I am currently helping a colleague plan his wedding.
To my biggest surprise, his bride-to-be deliberately left out her attractive/cute friends in her bridal train.
When asked why she left them out - She said she doesn't want to be outshone on her own WEDDING DAY.

Ma question is. . . . . .Is this a general trend in Naija brides or a one-off?
Should this act of placing one's own needs above the needs or desires of others be allowed?
Naija sisters, abeg. . . . . .I need answers.

It's her day, isn't it?

stillwater:

It's her day, isn't it?

No question. . . . .It's her day!!!
But why would a bride sacrifice her own bridal train so she can look good.
She's already hitched. . . . .Why not give the single ladies their own opportunity to showcase their beauty?

This particular bride is so selfish to the point of choosing a useless dress code for her bridal train.
WTF is that about?
I tire for una Naija babes o.

~Sauron~:

No question. . . . .It's her day!!!
But why would a bride sacrifice her own bridal train so she can look good.
She's already hitched. . . . .Why not give the single ladies their own opportunity to showcase their beauty?

This particular bride is so selfish to the point of choosing a useless dress code for her bridal train.
WTF is that about?
I tire for una Naija babes o.

What's with the Naija babes this and that comments?
For that, I'll use wowor babes for my own, if you don't like it go and hug a mopol officer.

stillwater:

What's with the Naija babes this and that comments?
For that, I'll use wowor babes for my own, if you don't like it go and hug a mopol officer.

I won't be surprised.
12 Kemistrys in your bridal train so you can look like a Beyonce. Classic!!!!

dude u are so right. my sisters friend who recently got married, figured she could not get rid of my sister and her friends on her bridal train, so instead she made them look like chukys bride in dresses most housegirls wouldnt wear to sleep   while she looked stunning  

hescool:

dude u are so right. my sisters friend who recently got married, figured she could not get rid of my sister and her friends on her bridal train, so instead she made them look like chukys bride in dresses most housegirls wouldnt wear to sleep   while she looked stunning  

But why do women take this route?

~Sauron~:

But why do women take this route?

it beats me maybe they can answer

~Sauron~:

I won't be surprised.
12 Kemistrys in your bridal train so you can look like a Beyonce. Classic!!!!

Lol, a girl's gotta do what she's gotta do.
On a serious note, it's both insecurity and selfishness.
One of my mom's worker's was a bride's maid and the bride asked all her bride's maids to do one ridiculous hairstyle like that. But these girls did another hairstyle. On the wedding day both bride and bride maids did the same hairstyle. The bride was so furious. My mom's worker was like ''you u done find husband, I never find''.

stillwater:

Lol, a girl's gotta do what she's gotta do.
On a serious note, it's both insecurity and selfishness.
One of my mom's worker's was a bride's maid and the bride asked all her bride's maids to do one ridiculous hairstyle like that. But these girls did another hairstyle. On the wedding day both bride and bride maids did the same hairstyle. The bride was so furious. My mom's worker was like ''you done find husband, I never find''.

Jesus. . . . . . .This story takes the cake.
10 Gbosas for the bride's maids abeg. . . . . .They followed their heart

~Sauron~:

I won't be surprised.
12 Kemistrys in your bridal train so you can look like a Beyonce. Classic!!!!

oh ma God

hescool:

dude u are so right. my sisters friend who recently got married, figured she could not get rid of my sister and her friends on her bridal train, so instead she made them look like chukys bride in dresses most housegirls wouldnt wear to sleep   while she looked stunning  

that got me laughing so hard

~Sauron~:


Jesus. . . . . . .This story takes the cake.
10 Gbosas for the bride's maids abeg. . . . . .They followed their heart

Most beautiful women won't bother. These brides should channel their energies to their make-up artistes instead, since they need everyone girl in the room to look down trodden, they would certainly need 100 layers of foundation to outshine everyone in the room.

~Sauron~:

But why do women take this route?

We Love to be the centre of attention!  
Having anatha Lady [even mama] get all the compliment and attention,
Plus causing heads to turn on ma day isn't smile-inducing.
Like they say - ''Prevention is cheaper . . . ''

one secret rule wedding among sisterhood, no lady should be allowed to look more gorgeous than the bride on her day. shes the only one allowed all the attention and no its no insecurity or selfishness.

stillwater:

Most beautiful women won't bother. These brides should channel their energies to their make-up artistes instead, since they need everyone girl in the room to look down trodden, they would certainly need 100 layers of foundation to outshine everyone in the room.

I wonder o. . . . .

Missy B:

We Love to be the centre of attention!  
Having anatha Lady [even mama] get all the compliment and attention,
Plus causing heads to turn on ma day isn't smile-inducing.
Like they say - ''Prevention is cheaper . . . ''

Missy B, it is your day - 10000 Beyonces cannot take away your compliments and attention.
You are the one in white. . . . .You are the one the whole guests came to see.
Why deprive your maids? It's grossly unfair.

~Sissy~:

one secret rule wedding among sisterhood, no lady should be allowed to look more gorgeous than the bride on her day. shes the only one allowed all the attention and no its no insecurity or selfishness.

