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I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by chyy5: 6:54pm On Mar 13
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by IamAirforce1: 6:57pm On Mar 13
I honestly feel bad seeing my fellow guys been manipulated by women ..

Only few women would love you 100% the rest are after something they don't have.

Girls show these signs of gold digging 2 weeks into your relationship with them and never ignore these signs.

OP, saw these gold digging signs in her but ignored it and now she has shown him her true gold digging colour
But the guy still never get sense.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by donstan18(m): 6:58pm On Mar 13
chyy5:

I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.


Ehe?.....So?


Since it's paining you as you are walking away from her after being so foolish to be taken for granted.

What do you want us to do now?

Young man, I'm asking you....What do you want from us? undecided

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Nobody: 6:58pm On Mar 13
undecided
Oboy

This your story is soooooo confusing

You keep calling the girl "your girl" as in your girlfriend, but she was openly cheating with another guy

What type of crazy relationship is that

Do you really think the girl loved you from the beginning or are you the one holding back some vital information.

I am sorry, but your story doesn't add up


Anyways, assuming your story is true, you did the right thing in the end by ending the charade

The relationship was more of a circus than it was romantic

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Nobody: 7:02pm On Mar 13
chyy5:
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
grin grin grin

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by mikkycoins(m): 7:07pm On Mar 13
Chai!
You're still thinking of what to do?
Magas everywhere,na your type fit yahoo boys.
Funny world! The girl is using you as her ATM while the Malay guy will suck her dry and dump her later.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by greatnaija01: 7:09pm On Mar 13
Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate you.

NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN ONLY STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY LOVE U MORE THAN U LOVE THEM. grin

This means MAKE YOURSELF EXPENSIVE and she will leave her marriage for YOU.
Being a GENTLE MAN does not work in naija.... Obeying all the romantic gestures to court a Lady does no good here..... HAVE THE MONEY LIKE MAD AND NEVER LET HER FEEL SHE MEANS THE WHOLE WORLD TO U ELSE SHE WILL RUIN YOUR WORLD.... Always make her know you are after someone BETTER THAN HER so she will keep Chasing after u... Let her know MARRIAGE is not a licence to relax because you can still DUMP her if she DOES NOT UPGRADE....

In this life.... PEOPLE ALWAYS STAY LOYAL TO PEOPLE THEY CAN NOT HAVE...... and PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT on those they already HAVE.

Get that into your HEAD and dump this lady as u MOVE AHEAD.


chyy5:
The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by IFNOTGOD(m): 7:10pm On Mar 13
give her d rent n den sit down take a bottle of chilled small stout n think about ur life

questions u should ask ursef

1. if dis guy comes from abroad what happens to me
2. what if i invest this money and become bigger dan d malaysia guy
3. is she really a wife material
4. am i a house agent
5. in future wont she dump me for a richer guy
6.how are you sure the guy is in malaysia
7. am i really d fool this girl think i am
8. what if i too travel abroad
9. what if i invest in myself
10. should i save so when my cousin is settled abroad i can go n meet her or can i save n begin to order goods from abroad to sell in nigeria


guy no waka vanish from there e no easy but once u make up ur mind u will b free
it is like dis if u stay in d relationship ur suffering continues n u may injure ursef but if u leave now u will only suffer for a while but den u will get over it n have a good life.

my dear i don suffer for babes hand now i know beta one dumped me two years ago in 2015 she came back n started asking for a relationship after other guys don suck d fine body she carry kpangolo come give me i ask my sef oboy are u really d fool she called u?

wise up

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Ebuka2016(m): 7:13pm On Mar 13
hahahahahahahahahahaha grin

hohohohohohohohohohohohohoh cheesy cheesy

kikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki grin grin grin grin

this ur story funny me. Move on bro. Dont be a puusy nigga. She loves the Malaysia guy more than you. Even if she does not want his money, which i think is just a tactic she is using to get the guy closer, the fact that he lives iN MALAYSIA, a whole MALAYSIA? Is enof reason to make her have multiple orgasm.

Bro, delete her number from your phone, delete everything about her both physical and mentally. Go get yourself a woman that will love you unconditionally.

