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I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 1:14am On May 30, 2010
ahahahhaha
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Flashfast1: 1:40am On May 30, 2010
For the simple reason that you are planning to KILL an innocent child over your domestic, unfounded and baseless dispute with your girlfriend makes it to be totally wrong.
Pally you are talking about murder abortion here angry angry angry angry If you finally go ahead with your plans to kill the baby, I hope the baby hunts you and the girl all the rest of your lives angry angry angry angry angry angry angry
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by olas2u: 1:44am On May 30, 2010
The devil you know before is better than a new one.How are you so sure of the next girl.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by hollandis(f): 4:37am On May 30, 2010
how are u sure the child is yours?she slept with 6 men while going out with u.lawd hammercy
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Africanqueen2(f): 5:28am On May 30, 2010
Hmmm. . . What u don't know won't kill you o. Assuming u mind ur biz and face the girl u would be happy but no u have to know if she's cheating now see the result. . . The child is innocent to all this so abortion is not an option. You love the girl right? Take care of her and the baby. If u still doubt her after she put to bed do a DNA test to know if the baby is Urs.
But the girl sha. . . 6guys! Yish.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by AYODEJI4LOVE(m): 5:38am On May 30, 2010
pls dont abort d child
ask her 4 d true owner of d baby.if d baby is yours,my dear brother pls be ready 2 accept d baby bt if not urs tell her 2 giv d baby 2 d owner.since she said she av change dat all dose time ar time of unknown & u also notice d changes in her,y nt acept her back who knows d devil known is beta dan an unknown angel.did u knw wat d next girl may also do.pls tink about it.make her promise wit sincerity nt 2 b unfaithful again.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Odunnu: 6:22am On May 30, 2010
There are many families 2day goin thru childless marriage all because of an abortion back in d days.Boyfriend,plz dnt abort dat baby u might end up childless in life.
Allow her have the baby and if u insist on not taking responsibility,get in touch with me,i'l keep it safe.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 7:13am On May 30, 2010
I'm not ready to abort the child either, if i start thinking the way she has lied to me all this make me get angry and think of aborting the child and leave her. she has date this 6 guys before getting to know me and i know they will be more than that cus she lies alot. I'm really really confused now and i don't what to do and i have never never in my life abort pregnancy in my life.

All i'm asking now is that should i accept the pregnancy and pretend to marry and later divorce her l;ater?
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 7:14am On May 30, 2010
hollandis:

how are u sure the child is yours?she slept with 6 men while going out with u.lawd hammercy

she has already date this people before getting to know me
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Tinksh(f): 8:06am On May 30, 2010
Dis she sleep with these 6 guys before she was with you or while she was with you? Either way, please dont make the choice to kill an innocent child for your mistakes. You will pay later. Be smart.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 8:29am On May 30, 2010
she has date 6 different guys before i know her.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Tinksh(f): 8:39am On May 30, 2010
ok, so how does that affect you? Sorry i am just trying to understand. If they where before you then what is the problem? If she slept with any one of them while she was with you i would say, dump her butt. But if you got her pregnant and she has been faithful while with you then i dont see the problem.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by justwise(m): 9:23am On May 30, 2010
seedord247:

she has date 6 different guys before i know her.

Please please and please stop being silly. . what on earth are u going on about? She dated those 6 guys BEFORE you met her, did she tell you that she is a virgin when you met her? How many girl have you slept with b4 you met?

This is utterly nonsense! Why are you putting her through this? She is preg and need you support for God sake!!
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 11:01am On May 30, 2010
justwise:

Please please and please stop being silly. . what on earth are u going on about? She dated those 6 guys BEFORE you met her, did she tell you that she is a virgin when you met her? How many girl have you slept with b4 you met?

This is utterly nonsense! Why are you putting her through this? She is preg and need you support for God sake!!

I'm not been silly neither silly, there is this thing in her that make me feel she still cheat on me when first met her and i often ask her that time, are you dating any other person and she said no. She was once pregnant for me around January this year and i told her not to abort it and she later went and abort it giving me silly excuse that her father want her to getting married before pregnant and that time i want to end the relationship, her mother and her sister started begging me that i should forgive and forget even my friends but now why can't she go and abort it herself.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Odunnu: 1:49pm On May 30, 2010
Guy,ds ur tory don get bowleg.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by chichi34(f): 2:44pm On May 30, 2010
When the love is still there and both of you have the money to raise up this child,why not keeping the pregnancy.

Everybody can do mistakes.It is only the trust is distroyed.Can you still trust her?

Does both of the parents know about it?What do they say?

Can you be sure,if the baby is yours?
You have to do a DNA test.That is for sure.Will you still like to stay with her,when the test shows that you are not the father?

Think very well about all these thing.Because it will be the child who will suffer it later.

Sometimes abortion could be the solution.Choose a good clinic.Everything will be okay.

Good luck.

Chi-chi
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Toonice(m): 2:54pm On May 30, 2010
@ poster: 1st i don't trust the girl she slept with 6men and what is the assurance that u are the owner of the pregnancy.

My Advice for u is that don't do the abortion yet took her to GOOD and SOUND hospital and do the baby screening may be

u are the real biological father. if the result prove that u are the real father then let her give birth to it and take it from her.

But if the result prove otherwise just ask her to look for the right owner of the baby. I rest my case.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by justwise(m): 3:07pm On May 30, 2010
Toonice:

@ poster: 1st i don't trust the girl she slept with 6men and what is the assurance that u are the owner of the pregnancy.

My Advice for u is that don't do the abortion yet took her to GOOD and SOUND hospital and do the baby screening may be
u are the real biological father. if the result prove that u are the real father then let her give birth to it and take it from her.
But if the result prove otherwise just ask her to look for the right owner of the baby. I rest my case.

