yet was so upset because you traveled and spent time with another guy (friend)

stuffs4me:


Hmmmmm! girls! one of a kind. did u actually expect him to jump up for joy because u went somewhere and 'rolled in the hay' with some other dude?
well, u cant always eat your cake and have it all the time

SA Goddess:

The man wants you to leave him alone while he thinks about what he wants to do with you, he may have decided already and you missed all the signs, read between the lines girl. Your dude chose his words well to avoid breaking your heart but it seems you are not hearing what he is saying, leave him alone, if he is yours, he will come back to you, no need to chase after him, he is a grown man who knows what he wants and right now, it is a break from YOU! Don't contact him, deal with your emotions and anticipate he may be gone for good, prepare for the worst so you won't get hurt if he does not come back!

I hope the above will give you something to think about,

Lacrissa:

traveled and spent time with another guy (friend) that happens to like you.

You've just made it easier for your bf to end it with you. I hope that's what you wanted and you're happy?

^{Seriously, why would I be happy that my gf went to holiday with another dude, when it's not as if we're swingers, smh}

Faher:


You've just made it easier for your bf to end it with you. I hope that's what you wanted and you're happy?

^{Seriously, why would I be happy that my gf went to holiday with another dude, when it's not as if we're swingers, smh}

Lacrissa:

But you asked for a break right?

Lacrissa:

What does it mean if a guy tells you during a so called break that you are not even giving him time to miss you, yet was so upset because you traveled and spent time with another guy (friend) that happens to like you. He said he was not happy with it maybe if it was a girlfriend that's different and then I told him that I am ready to hear the worst, that he should just tell me he does not want anymore and let's break up, he keeps saying No, that let him think through and I am not giving him time to think or even miss me.

I am getting confused. Should I be patient or end it myself?

big father:

Just becus he said he wanted a break,then you too a hike with another guy and you want him to to hug and jump all over you ? Gurlfriend, you've simply asked yourself out of the game.

hollandis:

She doesnt LIKE him.Geddit

Faher:

Let's say you asked for a break and you still had feelings for me. Then I went and vacationed with another chick, that'll be insulting to you and would make you want to end the relationship (even if you never planned to).

put your foot in his Nikes and you'll see that what you did was wrong.

big father:

like who ? d other guy or her boyfriend ?

hollandis:

Are you a LovePeddler?

hollandis:

It is obvious she doesn't like her bf.She wants him to break up with her OFFICIALLY and FINALLY

big father:

Just becus he said he wanted a break,then you too a hike with another guy and you want him to to hug and jump all over you ? Gurlfriend, you've simply asked yourself out of the game.

makajibbz:

true spit, the break means,they're things goin on wit his life that he wants to solve or family trouble,
break doesnt mean vacation with a handsome dude who liks you, i hope he 4gives you!

Faher:

Let's say you asked for a break and you still had feelings for me. Then I went and vacationed with another chick, that'll be insulting to you and would make you want to end the relationship (even if you never planned to).

put your foot in his Nikes and you'll see that what you did was wrong.

Lacrissa:

Ok so what would I be expecting you to do? Sit down in your room and be crying, while I make decision? Leaving you confused?

tolutara:

Lacrissa, Lacrissa, Lacrissa

I believe I have called you 3 times,

Girl, you are behaving like an unfinished and uncultured girl instead of being a lady.

A lady who respects herself and claims she loves this man will give him the time to think about his future with you. he has said as much,but you conveniently looked for an opportunity to hang with a dude that likes you and taking stuff from him (basically taking advantage of that Guy's feelings) but you want your feelings to be respected . No wonder he is cooling his heels with you. He can see he is not dealing someone matutre.

You are  not even smart enough to keep your mouth shut but you  told the man you are trying to keep you with another guy??( what exactly were you trying to achieve by tell him)?? , are listing to yourself at all . Then you have the audacity to ask him if he wanted to breakup. If he was smart, I hope he does.


I remember people here on NL told you give him the time he needs to make up his mind, but no, Lacrissa did not hang out with her girlfriends but instead a dude  or better yet, look inward and see if there was somethings she did to contribute to the issue at hand. She is there asking dumb questions .

Girl, you really have no business dating right now. You need to mature some more as you will only hurt yourself and others in the process, IMO.


So to your question if you should end it yourself, Newsflash Girl, you already did. Hope you are happy

Faher:

^^^ You've said it all, Tolutara



You sound quite immature (no offense intended). What you should have done is wait, If you have to audacity to run off with someone else every time you have a dispute with your bf, then you shouldn't be in a relationship 'cos your future relationships will be tougher than this one. If you keep running off, you'll be forever single . ^{Just my 2 cents}

Lacrissa:


Ok as harsh as you both sound, I understand where you are coming from. It was a job offer I got, which I told him I would not be in town for few days but kept in touch all through and I am already back. I did not run off with any dude. I still assured him, it was him I wanted while I wait but at the same time unsure If I'm prolonging my disappointment. I agree I should not have told him but it is a mistake, never to be repeated again.

tolutara:

MS B,

u No see wetin I see,  na we ladies go dey say, men this Men that, gosh!!!!!, no wonder Men are not being honest with ladies anymore.

Dude said he needed a break not a break up, !!!! What she needs to do is to have him define the break , how long and the rules that govern it and
determine a time when the will review their time apart and make a decision how to forge ahead either separately or jointly.

Nenum:

hmmmmmmmmmmmm.

well said Tolutara.

but i dont tink she did wrong telling the guy the truth.
cuz if after cooling his heels they get back 2geda n he latter finds out (dnt wanna imagine the outcome)

@poster, if he is yours he would come back. (and trust me i adore your honesty, as lying is one tin i can never take)

if i am asked to choose btw a LovePeddler and a lie teller (trust me d LovePeddler has just got a new bobo)

tolutara:

Maturity is Key word.

Missy B:

According to her, the man is 12 older than she is.
Little wonder the Dude wants a break. I'm sure he couldn't put up with her jejune behavior anymore. 

While You're in a 'break' process with John, You're sleeping at Peter's place.
Hello?!! One would expect You to be doing some rumination as well.

Why does he want a break? - Important question You shoulda been busy cracking.
You people sef!! 

tolutara:

MS B,

u No see wetin I see,  na we ladies go dey say, men this Men that, gosh!!!!!, no wonder Men are not being honest with ladies anymore.

Dude said he needed a break not a break up, !!!! What she needs to do is to have him define the break , how long and the rules that govern it and
determine a time when the will review their time apart and make a decision how to forge ahead either separately or jointly.

Missy B:

Ma Dear . . . . .  the poster, as well as her boyfriend, is confuse!!!
The Girl is always in one trouble or anatha, with her man. Na she get Boyfriend pass? 

You said it all in Your previous comment . . . .Welldone!

which girl? referring to me??

Faher:

Learn from your mistake

Nenum:

hmmmmmmmmmmmm.

well said Tolutara.

but i dont tink she did wrong telling the guy the truth.
cuz if after cooling his heels they get back 2geda n he latter finds out (dnt wanna imagine the outcome)

@poster, if he is yours he would come back. (and trust me i adore your honesty, as lying is one tin i can never take)

if i am asked to choose btw a LovePeddler and a lie teller (trust me d LovePeddler has just got a new bobo)

Absu:

:DJust having la1/2 day here.Think d poster is nt planning about settling down due 2 2much age on her side

Lacrissa:

Missy B please take it easy.

Lacrissa:

I've learnt my lesson.

@poster: well regardless of what happens, please try to kip dis honest trend of urs and always say everything.