internationalman:

Yes. if u had done it for like 5 years u would understand better

One need not be in a bad habit for that long to realise that it is bad. I would have stopped it in the few months I started with it coupled with porn but I stumbled a lot.
It's just God that saved me.
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I now feel internal happiness n sanity.


Hope u aren't battling any?

internationalman:

But it has a debilitating effect on sexual performances and sex life in general

Says who.... Masturbation enhances your sex life.

mssrosa:
Hello Fam!

This is something I wish I wouldn't have to do but I am left with no option as I am at the crossroads.

My brother started smoking lets say about 6-5 years ago, I only got to find out 3 years. He is my immediate elder brother so we are pretty much close, we are also from a Christian family and I can assure you that we were brought up very well. We have other elder siblings (boys).

From his story, I found out he started smoking when he got into University. He got into the federal university in my state and since we weren't based there, he lived alone in the family house.

This is someone who got into school and for his first year studying engineering, he had a very strong 2.1 and bagged Agbami scholarship. Fast forward to 3 years later, he dropped to a 2.2(which he later graduated with) and lost his Agbami scholarship. This same year he came home for hols and started being all by himself. One way or the other, my parents caught him smoking one day, dad scolded him, mum did same but later on went to plead with him to stop. He promised he would but still went back to smoking.

Right now before he goes to someone's house to maybe spend few days he would ask questions like: is there a backyard, is there a lone time in the house? Privacy etc, just so he would smoke.

He smokes weed EVERY single DAY!!!
And now he is getting really slim, anytime I try to talk to him about it he gets angry and walks away.

Just few days ago I noticed he has been drinking something he calls "purple"(he mixes it with maybe coke or ChiExotic). I went into his room and saw a bottle of tutolin which is obviously his "purple". I asked him why he was drinking it, he said he felt like and I told him I was gonna tell someone in the family.

NOW TO MY QUESTION

Should I go ahead and tell a family member/all or I should keep talking to him?
,

Your brother is Lil Wayne.
The worst thing for somebody with a bad habit is when you point it out to the individual and the individual becomes annoyed. You have double trouble to handle.
My dear, you don't hide habit like this. When you report him, he no go stop until he catch seriouse smoking related sickness or disease or Holy Spirit visit am. .

madgoat:

Says who.... Masturbation enhances your sex life.

The disadvantages far outweighs its advantages.

Let him see a psychiatrist

2shure:
send me your acct number punctuation mark my dic u broke ass son of a bich hahahahaha broke hater hahahagahagaga

Are you serious? You wan credit my account?

Those saying take him to rehab don't understand how rehab works. i know someone who has been to rehab about 3 times nd is still an addict. The minute he gets back home from rehab, the first thing he does is roll a joint. The only way rehab works is when an addict seeks it out by him/her self. They have to realise by themselves the negative effects their addiction is having on them and those around them. Having to ask if there's a backyard in a friend's house before you can go visiting is enough reason for you to know you need help. Make him know there's more to life than drugs. There's family, there's find love, there's getting married to your true love, giving birth to children nd soo many other things. There's so much to live for. Make him know he can be happy nd live a productive life without weed, when things get though he can slow things down nd take things easy without codiene. And most importantly, pray for him.

mssrosa:
Hello Fam!

This is something I wish I wouldn't have to do but I am left with no option as I am at the crossroads.

My brother started smoking lets say about 6-5 years ago, I only got to find out 3 years. He is my immediate elder brother so we are pretty much close, we are also from a Christian family and I can assure you that we were brought up very well. We have other elder siblings (boys).

From his story, I found out he started smoking when he got into University. He got into the federal university in my state and since we weren't based there, he lived alone in the family house.

This is someone who got into school and for his first year studying engineering, he had a very strong 2.1 and bagged Agbami scholarship. Fast forward to 3 years later, he dropped to a 2.2(which he later graduated with) and lost his Agbami scholarship. This same year he came home for hols and started being all by himself. One way or the other, my parents caught him smoking one day, dad scolded him, mum did same but later on went to plead with him to stop. He promised he would but still went back to smoking.

Right now before he goes to someone's house to maybe spend few days he would ask questions like: is there a backyard, is there a lone time in the house? Privacy etc, just so he would smoke.

He smokes weed EVERY single DAY!!!
And now he is getting really slim, anytime I try to talk to him about it he gets angry and walks away.

Just few days ago I noticed he has been drinking something he calls "purple"(he mixes it with maybe coke or ChiExotic). I went into his room and saw a bottle of tutolin which is obviously his "purple". I asked him why he was drinking it, he said he felt like and I told him I was gonna tell someone in the family.

NOW TO MY QUESTION

Should I go ahead and tell a family member/all or I should keep talking to him?

Am afraid to say he is addicted to it already ! And there is no amount of scolding that will make him to stop except he decided on his own to quit the habit!

omolorlarh:


mssrosa

sorry re a yoruba gal

bizzy500:
sorry re a yoruba gal

Yes

omolorlarh:

Yes

cool....u live at ib right

bizzy500:
cool....u live at ib right

No.... Why?

omolorlarh:

No....
Why?

im curently serving there...just wanna get to knw u....u mind

God bless your heart

Bro pls can I have ur number, pls I need to discuss something vital to u Sir!!�

ekems2017:
Even if you tell your parent it might not make any difference. My youngest brother is into the same smoking and drinking habit. My parent have talked, advice and scold him no difference at all. I have talked and talked, all my siblings have done the same snd instead of improving, it is getting worse.It's really affecting him and I dont know what to do.

How did this go?