1. Not showing enough physical affection

Love is something that we all desire, no matter how hard up we are - deep within us is the desire to be loved by others. The same with your children. If you want them to grow into stable adults who can care for themselves then you need to show them that they are needed - show them physical affection by carrying them up, hugging them, hand-shaking and any other way that will allow your body to come in contact with them
Signs that a child is lacking physical affection from you - intentionally disturbing you when you are trying to rest.


2. Overreacting

Overreacting to a child's mistake is no way to let a child learn that what he/she did is extremely bad - it only frustrates them. One sign to learn if you are overreacting to your child's mistakes is lies. If your child suddenly started telling lies to you, then it means you are probably overreacting to everything they tell you.


3. Public discipline

Now this is a no no. Don't discipline your child in front of her peers, classmates, siblings or grown-ups. Why? Because it kills the very thing that makes them stand for themselves. If your child doesn't stand for himself/herself when confronted by peers or other people then you're probably doing the discipline in the wrong place.


4. Advise instead of encouragement

This can be a little tricky - after all as parents we should advise our children. Well it's great to advise your children and you should do that - but at times what is really needed is encouragement not advise. Advising them all the time can make them feel like they are not capable of doing anything on their own which is not true and terrible for their self-esteem. One sign to tell if you are over-advising your child is poor self-esteem.


5. Comparisons

Don't ever compare your child with other people's children. You won't make your child to work harder as you think by comparing her with one of her peers, rather you'll make her jealous of the other and this can lead to hatred between both and yourself. Your child may even begin to feel you prefer the other child to herself. One sign of comparison is jealousy and hatred towards the other child and sometimes towards you.


6. Order

I've seen many parents mistaken this for good parenting. You order your child around to do any and everything. Sure they will be obedient to you now but when they become adolescent they will rebel - because they felt no love from you. One sign of this is lack of respect for the feelings of others. If your child lacks respect for the feeling of others, it may be because you always order them around not caring about how they feel.


7. Making things too big

So your child suddenly becomes secretive and no longer tells you things like he always does? Why? Well it may be because you are always makes what he tells you bigger than it is when you discuss it with your friends.


8. Buying everything for them

Sure- buy good things your money can afford for your child - it's good. But is it what they want or what you feel they want? Before getting a thing for your child, try finding out if they want it and precisely what color they want. One sign of buying things your child don't want is stealing. If after buying a lot of things for your child, they still go ahead to take things from their colleagues, it's probably because you are not buying the things they want.


9. Not praising them

If your child gets angry quickly, it might be because you don't praise them enough for the good they've been doing. And they only gets your attention by misbehaving.

I hope this little tips will help someone out there.