can you vouch for her commitment to you? Can you say for sure that she loves you with everything? Has she shown you any sign for you to think that her closeness to or friendship with certain male folks could spell doom for you both?


I can't vouch for her cuz we ain't married yet bro, buh before now I cud say dat she loved me with almost evrythng buh after seeing those conversations I was shocked.
Then no romantic relationship with any other guy wouldn't spell doom for us, cuz she cud get infected, pregnant or worse...and she knows we both hv future goals to settle
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by FiringSquad(m): 4:50pm On Jan 03
DiDeBee:


Exactly, dats y am here...other ways like??
...dont ever make her sense that you're jealous at all,dont just make it seem like a big deal to you,and stop caring much,reduce the number of times you call her,whatever it is you do much,reduce,once in a while get annoyed at her,or fake it,trust me,dem dey like this kind drama

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 5:01pm On Jan 03
FiringSquad:
...dont ever make her sense that you're jealous at all,dont just make it seem like a big deal to you,and stop caring much,reduce the number of times you call her,whatever it is you do much,reduce,once in a while get annoyed at her,or fake it,trust me,dem dey like this kind drama

Hmmmmmmm
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by FiringSquad(m): 5:06pm On Jan 03
DiDeBee:

Hmmmmmmm
hahahahaha....u scared u'll lose her

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by TheSuperNerd(m): 7:49pm On Jan 03
If it is until marriage that you can vouch for her then I am afraid the commitment bond between you two is not strong enough.

Before you enter this institution called marriage you must know to a fine extent the woman you are walking into this institution with. The trust must be there so that you both can have something strong to stand on because I tell you a truth Sir, "You won't always trust the one you love, but you will always love the one you trust."

In Love, Trust is a central ingredient. Without Trust, which goes to say without being sure of where her heart lies then you may end up marrying a woman who will just have feelings for you but still cheat on you.


And you say "before" she showed a love where she loved you with almost everything but can't be so sure now. Then you mention conversations. What conversations if I may ask? Why do those conversations shock you? Was she being heavily flirtatious?
Was it online conversation?


And my last question was simple. It has nothing to do with diseases or pregnancy. I asked if she is doing anything to suggest that her emotional attention may be shifting to another man thus making you feel uneasy or jealous.


And speaking of future goals together. When last did you two even have a deep discussion about it? Does she still feel enthusiastic about the future with you? These are things you should know and be certain of because marriage is not for people who have no trust in each other. Such unions will always crumble. Always.




DiDeBee:


I can't vouch for her cuz we ain't married yet bro, buh before now I cud say dat she loved me with almost evrythng buh after seeing those conversations I was shocked.
Then no romantic relationship with any other guy wouldn't spell doom for us, cuz she cud get infected, pregnant or worse...and she knows we both hv future goals to settle

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 9:17pm On Jan 03
TheSuperNerd:
If it is until marriage that you can vouch for her then I am afraid the commitment bond between you two is not strong enough.

Before you enter this institution called marriage you must know to a fine extent the woman you are walking into this institution with. The trust must be there so that you both can have something strong to stand on because I tell you a truth Sir, "You won't always trust the one you love, but you will always love the one you trust."

In Love, Trust is a central ingredient. Without Trust, which goes to say without being sure of where her heart lies then you may end up marrying a woman who will just have feelings for you but still cheat on you.


And you say "before" she showed a love where she loved you with almost everything but can't be so sure now. Then you mention conversations. What conversations if I may ask? Why do those conversations shock you? Was she being heavily flirtatious?
Was it online conversation?


And my last question was simple. It has nothing to do with diseases or pregnancy. I asked if she is doing anything to suggest that her emotional attention may be shifting to another man thus making you feel uneasy or jealous.


And speaking of future goals together. When last did you two even have a deep discussion about it? Does she still feel enthusiastic about the future with you? These are things you should know and be certain of because marriage is not for people who have no trust in each other. Such unions will always crumble. Always.