Or you port to Malaysia too cheesy

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Ugogabriel(m): 7:15pm On Mar 13
And you are still there waiting for the day that selfish gal will kill u ba?

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by XhosaNostra(f): 7:21pm On Mar 13
No offence but you sound meek, like a pushover. "Your girl" was apologizing to another man in your presence & you waited until she was done talking, to react? Wow. I would have EXPLODED!!!!! She'd be out on her fanny in the cold, the very same day. You honestly need to man up or girls will continue treating you like a doormat. I don't even understand the love you're feeling for this person. How can you still love someone that treats you with so much disrespect & disregard?

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Opentokwowledge: 7:30pm On Mar 13
I think my eyes is giving my brain the wrong signals grin...

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Mobi47(m): 7:34pm On Mar 13
you did the right thing chyy5. forget that girl, she is not yours. you WILL end up getting married to a cheat if u continue...... the red flags is flipping right on ur face.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by LordKO(m): 7:58pm On Mar 13
@OP

You've no shame at all! Only small-minded people like you goes to places where they're tolerated. Noble people only goes to places where they're celebrated. The girl isn't to be blamed at all because she's obviously not the pretentious type, you won't say she hid her relationship with the Malaysian based guy (citing your submission) - which is her preference - from you.

Yes, the emotion of love is the strongest of all emotions and this is the reason why it's important for one to lay his/her principles before talk about looking and choosing a companion either for dating/marriage, so that in the event someone you fell in love doesn't possess at least 70% of the important attributes that can complement yours, you use his/her negative attitudes to neutralize the love emotional attachment towards her and automatically untangle yourself from her emotional grip and move on with your life.

Now, go and set your emotional firewall password with goodness and learn to always give same without being servile - and withdraw it from anyone that fails to sustain it with goodness too, but not necessarily in equal measures - and in so doing you will say bye bye to toxic relationship and heartbreak.

Love (and other attributes of goodness) isn't a sign of weakness but strength, however, unprincipled people like you and your ilks always make it to seem so, through actions and inactions like this.

Healthy relationship isn't negotiable.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by PuntHunt: 8:11pm On Mar 13
I was in a similar situation but in my case, this one claimed the Malaysian guy was her cousin but what interest will a cousin who is in Malaysia have with his "cousin's" relationship in Nigeria. He was obviously jealous about my relationship with the girl and tweaked the girl's heart to unjustifiable hate me and cut every communication with me. She did.


Today, l am a better man, better without her, better without aches. Best thing is for you to walk away with your head held high.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Nutase: 9:03pm On Mar 13
My dear I beg you in the name of whatever you worship move on without looking back otherwise you will end up as a bag of salt.

She doesn't love or respect you. You're a spare tyre.


I pray you receive sense and save yourself from divorce in the future.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Daejoyoung: 9:23pm On Mar 13
But wait o, you be house agent true true?

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by wisino1(m): 9:26pm On Mar 13
Oh boy please just come close .....I mean a little closer to me.....no come I won't slap you even if I want to ....I just want to tell you something.....you need deliverance

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by femidejulius(m): 9:28pm On Mar 13
You are in love with a silly girl or u are the silly one.

Break the relationship move on.
Always love with your head, not your heart.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Nobody: 9:31pm On Mar 13
You did your best and it didn't work out, it is obvious the babe is not feeling you at all, so dear move on and God will send you a person that will love you sincerely, it doesn't matter if you are in love, what matters is if you are loved back but in this situation you are not loved back. Bear the pain and move on.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by 912(m): 9:42pm On Mar 13
Foooooooollllllllllllll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Give me your mum's number let me forward this thing you just typed up there so she will know that she needs to go on 7DAYS fasting and prayers for the devil to release her son's brain.

Stupid house agent!

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by partnerus: 10:15pm On Mar 13
My brother, i rarely reply things i read here but again i am tempted to reply this one. Love is unfair. I can relate with what you are passing through cause i have been in that same position you are presently. Truth is, its not easy but just do whatever you can and move on with your life. Love is over rated. It really hurts but you have to let go. Some girls are just wicked and heartless. Thats how i see it.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by DonroxyII: 10:33pm On Mar 13
A real Man think with his head not heart nor emotions !!!

