Blogger Emeh Achanga of MisspetiteNigeria who recently spoke on the crash of her relationship with her baby daddy has penned an emotional piece on her experience with post-natal depression.
She also clarified that she didn’t suffer any form of physical abuse from him.
Hello guys, yesterday, I shared my thoughts with journalist Tope Delano about Post-natal depression and how it affected me ….Read Full Gists at: https://www.tribesng.com/entertainment/suffer-form-physical-abuse-my-babys-father-blogger-emeh-achanga-writes-postnatal-depression/© Shared By Gift Dah NewsSharer
Though a few headlines were slightly taken out of context as my intention was to focus on my battle with post-natal depression and how it affected me professionally,not on my personal life.
I also want to categorically state that, I did not suffer any form of physical abuse from my baby’s father.Also ,contrary to popular opinion,I have never been legally married (that was a personal desicion too).
That said, I really feel Postatal-depression is something many Nigerians should be aware of………
For those who are not aware, anywhere from 40 to 80 percent of new mothers experience the baby blues – an emotional state of tearfulness, unhappiness, worry, self-doubt, and fatigue.
However, if your feelings seem unusually intense and have lasted longer than two weeks straight, you could have postpartum depression (PPD).Post partum depression is a type of mood disorder associated with childbirth.
Some symptoms include
Extreme sadness, emptiness, or hopelessness-Crying all the time-Loss of interest or lack of enjoyment in your usual activities and hobbies-Trouble falling sleep at night, or trouble staying awake during the day-Loss of appetite or eating too much, or unintentional weight loss or weight gain-Overwhelming feelings of worthlessness or overpowering guilt-Restlessness or sluggishness-Difficulty concentrating or making decisions-Feeling that life isn’t worth living
-Being irritable or angry-Avoiding friends and family-Worrying excessively about your baby-Being uninterested in your baby, or unable to care for her-Feeling so exhausted that you’re unable to get out of bed for hours
In rare cases, some women with PPD experience delusional thoughts or hallucinations and may harm their baby.
While the exact cause of PPD is unclear, the cause is believed to be a combination of physical and emotional factors.
Depression or anxiety during pregnancyStressful life events during pregnancy or soon after giving birthTraumatic childbirth experiencePreterm deliveryA baby needing neonatal intensive careLack of social support and many more.
In March ,celebrity Chrissy Teigen opened up on her battle in a Essay for Glamour magazine….
“A year ago, in April, John and I started our family together. We had our daughter, Luna, who is perfect. She is somehow exactly me, exactly John, and exactly herself. I had everything I needed to be happy. And yet, for much of the last year, I felt unhappy. What basically everyone around me — but me — knew up until December was this: I have postpartum depression.”“Personally,as a blogger,I dealt with post-natal depression and it affected my output and everyday is still a struggle.Yes while people see me and say goals, I see a shattered woman who sits and sometimes daydreams of ending it all.And did I open up? Yes I did but no one understood me.
I recall my first experience with depression started after having a c-section,I hated myself.I was crying non-stop and worried about blogging.Confined to a hospital bed and unable to eat or drink water for the first 3 days was hell for me.The, I remember not feeling attached to my baby and I hated when anyone touched or came close to her. I wasn’t allowed to hold her for long as I was still in pain.So anytime she cried in hunger, the nurses or her father’s mum would brig her to me to breastfeed. Oh the pain was intense ! Once i was done, I would want to cuddle her a bit to relieve the pain and she would be snatched away from me (for my own good)
However, I did not see it that way. I wanted her on the bed with me,not in a cot.I felt like I was of no use and felt like a bad mother for going through a c-section.Continuously sedated because of the intense pain,I walked to the hospital corridor,desperately seeking the opinion of a doctor.
Had hallucinations I would die if I slept off after being sedated.A young male doctor approached and saw me in tears outside and was shocked .
Madam what are you doing outside, you are not allowed to sit up,you need to lie down” he said
‘No,no, doctor,please help me.I am f[...]
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