Thnks for the trust/love lesson's, I think i actually did trust her per say until d msgs.
Can't tell all details buh will point out a few, she wasnt heavily flirtatious buh slightly, for e.g. all d pix she sent me, she sent them to d other guy too...even a meal she made smtym and snapped to me, she did same for the guy and told him he shudnt worry dat she will mk it for him after he complimented her....and so on...so tell me those arent harmful to our relationship?
Then I can't tell her level of enthusiasm (based on dis discovery) bout d future again but we do talk bout it smtyms.
Wat marvels most is dat in her defense, she says they r jst talking and claims she can't neva see d guy, u can imagine... lipsrsealed
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by TheSuperNerd(m): 10:47pm On Jan 03
Oh you are welcome man. smiley

So now, it is the messages you discovered on her phone chats that is now making you worry. Hmmmm....

She was not heavily flirtatious... okay. But just slightly. Okay.

So it looks like whatever she sends to you like her pics for instance, she also tends to send all to the other guy. I wanna ask, is it really everything she shares with you via pics or more that she sends to the other guy?

Because if she doesn't send all then it could mean that at least she reserves some exclusives just for you. But if she sends all and it is quite obvious then maybe she is enjoying the other guy's attention too.

Telling him she will make a meal for him is just talk. I don't think that should bother you. My main issue is with whether, for instance now.... she takes a pic of herself in very sultry clothes that exposes her boobs or beautiful laps and sends to you. Does she send same explicitly sensual pic to the guy? Be honest.


And about when you talk about the future. Try to bring it up again after some time like next week perhaps. Then watch keenly her reactions to them and how enthusiastic she could be. But be careful, if she is having a hard time then like having her periods or is sick or is not just doing okay... then don't expect an enthusiastic response from her.
Be sensitive to the timing of when next you bring up talks about your future with her.


About her defense for chatting this guy up, she says there is no way she will or can see the guy right? Is that what she is saying? because I want to really get this.

But see ehn my bottomline advice is partly based on your answer to my italicised question.

DiDeBee:


Thnks for the trust/love lesson's, I think i actually did trust her per say until d msgs.
Can't tell all details buh will point out a few, she wasnt heavily flirtatious buh slightly, for e.g. all d pix she sent me, she sent them to d other guy too...even a meal she made smtym and snapped to me, she did same for the guy and told him he shudnt worry dat she will mk it for him after he complimented her....and so on...so tell me those arent harmful to our relationship?
Then I can't tell her level of enthusiasm (based on dis discovery) bout d future again but we do talk bout it smtyms.
Wat marvels most is dat in her defense, she says they r jst talking and claims she can't neva see d guy, u can imagine... lipsrsealed
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by jimbson: 11:02pm On Jan 03
DiDeBee:


Thnks for the trust/love lesson's, I think i actually did trust her per say until d msgs.
Can't tell all details buh will point out a few, she wasnt heavily flirtatious buh slightly, for e.g. all d pix she sent me, she sent them to d other guy too...even a meal she made smtym and snapped to me, she did same for the guy and told him he shudnt worry dat she will mk it for him after he complimented her....and so on...so tell me those arent harmful to our relationship?
Then I can't tell her level of enthusiasm (based on dis discovery) bout d future again but we do talk bout it smtyms.
Wat marvels most is dat in her defense, she says they r jst talking and claims she can't neva see d guy, u can imagine... lipsrsealed

Y did u hack into her Whatsapp Account? It's what u see is what u get.. U don't trust her from the onset bros..

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 11:16pm On Jan 03
TheSuperNerd:
Oh you are welcome man. smiley

So now, it is the messages you discovered on her phone chats that is now making you worry. Hmmmm....

She was not heavily flirtatious... okay. But just slightly. Okay.

So it looks like whatever she sends to you like her pics for instance, she also tends to send all to the other guy. I wanna ask, is it really everything she shares with you via pics or more that she sends to the other guy?

Because if she doesn't send all then it could mean that at least she reserves some exclusives just for you. But if she sends all and it is quite obvious then maybe she is enjoying the other guy's attention too.

