PrimadonnaO:


You've spoken very very well... your spouse would most definitely get on your nerves. That's why people say marriage is a union of two forgivers.

912:


This second chance ish is just something people say to excuse bad behaviour. There are some instances where the second chance card can't be used and beating a lady is one of them.
You want to give him second chance so he can kill her right. When a man knows that the lady he claims to love would definitely leave him if he tries that nonsense, he will be more careful and treat her with respect.

Besides how many of their male friends have they beaten up because they made them angry? I'm guessing zero and that's because they will definitely fight back. But because the lady is seen as a weaker person they will gladly lift their hands at the slightest provocation and I say that's unacceptable.

AyamConfidence:
your be surprised that what many men beat their wives over....they receive double of the disrespect from female colleagues and will never raise their voices not to talk of hands......but whenever their wives who they are supposed to be partners and friends with rile them a little.... they'll remember their taekwondo skills from j.s 2 and start practicing

akeentech:

From worst to better

AyamConfidence:
those who the gods want to kill....they first make mad

a word is enough for the wise....let the one who has ears listen

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:


Na wah for you o. You don't expect them to start quarreling /fighting or beating female colleagues in the office na......... you want them to lose their jobs?

I don't support men beating up their wives but some women nag too too much

akeentech:

Broda some women need hot slap, btw are you married?

AyamConfidence:
lol....some men need to change their mindsets....the earlier the better

I'm not married yet but I'm trying to build the right mental attitude so as o be able to tackle any situation married life throws at me....it's all in the mind bro

AyamConfidence:
lol....some men need to change their mindsets....the earlier the better

I'm not married yet but I'm trying to build the right mental attitude so as o be able to tackle any situation married life throws at me....it's all in the mind bro

ImaIma1:


I agree. For him to even do it at all shows that it is in him and it is a warning sign that should not be taken for granted.

Spouses annoy each other countless times, it doesn't mean the man has the audacity to hit the woman. Can she also beat him when he annoys her?

akeentech:


Until when you get there before your eyes will clear, I reserve further comment since you are yet married. Till then

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:


The bold face. I admire this. I am not married too and I pray everyday for God to give me the wisdom and patience to live with a woman

tosyne2much:
Well said Toks2008

I don't think there's any justifiable reason whatsoever to beat your wife to pulp.. Any man who derives joy in beating a woman is nothing but an animal. Flee from such a man.

I don't think it's a mistake and such mistake will always repeat itself

akeentech:
Its better you beat your wife to reset her brain to factory setting

Toks2008:


I beg to disagree...as I wrote before, there are varying degrees of assault.

I remember the first and last time I lost it and that was after 12years of an affair...

She used a language that was so gross and I slapped her on her lap mildly but because I had never done that before I was like "what just happened"? I immediately begged her and opted to massage the spot with a balm but she was so furious that she took the pics of the spot where I slapped her and sent it to my sis n mum lol!...Apparently she never expected me to react that way and this why I advise ladies to avoid igniting anger cos they don't know how the other person may react.

well she forgave me and even apologized for using those words..

My point is that even angels are not perfect so everyone deserves a second chance.

Ladies also have a big role to play by doing their best to avoid using hurtful words cos some super romantic guys might just get violent if certain lines are crossed by the lady.

AyamConfidence:
your be surprised that what many men beat their wives over....they receive double of the disrespect from female colleagues and will never raise their voices not to talk of hands......but whenever their wives who they are supposed to be partners and friends with rile them a little.... they'll remember their taekwondo skills from j.s 2 and start practicing

AyamConfidence:
for me it was my elder sister....the girl beat me sotay I nearly crase

thinking of it now....that's domestic violence ooo

PrimadonnaO:



Lol. Thank God say you no crase. ;DMy older brothers were bullies like that. Now we're all chummy chummy, but I've not forgotten how they used to beat me up.

I WONDER WHY YOU THINK ONLY MEN ARE BULLIES.

