lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

Vision2045:
You left it so late dear.

Introduction day came and done, you didn't run away, you allowed the merriment cloud your heart.

The wedding day came followed by probably a court thingy, the clergy man read out some words to you, and you recited with him and at the end of that covenant said "Yes I do" to all the terms, a day before then you never followed your heart you followed your parent.

Now some months after, you want to break the heart of the poor man,in the name of now listening and following your heart.

I will be straight with you and hit the nail on the head, you are a cheat and what kept the feeling in your head is simply because you are still entertaining your ex,cut all ties with him and ask your hubby for a two weeks vacation, just both of you, try to live in the moment with him and be open to his sincere love, share beautiful moments together, get to know him more, just forget about the fake feeling and feel real with him.

Sometimes love don't just develop fully, in some relationship it grows and when well nurtured it blossom.

Please allow yours to blossom with your partner and please desist from your parent excuse and stop the blame displacement. they wanted it and you succumb not because they forced you but because you wanted it as well, if not you would have stood your ground and confront their decision, if you can't then so where is the strength to face them with a divorce descion coming from.

I pray you understand my little advice use it and you will be good.

But first of all cut all tiles with your ex...block him on WhatsApp, on Facebook, unfollow him on twitter on Instagram, on snap chat, block his number with true caller, if he calls with another number tell him you are married and be a good wife to your husband,

But above all the Yoruba says and I translate, you can force the donkey/horse to the stream but your can't force it do drink from the stream.

God is with you.

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

Kinggnicole:
Go ahead with the divorce if that's what you really want.

Next time don't act like a baby. Put your foot down and make decisions based on what you want.

focus7:
You and I know it that

1. You are only lying against your ex to hold him responsible for your actions.

2. That yes your parents may not put up a restrain against your decision but it is not their that made you took the decision but your greed.

3. That your parents didn't support your marriage to ex is another lie just add up to your excuses to make your reasons stronger. If they didn't support you marrying him before going to abroad is now that you are married and in abroad they are now supporting you breaking up with your husband to marry the ex.

4. That you never loved anyone but that you are a gold digger. The only reason you are now not loving your husband again is because the realities is now obvious to you that all that glitters are not gold, you have now seen more prospect in the man in Nigeria than the obodo oyinbo husband.

Having made the above points i must tell you that if you go back to your ex you won't last with him because he will treat like a trash that really are, you have lost your values and dignity.

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."