Telling him she will make a meal for him is just talk. I don't think that should bother you. My main issue is with whether, for instance now.... she takes a pic of herself in very sultry clothes that exposes her boobs or beautiful laps and sends to you. Does she send same explicitly sensual pic to the guy? Be honest.


And about when you talk about the future. Try to bring it up again after some time like next week perhaps. Then watch keenly her reactions to them and how enthusiastic she could be. But be careful, if she is having a hard time then like having her periods or is sick or is not just doing okay... then don't expect an enthusiastic response from her.
Be sensitive to the timing of when next you bring up talks about your future with her.


About her defense for chatting this guy up, she says there is no way she will or can see the guy right? Is that what she is saying? because I want to really get this.

But see ehn my bottomline advice is partly based on your answer to my italicised question.


The advice is a strong one, thnks...

OK lemmi keep it short, she doesn't send d exposed pics to him from d ones i saw o...

And yes, she said so dat she there is nothing between them and as such she can neva meet him....meanwhile d guy kips professing luv for her and all in d chat and she was appreciating them
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 7:08am On Jan 04
jimbson:


Y did u hack into her Whatsapp Account? It's what u see is what u get.. U don't trust her from the onset bros..
Didn't hack in her WhatsApp bro, was helping her out with sm other stuffs wen d guys msgs started coming in, followed by strings of his calls....she tried to avoid them so I smelt smthng fishy and dats how it blew up, cuz I insisted she must pick d calls and stop pretending
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by rebirthforgoody(f): 7:38am On Jan 04
Maybe you are not giving her much attention.some ladies likes attention jare tongue

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by Seanjay(m): 8:04am On Jan 04
Guy must you kill yourself with heartaches and suspicion because of one girl? Love doesn't sweet when there's no trust anymore Bro leave the babe and move on it obvious at the end she is going to break your heart, she is just waiting for the right excuse to dump you and go to the other guy for good and they are so many cases where you fuxk a girl that has a bf I think that's what is going to happen in your case the guy is going to Bleep her while she's still with you and that when you will loose your head and be heartbroken just do the needful now by letting her go but tell her the reason you are letting her go bro.... YOUR BABE ISNT CONTENTED WITH YOU AND I GUESS SHE IS STILL YOUNG AND WANNA EXPLORE

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 8:29am On Jan 04
FiringSquad:
hahahahaha....u scared u'll lose her

Most likely mehnnnnn
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DeadRat(f): 9:27am On Jan 04
rebirthforgoody:
Maybe you are not giving her much attention.some ladies likes attention jare tongue
all Ladies Love Attention

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by babtaima(m): 10:21am On Jan 04
cerowo:
It may surprise you that they are jst friends and nothing attached....
But wait o, is she your galfriend or yr friend that's caring and u think she's showing u greenlight?
Be sure.
you're funny... so you keep guys as friends just for being friends? you must be ugl... or an AW

Anyways OP never listen to any advice from a female about relationships else you'll be doomed.. Next this girl and find another one... Never spend time with a girl that leads you on and doesn't have 100% interest in you and for only you... you deserve better l.. Next this girl now or face the pain to come.

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by FiringSquad(m): 10:57am On Jan 04
DiDeBee:


Most likely mehnnnnn
stop being childish mahn,let go of her for a while,she'll be forming for a while,later she'll drop her ego and call...and if she doesnt,sorry,you dont mean sh*t to her at all..,truth is served cold!

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by rebirthforgoody(f): 11:23am On Jan 04
DeadRat:
all Ladies Love Attention






Follow follow waytin na

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Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by pedrilo: 1:01pm On Jan 04
sekxyqueen:
free yourself from such disastrous mind set..

I think you are just acting so insecure angry
dnt kid urself. Such happened to me b4. The guy is now her bf
Re: What To Do When She Does All To Show She Loves You, But Still Keeps Others? by DiDeBee(m): 2:52pm On Jan 04
pedrilo:
dnt kid urself. Such happened to me b4. The guy is now her bf

U can imagine..... Damn it!!! sad

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