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|My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Flowers95: 1:07pm On Mar 30|
Good day young women.
I have some tips that I would like to share to you young ladies especially those from 18 -28, women who are in their prime, Relationship and lifestyle tips as this takes a large percentage of your life. As a woman who has lived for quite of number of years and experienced things in life, I would like young women especially to wisen up, prepare for the future because you will not be young forever.
I was once like you, thought and believed I was untouchable until age and time hit me, I’m blessed and I have not experienced great regret however, many women my age have lived to regret their decisions made in the past.
1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.
Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.
2. You are not bob the builder.
Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.
3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.
Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear.
4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.
Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.
This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.
6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.
As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by crackhaus: 1:26pm On Mar 30|
Well written load of hot steamy shït is what this is.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by greatermax77(m): 1:32pm On Mar 30|
Agents of Satan.
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by benzene00: 1:44pm On Mar 30|
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by ImaIma1(f): 6:14pm On Mar 30|
Using your own experience or ideas as a standard is a terrible fallacy
Your life choices are yours and it has nothing to do with every other woman in the world.
Stop giving us stereotype advice.
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Eketem: 6:29pm On Mar 30|
Extremely stupid post and I am a woman.
You want the entitlement that comes with equality yet you imagine that financial responsibility is a man's job.
You imagine that every older man is mature and every younger man is immature
You have been damaged probably from past relationships which I suspect your attitude contributed to but instead of making amends and learning from your past you have chosen to be bitter and write long senseless bitter epistles
Women should grow up and stop acting entitled and like victims every time a relationship ends
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Shugarlord213: 9:15pm On Mar 30|
Well I myself wise pass Naija ladies now. So it takes a whole lot before a lazy naija lady plays a fast one on me. Marriage benefits this h.oes anyways. Your hustle and sweat goes for her comfort. Personally to me only ass-lickers get married.
Motherless babies home day for me to adopt fine baby. if I wan nacck woman, my car day attract a lot of ladies both in church, streets, restaurants etc
I abstained from women for 4 months and hustled... ordinary Camry muscle way I day drive I don fvck pass 19 girls since this year start. If I see say the girl na brokeazz, i just drive my camry 2.2
Nigerian girls are h.oes and guys if you no get car girl go day use you do anyhow. Forget sex for couple of months, save your money and fvck her and her friends all year
I can count about 6 girls way I fuvk them and their mama coded. I just hate poosie and ass- lickers. Listen to me, if you are still on leggediz benz, we way get car go fuvk your gf and her mama and we don’t care about how you feel since you have decided to think with your di.k
Once I naacck a babe, I no even day allow her shower. I take her to the busstop, squeeze #500 for her hand... most times as soon as she steps out of my car I just zoom off with out any Goodbye or whatever.
I have over 40 ladies single and married on my WhatsApp. Over 76 unread messages... I hope your babe no day among, if she is I don’t care how you feel I go nacck am...
I got no respect whatsoever for any female human being way day bend down pisssss
Except you be Virgin I don’t mind settling down with you, and please Don’t start whining about virgins with bad character, for a lady to abstain from s.xx till her beloved guy married her is a sign she can definitely stick to you, i cherish loyalty over everything else
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Methodist4ever(m): 9:25pm On Mar 30|
Only our Lord Jesus Christ can give a right partner
Worthy is the lamb!
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by bukatyne(f): 3:59am On Mar 31|
What issues do you have with it?
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by bukatyne(f): 4:03am On Mar 31|
I doubt the OP stated anywhere that men & women are equal. Infact, she believes in the traditional mode of marriage.
Again, as per age difference, it was more of looks and not maturity.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by bukatyne(f): 4:05am On Mar 31|
Any woman married to a man who has no moral compass best adopt this.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by MMotimo: 4:32am On Mar 31|
Happy Easter Bukatyne. I haven't been around these parts in a while, hope you are keeping well
I agree with #4, the first line only
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Belafonte(m): 6:41am On Mar 31|
Lol. Women are not ready obviously. Anyway, marriage is a dying institution so anybody is free to come up with ridiculous policies. You never jam crase.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Flowers95: 7:28am On Mar 31|
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Khonifer: 8:24am On Mar 31|
How do we expect anything to change when we have people like this that think they are wiser than every Nigerian female because they have over 76 unread messages?
