Oreofepeters:
You dey ask wether they never fornicate? Na wa o your matter tire me. How full grown up man and woman go stay for 7 years nd no go bleep? Body no be firewood na

tosyne2much:
Hahaha.. Me no come dey for market baba

jbaby265:
thanks guys.. you guys are really wonderful.. I've heard the good and better Advice..

I promise to post my pre wedding photos soon.. cos am really going to pray and work on it as most matured minds here advice.. thanks all

genghiskhan007:


I hope u 2 are not fornicating
Abstain from pride, sauciness and put God first in the relationship
if u 2 have ever indulged in fornication, get on ya knees and ask God for fornication
Go and buy MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE IN COURTSHIP BY D.K. Olukoya
Use it and pray with it
Ask God to open ya eyes to see whether he is ya God-ordained husband
Sit down with him and request that he tells you your shortcomings, so you can make amends

Stay blessed
[Don't make yaself look desperate 4 marriage]

opelyem:


At first, I thought it is my fiancee that is posting about our relationship. But reading through your comments, I doubt it is her.

Anyways, suppose you break up and found another man, how many months will you court to know his characters which might be worst than ur current man?

Aunty, the truth is long term relationship always show these traits. Try to work on things you are doing that is contributing to the toxicity in ur relationship. If he stayed this 7 years, he really wants to marry you. STOP FEELING INSECURE.

Above all, what man wants from his woman is peace, please give it to him.

HerXLNC:



Your non challant attitude is a thing of worry simply because he loves you n he get hurt when u don't care about many things he felt shd be norm

7yrs relationship is not beans.... I feel it's ego that's killing both of you, sit him down and discuss this
1.how u can resolve quarrel in less than 24hrs
2.how you both should learn to say the unpalatable sorry
3.how the second person should not get angry when the first is angry.... Meaning both shd never get angry at d same time.... Beside the second person might start his/her anger when d first get over it
4. Never give an "I don't care attitude" it hurts badly


Play this role of sitting him down he ll accord u more respect for this

Unlimited22:

Ma'am y'all need to sit and talk. Something is bothering him, and like many an African man, he's hidden it so as not to appear weak. Could also be groom nerves. But you need to address this now, or it'll become a major issue in marriage.
Ignore all the naysayers and communicate with your man and ensure you're still compatible.
This is surmountable, no good thing comes without a price.
We look forward to seeing pre-wedding pictures and a nice ceremony.

YoungDaNaval:
Receive sense!!!

kc2hansome:



I wanted to wakapass but I have a direct experience on this issue.
There are two side to every story. Yours and his.
Pls disregard all these petty breakup advise from all these unmarried ladies on NL, you can at least consider the married ones, I wouldn't waste time to explain why...
From your narration I'm sensing you must have cheated on him at some point and maybe he too has.
I think true forgiveness is the problem here.
When a Lady cheats she tends to emotionally shutdown in her relationship, thus the "nonchalance" you mentioned that you usually exhibit.
He maybe forgave you but you kept acting up, till he lost patience and stopped giving a damn, hence his ability to stay 1month without communication.
A man doesn't keep malice some do but you should know if he falls under that category as 7years no be child's play.
When you talk and talk and someone keeps repeating the same thing, eventually you'll stop talking and also stop giving a damn.

My dear within that one month why didn't you call or do you think that the person who moves to reconcile is the fool??
Your relationship did not last for 7years by coincident someone was making the relevant sacrifices and i'm suspecting that it was him, you're only worked up and looking for solution now because he has turned the wheel around. He might have been taking lots of sh*t from you due to the love he has from you and begging you to change but you refused (maybe because u weren't affected directly then), the stage you are in the 7th year is the stage he was around the 4 or 5th year but you didn't care then becos whenever you started acting up, he was always the first to extend the hand of reconciliation.


I'll give you a known secret "A woman is the most important element in a relationship". If the woman is strong and wise, the relationship is strong and wise.
Drop ego, used more of your head than emotions when he is angry. Stir your relationship to the promise land, in this modern world, you saw a guy willing to invest 7whole years in one person and you're still having ego issues. Don't go value your relationship when its over cos you'll regret it.

franchasng:
Hope you are gainfully employed If no, try and get something serious doing to start earning a living to encourage him to say I do.

Time have changed, things are no longer as easy as it used to be during our parents time or some decades ago, so every partner in marriage must be productive financially for the marriage to excel and flourish and pass the test of time.

Take my words, your man is financially worried.....he is under financial pressure which is causing him depression, so pray for him and if u have the means help him get out of the financial stress or mess so he can be the loving man u used to know.

Many men become depressed and pick fights with their woman when they are financially down. While some men do same when they are financially buoyant and tired of their old lover and looking for a way to breakup to get a new catch, so analyse your mans situation, is he financially okay at the moment

Lastly, you need to do all you can to look pretty and attractive; remember men are visual beings, they are moved by what they see....physical beauty and sexiness of a woman is very important to men.

Lastly, don't make yourself easily available to him sexually....most importantly, if u don't have any nice job now, try and get one or start a business or start now to learn a sustainable and profitable trade cos u need it.

Don't listen to what many are saying that u should breakup now, they think its easy, it maybe easy for a man but its never easy for a lady. Besides, finding a man ready to commit to a lady now is very difficult cos financial pressure and fear has made today men to become scared of commitment.

Something keeps telling me the problem is finance and maybe your man is worried u are not doing something good to earn a living and he is worried about the financial burden should he marry u...so he is scared and looking for a way to end the relationship but if u convince him otherwise by getting something good doing, he will change, that's if that's the case here which I suspect. Most men nowadays want to marry ladies who are gainfully employed, sadly that's the reality nowadays.

Wish u the best

Nwaohafia1:


7 years and not married? Haa! Patient dog eats the fattest bone

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

7 years is to long to date!

divineappo:
tosyne2much don get babe ooo, I won't mention her sha.

so, just leave tosyne2much out of this matter, biko

trilobite:

Ah!! Tosin get babe?!!!! Isalie!!!!

tosyne2much:
Oyah mention her name let me see how smart you are

madridguy:
Visit a relationship Counselor with your guy.

divineappo:
Lol
sorry not her name, but her monicker
u may not want me to do that bro or should I? am the guy u had a chat with, regarding BitCoin
u remember! I told u she is cute for u u used the DP of both of standing together, u wore a short-sleeve shirt
u remember?

tosyne2much:
Hehehe I remember.. Bad guy

jbaby265:



God bless you real good

genghiskhan007:


Mr Man if u nofit hol body go and marry
U must be a christian so go and look at I Corinthians 6:18------ where d Holy Bible said flee fornication
Everybody cannot be loose like u
So if u no fit hol body go and marry.....period

jbaby265:


this one just put a smile on my face.. you spoke like a prophet abi psychologist. thanks