If I discovered a girl loves another guy other than me, It's either I drop the relationship or stay to keep choping the goodies without any commitments (Financially/emotionally) from my side !!!

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by punisha: 10:34pm On Mar 13
TO SLAP OP DEY HUNGRY ME MBOK. YOU ARE STILL THINKING ITS RIGHT TO WALK AWAY WHEN U SHOULD HAVE BEEN 30,000FT ABOVE HER LEVELS NOW.

SORRY, BUT NO SORRY.
TAKE HEART AND MOVE ON. IF YOU FEEL LIKE BEING A PHILANTHROPIST, LOCATE A MOTHERLESS BABIES HOME AND PROVIDE ASSISTANCE. DONT SPEND ANY MORE KOBO ON THE GURL. YOU ARE BEING EXPLOITED.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by lenghtinny(m): 10:59pm On Mar 13
These hoes are never loyal but mehn the disrespect you got in this situationship

You are a tad below the weakling level.... The lowest of the lows.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by MetroBaba1(m): 11:01pm On Mar 13
I Dislike Weak Men. When It Comes To R/Ship Issues, I'm The KING.

Learn To Be Principled.

U Need General Beating

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Horlartunes: 11:03pm On Mar 13
[quote author=greatnaija01 post=65809389]Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate y


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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Horlartunes: 11:04pm On Mar 13
greatnaija01:
Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate you.

NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN ONLY STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY LOVE U MORE THAN U LOVE THEM. grin

This means MAKE YOURSELF EXPENSIVE and she will leave her marriage for YOU.
Being a GENTLE MAN does not work in naija.... Obeying all the romantic gestures to court a Lady does no good here..... HAVE THE MONEY LIKE MAD AND NEVER LET HER FEEL SHE MEANS THE WHOLE WORLD TO U ELSE SHE WILL RUIN YOUR WORLD.... Always make her know you are after someone BETTER THAN HER so she will keep Chasing after u... Let her know MARRIAGE is not a licence to relax because you can still DUMP her if she DOES NOT UPGRADE....

In this life.... PEOPLE ALWAYS STAY LOYAL TO PEOPLE THEY CAN NOT HAVE...... and PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT on those they already HAVE.

Get that into your HEAD and dump this lady as u MOVE AHEAD.







I.need your whatsapp abeg here mine 08064415269
Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by crackhouse(m): 11:04pm On Mar 13
E be like say that girl dey use sex manipulate u. Keep on misbehaving until u commit suicide then ur friends will come here to disturb us with obituary pictures.

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by tosyne2much(m): 11:18pm On Mar 13
It amazes me how how you are still bent on dating someone that treats you with so much disrespect & disregard.

Some girls are just so heartless. No matter how much you try to please them, they will still betray you. Shower them with love and they will still take you for granted

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by Nobody: 11:42pm On Mar 13
I read this long epistle and want to ask, brother are you under a spell by this girl? shocked

You sound as if she's your aunt or big sis.

This is the zenith of mumuism.

Don't move on, biko stay until she gets married and you can be her hubby's bestman. undecided

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Re: I Saw My Girlfriend's Chats With Her Malaysia Based Lover, I'm Walking Away by NoLotty7(m): 1:06am On Mar 14
greatnaija01:
Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate you.

NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN ONLY STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY LOVE U MORE THAN U LOVE THEM. grin

This means MAKE YOURSELF EXPENSIVE and she will leave her marriage for YOU.
Being a GENTLE MAN does not work in naija.... Obeying all the romantic gestures to court a Lady does no good here..... HAVE THE MONEY LIKE MAD AND NEVER LET HER FEEL SHE MEANS THE WHOLE WORLD TO U ELSE SHE WILL RUIN YOUR WORLD.... Always make her know you are after someone BETTER THAN HER so she will keep Chasing after u... Let her know MARRIAGE is not a licence to relax because you can still DUMP her if she DOES NOT UPGRADE....

In this life.... PEOPLE ALWAYS STAY LOYAL TO PEOPLE THEY CAN NOT HAVE...... and PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT on those they already HAVE.

Get that into your HEAD and dump this lady as u MOVE AHEAD.


cool

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