Abi na fùck you dey fùck wey we neva fùck before?
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Dheartless: 11:16am On Mar 31|
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by 5thElement(m): 11:31am On Mar 31|
Interesting piece. And even more interesting responses, especially from females.
I agree with the op 100% and I'm a guy.
A man's duty is to protect and provide for his wife and kids. A man who can't do that becomes bitter and takes it out on his wife, blaming her for his inadequacies, (most often anyway).
I'm pretty old school. While a woman may work or not, the man should go out there in the jungle ,bring home the venison for his family, and make sure there's shelter and clothing for them. That's what you signed off on when you asked her parents to release her to your care.
There's this very good feeling that wells up inside of you when you're all gathered around the dining table and you watch your family feeding and you know you're the man.
The woman may work, but her primary duty is even more important than that of the man. Keeping the home is a strenuous and back breaking job, and only the fittest woman can do it successfully while keeping her man.
Great article, op. Thumbs up.
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by tttmar(f): 12:03pm On Mar 31|
Shugarlord213:Please take it easy, don't learn in a hard way by catching HIV.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by tttmar(f): 12:05pm On Mar 31|
Eketem:Please try to control your temper, from your comment you have made me to dislike you.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by crackhaus: 1:31pm On Mar 31|
bukatyne:Every single thing written there was based on conjectures.
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by eniolorunfe: 1:55pm On Mar 31|
There is not a ''one size fits all" approach to any aspect of life and that includes marriage.
Know who you are and act accordingly, you will have no regrets!!!
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Flowers95: 6:35pm On Mar 31|
Like I said most, especially women will not agree with me because it’s not ‘politically correct’ but it’s the truth, and time will reveal it. Show any woman who is in her 50s and up this article and they’ll tell you it’s nothing but the truth. Good luck everybody!
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Advision: 9:07pm On Mar 31|
Madam keep your bitterness to yourself. The world will be a better place without it
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by GoodBoi1(m): 2:12am On Apr 01|
I saw your posts in other threads. You're always pushing for women to marry far older men to the point of labelling others foolish. When did your life become a yardstick for others? You married someone 10-15 years older than you, so what? Is that the security you have in your marriage? I laugh. Even if you're older, I expect you to be wiser than this but from your posts I think you have the wrong mindset. It looks like you're trying to poison people's mind with your negative energy, destroying their happiness. Are you sure you don't have a case of paranoia? Take a look at your post again. Is there any godly advise in it?
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Cadillac15(m): 3:59pm On Apr 01|
Your dislike has made her hungry and finished her data
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Cadillac15(m): 4:03pm On Apr 01|
Your advise is only good for hoe.s and golddiggers. Unfortunately, no man in his right senses wifes such people except by mistake.
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by SmellingAnus(m): 6:12pm On Apr 01|
Shugarlord213:I agree with you that many of them are hoes.. But you are still very inexperienced in the area of virgins... Let me summarize my own story... I have had at least two married women that were disvirgined by their husbands chase me... Being a virgin till marriage doesn't mean she will not cheat on you... Maybe na this area karma wan take visit you ... But you are right... Many of them girls are cheats... I don't even blame them much again after being chased by several married women... Infact.. with what I have experienced, it's better to prepare for the worst when getting married
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|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by Shugarlord213: 6:14pm On Apr 01|
Simple said bruv
I don’t regard them as anything again. Na whitey I focus on now
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by SmellingAnus(m): 6:17pm On Apr 01|
Shugarlord213:hahahha cool... I no get experience for whitey side... But my close friend wey dey into them prefer them to naija babes... It's just alarming the way these girls dey cheat... Some of them go even dey make calls with their main guys when you dey fuc.k her
|Re: My Relationship Advice To The Young Women by mhizsuzzy(f): 9:09am On Apr 02|
Two wrongs can never make a right m
I pray for the virgin girls for you. But hope you will be able to stop your promiscuous attitude after marriage. If you cherish loyalty over everything then she will certainly do. Dont u think so.
How will she feel when she gets to know ur life before marriage. I guess she deserves better than you are offering her.
Goodluck dear till u meet ur waterloo
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