Who made this rule? Queen Jezebel herself or who?
I am supposed to be the best man of this wedding ceremony but i am beginning to consider walking out of the whole schiznit.
Sauron is not standing next to Kemistry, abeg.

~Sissy~:

one secret rule wedding among sisterhood, no lady should be allowed to look more gorgeous than the bride on her day. shes the only one allowed all the attention and no its no insecurity or selfishness. 

Why are there no rules with men? Women and their wahala
You think I'll answer any woman that gives me crap to wear as a bride's maid?

stillwater:

Why are there no rules with men? Women and their wahala

Nail collides with the Hammer.

stillwater:

Why are there no rules with men? Women and their wahala

~Sauron~:


Who made this rule? Queen Jezebel herself or who?
I am supposed to be the best man of this wedding ceremony but i am beginning to consider walking out of the whole schiznit.
Sauron is not standing next to Kemistry, abeg.

its the gene in us. all eyes on that day should be on the bride not on the dead gorgeous bridesmaid that may distracts the attention of men including the groom

~Sissy~:

its the gene in us. all eyes on that day should be on the bride not on a the dead gorgeous bridesmaid that may distracts the attention of men including the groom

So in a nutshell, you will do the same as well?

~Sissy~:

its the gene in us. all eyes on that day should be on the bride not on a the dead gorgeous bridesmaid that may distracts the attention of men including the groom

Women sha!!! The groom and his men usually wear the same suit color, he doesn't even fuss. But for the bride, you as a guest sef can't even wear white. The white is enough to set her apart from everyone but na lie she still takes it further by reducing her maids finess with nonsense hairstyles and dresses.

A woman should learn to hold her own in the midst of beautiful, gorgeous girls, of which I'm an expert at.

stillwater:

Women sha!!! The groom and his men usually wear the same suit color, he doesn't even fuss. But for the bride, you as a guest sef can't even wear white. The white is enough to set her apart from everyone but na lie she still takes it further by reducing her maids finess with nonsense hairstyles and dresses.

A woman should learn to hold her own in the midst of beautiful, gorgeous girls, of which I'm an expert at.

you know women na.  some bridesmaid can be tempting though and do intentionally try to out due the bride. so i dont blame the bride

~Sauron~:

So in a nutshell, you will do the same as well?

as a member and a believer of the core sisterhood principles, had it be me i wouldnt make them look ugly per se, but one thing is for sure aint nobody going to be looking more fly than me. its my day and i make the rules. and i own all the attention

~Sissy~:

you know women na.  some bridesmaid can be tempting though and do intentionally try to out due the bride. so i dont blame the bride

as a member and a believer of the core sisterhood principles, had it be me i wouldnt make them look ugly per se, but one thing is for sure aint nobody going to be looking more fly than me. its my day and i make the rules. and i own all the attention

U are a meanie!

@post

to each their own.

am not really a big fan of a bridal train with so many 'participants'. left for me, it will just be my husband-to-be and i at the altar.

bridesmaid will prolly be my sister while i will handpick few of my young cousins to wear gown and coffetti or whatever it is called. my friends will have to make do with swiss voile aso-ebi.

if the bride sticks to this, then she has nothing to worry about anyone trying to outshine her  

why should she be worried about such in the first place sef. thats just plain insecurity

funkybaby:

@post

to each their own.

am not really a big fan of a bridal train with so many 'participants'. left for me, it will just be my husband-to-be and i at the altar.

bridesmaid will prolly be my sister while i will handpick few of my young cousins to wear gown and coffetti or whatever it is called. my friends will have to make do with swiss voile aso-ebi.

if the bride sticks to this, then she has nothing to worry about anyone trying to outshine her  

why should she be worried about such in the first place sef. thats just plain insecurity

Funkybaby, don't be stingy with your man o.

mama-gee:

That's Nigerian women for you!

They think everyone has some bad intentions for them or cooking up something evil.

Mamagee, are you handpicking worwor bride's maids on your wedding day?

funkybaby:

@post

to each their own.

am not really a big fan of a bridal train with so many 'participants'. left for me, it will just be my husband-to-be and i at the altar.

bridesmaid will prolly be my sister while i will handpick few of my young cousins to wear gown and coffetti or whatever it is called. my friends will have to make do with swiss voile aso-ebi.

if the bride sticks to this, then she has nothing to worry about anyone trying to outshine her  

Lol, like your style jare

why should she be worried about such in the first place sef. thats just plain insecurity

at the surface it sure do appear to be insecurity but its quite more complicated than that.

mama-gee:

That's Nigerian women for you!

They think everyone has some bad intentions for them or cooking up something evil.

No dear. this is not one of those "nigerian women" stuff. its everywhere

~Sauron~:

U are a meanie!

Lol. you cant blame us. we know what we're up aganist

^^^

So you are saying it's not selfishness nor insecurity?
What is it then?

4 real?and i'v never observed ths?I'v been chief BM 2a friend ds year and I ddnt hv any feeling she was insecure or selfish.I was looking very good on dat day.I'l be observant frm now.Thnx 4ds knowledge

~Sauron~:

Funkybaby, don't be stingy with your man o.

ok. mo ti gbo

~Sissy~:

Lol, like your style jare

na so jare.