Did you ask the poster how many women he slept with b4 meeting his gf? Or only men are allowed to sleep with more than one woman b4 settling down?
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by justwise(m): 3:12pm On May 30, 2010
seedord247:

I'm not been silly neither silly, there is this thing in her that make me feel she still cheat on me when first met her and i often ask her that time, are you dating any other person and she said no. She was once pregnant for me around January this year and i told her not to abort it and she later went and abort it giving me silly excuse that her father want her to getting married before pregnant and that time i want to end the relationship, her mother and her sister started begging me that i should forgive and forget even my friends but now why can't she go and abort it herself.

Now you are shifting the goal post, she aborted ur baby in Jan and you did not end the rela/ship or start using condom, you went ahead and got her preg again and suddenly remember that u need to find out about her past history?

Why not tell her straight up that u have finished using her and now want her out of ur life? Tell me you were a virgin when u met that poor girl?
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 4:12pm On May 30, 2010
To me i will I'm the true owner of the pregnancy cus we have intimacy at least five times a week and she sleep my place sometimes at weekend when is Dad is not around. What am asking now is that should i abort the Pregnancy or take the child and leave her cus i'm still someone who could truely love me.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by seedord247(m): 4:23pm On May 30, 2010
justwise:

Now you are shifting the goal post, she aborted your baby in Jan and you did not end the rela/ship or start using condom, you went ahead and got her preg again and suddenly remember that u need to find out about her past history?

Why not tell her straight up that u have finished using her and now want her out of your life? Tell me you were a virgin when u met that poor girl?

I'm not a virgin when i met her and you are not in my shoes to know how it pains, Telling Lies is one of her hobby and i need some one who could bring up children in a proper way.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Toonice(m): 4:28pm On May 30, 2010
@ justwise any man can Bleep or marry more than one woman, but any lady that try it is ASHAWO i mean a prostitute. Goodluck
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by mayor007(m): 5:47pm On May 30, 2010
Why abort the preg when you know you are the father of the unborn child? Just let her give birth to the child, support her. You don't have to marry her but then just give her another chance. We talking about the potential mother of your child here. Go for DNA if you are not satisfied. I think there is more to this your story jare.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by boomii(f): 6:11pm On May 30, 2010
I thot they invented condoms so as to avoid these sticky situations angry angry angry

So if you've got AIDS are you are gonna kill yourself ?

Please think before you act and let the unborn baby live,you can do a paternity test later.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by stuffs4me(m): 7:22pm On May 30, 2010
Why not tell her straight up that u have finished using her and now want her out of your life? Tell me you were a virgin when u met that poor girl?
d guy has just used and dumped her, now he wants nailanders to justify a bad thing
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by hazureal(f): 7:44pm On May 30, 2010
From ur post, i can deduce dat u dont trust d lady and u're somewhat tired of the relationship. My take on askin questions about past relationships: 1. It may not have any bearing on d present relationship. 2. Even if d above is true, d answer might still bother u. 3. If d number of past intimate partners is bad, ur partner may most likely lie about it. 4. Leave d past, unless it's a health issue. Anyway, Please dont abort the baby. Even if u're not goin to marry her, try ur best to support her. I understand ur anger, but take time to cool off and if u still love her, continue wit her. By d way, none of u were virgins when u met, so let d past be.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Gbemyte(f): 7:55pm On May 30, 2010
World dominatd by men.@poster did u tel ha d numba of girls u slept wit? U said she dated 6 guys b4 u,nt afta she met u,dnt giv ursef unnecesary hasle. Let d baby live, acept ha. Wen d time comes d truth wil b reveald. Guys nd ladies dnt dig too much odawise u wil c wat u ar nt supose 2 c.
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by invisible2(m): 8:29pm On May 30, 2010
You sef dey try, to bilala the babe five whole times in a short week since January is great o. Share your secret to us na? Viagra? Magani burantashi?
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Akinagirl(f): 8:36pm On May 30, 2010
Can someone help me. I dont understand the issue here. You said she dated 6 or more men BEFORE she met you? What is the problem? Is it the number of men she slept with thats not making you trust her? How many women have you slept with? Should you be judged by the same standard? If she is faithful to you and you are sure that this is your pregnancy, then why not let her have the child? I mean there are a lot of childless people out there that would love to have a child and you are just throwing the babies away. That would be baby number 2.

Listen. You dont have to marry her. Just accpet the child and move on with your life. Poster I honestly fail to see the issue. I dont beleive you have an issue.  undecided So stop giving yourself high blood pressure over such a tiny irrelevant issue and grow up, be a man. Take care of that woman and your child.

Also, what happened to condoms and birth control?
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Mayflowa(m): 8:40pm On May 30, 2010
what is this? She didn't say she was a virgin, why then are u quivering. I can imagine how many  gals you had slept with befor meeting her! You are a bully, intimidating her with juju. She doesnt deserve you. You are the bad person here. I'm sure she doesnt probe into your past the way u rabbiting her about. She has taken you for whom you are and now you have refuse to accept her and your baby even letting u put her in the family way without doing the needful(marriage). She must trust you so much to even let you know the truth about her past while knowing the consequence for the kind of person you are. Do you know what girls and boys do before marriage? some sleep with as much as 60 partners and there better half still get to love, respect and appreciate them. it  seems  you dont really love her as you professed. plz if u are tired of her, plz do send me a mail with her number to satz5000@yahoo.com. am sure i could work something out with her. grin  wink  smiley
 
Re: I Need Your Urgent Advice Pls by Kunbee: 10:10pm On May 30, 2010
Dont kill the baby

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