I GREW UP WITH 2 ELDER SISTER. IT WAS STEADY BLACK AND BLUE FOR ME BECAUSE I REFUSED TO BEND TO THEIR GIRLY REASONING.

SOMETIMES I WAS IN THE MIDDLE FOR THEIR BEAT BAG, OTHER TIMES I WAS ON SCHEDULE; ONE FOR MORNING, ONE FOR NIGHT.

GUESS MY CRIMES?
NOTHING.

AT 4 I WAS BEING BEATEN BY MY MOM FOR CALLING MY SIS, 7YRS OLDER BY HER NAME. WHEN SHE LEAVES FOR WORK I GET BEATEN AGAIN BY MY SIS FOR CALLING HER "AUNTY" BASED ON MY MOTHERS RULE, CUS SHE DIDN'T LIKE THE TAG.

IMAGINE THE TAG TEAM BEAT UP THAT HAPPENS TO ME WHEN MY MOM LEAVES FOR WORK NEXT DAY, EACH TIME I TABLE A REPORT.

SO THERE ARE BULLIES EVERY WHERE. MALES, FEMALES, EVEN AMONGS ANIMALS.
SO STOP WITH THE STORY OF HOW YOUR BROTHERS TORMENTED YOU CUS WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN ORDEALS TOO.

I CAN'T FORGET HOW I WAS SCARED OF GOING TO PRIMARY SCHOOL BECAUSE OF CHIAMAKA THE MUSCLE GIRL IN MY CLASS.

HAD TO BRIBE HER WITH MY LUNCHBOX MOST TIMES.

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I WONDER WHY YOU THINK ONLY MEN ARE BULLIES.

I GREW UP WITH 2 ELDER SISTER. IT WAS STEADY BLACK AND BLUE FOR ME BECAUSE I REFUSED TO BEND TO THEIR GIRLY REASONING.

SOMETIMES I WAS IN THE MIDDLE FOR THEIR BEAT BAG, OTHER TIMES I WAS ON SCHEDULE; ONE FOR MORNING, ONE FOR NIGHT.

GUESS MY CRIMES?
NOTHING.

AT 4 I WAS BEING BEATEN BY MY MOM FOR CALLING MY SIS, 7YRS OLDER BY HER NAME. WHEN SHE LEAVES FOR WORK I GET BEATEN AGAIN BY MY SIS FOR CALLING HER "AUNTY" BASED ON MY MOTHERS RULE, CUS SHE DIDN'T LIKE THE TAG.

IMAGINE THE TAG TEAM BEAT UP THAT HAPPENS TO ME WHEN MY MOM LEAVES FOR WORK NEXT DAY, EACH TIME I TABLE A REPORT.

SO THERE ARE BULLIES EVERY WHERE. MALES, FEMALES, EVEN AMONGS ANIMALS.
SO STOP WITH THE STORY OF HOW YOUR BROTHERS TORMENTED YOU CUS WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN ORDEALS TOO.

I CAN'T FORGET HOW I WAS SCARED OF GOING TO PRIMARY SCHOOL BECAUSE OF CHIAMAKA THE MUSCLE GIRL IN MY CLASS.

HAD TO BRIBE HER WITH MY LUNCHBOX MOST TIMES.

PrimadonnaO:



Lol. Thank God say you no crase. My older brothers were bullies like that. Now we're all chummy chummy, but I've not forgotten how they used to beat me up.

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I WONDER WHY YOU THINK ONLY MEN ARE BULLIES.

I GREW UP WITH 2 ELDER SISTER. IT WAS STEADY BLACK AND BLUE FOR ME BECAUSE I REFUSED TO BEND TO THEIR GIRLY REASONING.

SOMETIMES I WAS IN THE MIDDLE FOR THEIR BEAT BAG, OTHER TIMES I WAS ON SCHEDULE; ONE FOR MORNING, ONE FOR NIGHT.

GUESS MY CRIMES?
NOTHING.

