3 Important Things to Know Before You Marry Fulani Lady

The Fulani people are one of the most widely spread tribes in the world. They are predominantly found in West Africa and northern parts of Central Africa. Some of these countries include; Nigeria, Guinea, Mali, Burkina Faso, Cameroun and Senegal. The Fulani people of Nigeria are mainly pastoral; they move across vast areas of land and come across different cultures.

They speak Hausa, French, English and Fulfulde or Fula language. They are mostly Muslims and they follow Islamic laws like the Hausas.

The Fulani traditional marriage ceremony is one of the best traditions that have been preserved in Nigeria.

Although marriages in Nigerian tribes are sacred, the Fulani traditional marriage is highly exceptional as a lot of spirituality and traditional values are accorded to marriage.

The Fulani people practice a kind of marriage system that can be best described as ‘endogamy’ (marriage within an ethnic group), a tradition that is gradually going into extinction as inter-tribal marriages are now common among the tribe.

However, there are three important things you must know if you must marry a Fulani lady.

These three things are what makes the marriage to be sacred:

#1 Kowgal (payment of dowry)

Like other tribes in Nigerian culture, the payment of dowry is very important to the Fulani people as the bride will not be allowed to move in with the groom without the payment. The dowry is usually paid in form of herds of cattle to the bride’s father while the bride price which is gift items are given to the bride herself.

#2 Sharo (flogging)
This is the most interesting and difficult part of the marriage ceremony as the groom-to-be will have to be flogged before he can marry the lady.

I know by now you will be wondering why the groom has to be flogged before marrying the bride. This is because the Fulani people cherish their females and they always do everything possible to protect them. They believe that if a man can withstand the flogging definitely he will be able to protect their daughter.

Guy, if you must marry a Fulani lady abeg rethink am now before is too late.

But once you can endure the flogging, the babe becomes yours.

#3 Kabbal (Celebration)
This is just a wedding ceremony and this usually takes place after the dowry and other marriage rites have been completed.

XhosaNostra:
This is actually very similar to how we do things in my culture. I've seen the "flogging", but I never understood what it was for. It's usually done playfully by the females in attendance. Not a serious beatdown & the groom is covered with a blanket so he doesn't get hurt lol.

Who does the beating & how serious is it? Just curious.

Segzee1:



Pls where are you from?

XhosaNostra:


I'm South African.

Can you please answer the question.

XhosaNostra:
This is actually very similar to how we do things in my culture. I've seen the "flogging", but I never understood what it was for. It's usually done playfully by the females in attendance. Not a serious beatdown & the groom is covered with a blanket so he doesn't get hurt lol.

Who does the beating & how serious is it? Just curious.

Segzee1:



Thanks for replying.

Just like it is written in the article above, the kind of flogging here mentioned is different from that of your tradition. The flogging is a serious one and it is being carried out by young men from the bride's family.

It is believed that if the man is able to withstand the pain definitely he truly love the lady and also he would be able to protect her from any form of danger.

XhosaNostra:


Wow. Ok. Thanks for the enlightenment.

jaykins:
who in this country is dreaming, thinking, imagining, i don't even know which word to use. who dey ever think to marry a Fulani babe, does the person want to become cow inlaw?

Segzee1:



You are welcome. Please check your email. Thanks

lefulefu:
na d koboko part interest me pass in all their wedding procedure.i heard b4 u marry a fulani girl they must give u 250 lashes of d koboko for ur naked back.and if u cry they resume the counting of d lashing.

Segzee1:



Thanks for replying.

Just like it is written in the article above, the kind of flogging here mentioned is different from that of your tradition. The flogging is a serious one and it is being carried out by young men from the bride's family.

It is believed that if the man is able to withstand the pain definitely he truly love the lady and also he would be able to protect her from any form of danger.

DonPiiko:
Their girls dey fine wella

lefulefu:
of course i know dat na. Many of their women boku for her. A number of dem dey sell one drink dem call nunu. Some guys dey buy d drink from dem but fear no let me buy am cos d drink no look clean.

lefulefu:
so dat means if u first get beef with one of the girl brother and na d brother dem come asign make im koboko ur back dat one na die na.

Desultan:
What if the babe dies a day after the guy was caned. Will the babe family replace or the guy goes for another round of shiro?

lefulefu:
so dat means if u first get beef with one of the girl brother and na d brother dem come asign make im koboko ur back dat one na die na.