AT 4 I WAS BEING BEATEN BY MY MOM FOR CALLING MY SIS, 7YRS OLDER BY HER NAME. WHEN SHE LEAVES FOR WORK I GET BEATEN AGAIN BY MY SIS FOR CALLING HER "AUNTY" BASED ON MY MOTHERS RULE, CUS SHE DIDN'T LIKE THE TAG.

IMAGINE THE TAG TEAM BEAT UP THAT HAPPENS TO ME WHEN MY MOM LEAVES FOR WORK NEXT DAY, EACH TIME I TABLE A REPORT.

SO THERE ARE BULLIES EVERY WHERE. MALES, FEMALES, EVEN AMONGS ANIMALS.
SO STOP WITH THE STORY OF HOW YOUR BROTHERS TORMENTED YOU CUS WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN ORDEALS TOO.

I CAN'T FORGET HOW I WAS SCARED OF GOING TO PRIMARY SCHOOL BECAUSE OF CHIAMAKA THE MUSCLE GIRL IN MY CLASS.

HAD TO BRIBE HER WITH MY LUNCHBOX MOST TIMES.

ImaIma1:


Would you slap your friends if they used same language on you? A girl or guy that is your closest friend? Won't you just walk away? Speaking for myself, i won't tolerate it because i would have to be living on edge thinking that he might do it again. And i can't live like that. I am a happy child.

The people that have lost their lives, a part of their bodies or even themselves condoned it after it happened the first time.

Even emotional violence or whatever. You can't use some words on me...i will tell you immediately to take it back. I don't use such hurtful words myself. It destroys.

When i am upset, i am quiet because i cannot take words back and i am very good with words. My words can make you sit down and think about your existence or burst out crying. I am that bad. So i don't see why we cannot control our excesses.

I can forgive but i would rather not continue. In all my years of dating, i never had someone abuse me verbally or physically. If i can keep my temper under, i see no reason why u shouldn't too

AyamConfidence:
time tho....she's married now so we can't even argue anymore talk less of physical fighting

everybody be acting mature....that year the things wey dey cause fight no dey reach anything ooo

Toks2008:


Aunty calm down...if you apply all these aggression in real live then you may never remain married.


Shits happened in life and more so why are you quoting me wrongly? I wrote that I slapped her mildly on the lap and you are asking me if I can do same to a friend? which kain question be that?

Better calm down Aunty.

ImaIma1:


I am not aggressive. Don't worry about me remaining married. That is my business UNCLE.
If it was such a mild slap, what pic did she send to her mum. Didn't the "mild" slap leave a scar?

You need to understand that you cannot advise a woman to stay after being beaten the first time. What if she dies the second time? It should be her choice to stay or leave.

I am calm sir. We don't just agree on this

Toks2008:


Now I can see that sometimes one needs to spell things out clearly cos some people find it hard to comprehend the message...now understand this.

It is hard for a man to just wake up to start beating his wife in one day without the signs showing before that day.

When I said raise his hand I was not talking about blue black beating.

It usually starts with a slap,push,or removing of belt which are good enough signs.

I will tell you again..marriage is not theory but practical and if you think you can just leave your marriage because a man abused you verbally then better remain single. That's my point.

ImaIma1:


Thanks for stylishly saying i am dumb.
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Toks2008:


You are a typical naija lady.

PrimadonnaO:


I know, right
. Things as little as occupying their favourite seat in the living room. Stubborn girl that I was, I wouldn't want to stand up...will be asking them if they bought the chair or wrote their names on it.

AyamConfidence:
my crimes ranged from refusing to pack plates after eating to refusing to do my allocated share of work

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I CAN'T FORGET HOW I WAS SCARED OF GOING TO PRIMARY SCHOOL BECAUSE OF CHIAMAKA THE MUSCLE GIRL IN MY CLASS.

HAD TO BRIBE HER WITH MY LUNCHBOX MOST TIMES.
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